My first experience with being "over the top"

missgooseyface

Ugh.  In addition to everyone at BILs house being sick...MIL is also sick.  She was supposed to stop by tomorrow but we have told her because she is sick that it will have to wait until after she is feeling better.  I was talking to my aunt and telling her about it (and how my MIL was trying to play it off like she wasn't sick which REALLY pissed me off) and my aunt said "I think you are being a little over the top".  I explained to her that no, I am not being over the top...it is the middle of flu and RSV season and it is not worth LO ending up back in the hospital.  I also said that even if she was FT, she still would only be a month and a half old and we probably wouldn't risk it in that situation either.  She still thought I was being too overprotective about it and that pisses me off.  I was actually about to cry when she was telling me I was over reacting.  Of course she threw in that I "am the mother and she respects my decisions" but I am still mad.  People just don't understand.  They don't know what it's like to have a baby int he NICU...it is the last place anyone ever wants to end up back in again especially when it is preventable.  Ugh.  Preemie parents are the only ones who understand.

DrRx

I agree with CurlingRocks.  You did everything right.  RSV and flu are out in full force, earlier than anticipated.  We even have to compound Tamiflu because we can't get enough from the manufacturer for the kid's formulation.

I know how hard it is when people don't understand, especially family members.  DH's brothers and their wives don't really get it.  DH's mother used to not get it, until she saw Adalyn have one of her brady episodes during a feed (about 3 weeks after we got her home) and how she turned blue, we had to turn up the oxygen, etc.  Now, she gets it.  She may not understand it, but she realizes that she doesn't know anything about having to deal with a baby that was in the NICU and doesn't try to tell me what she would do. 

As hard as it is, you've got to let it roll off of you and just know that what you are doing is the best thing for your baby.  GL and Merry Christmas!

pamelamelanie924

I've been the exact same way with people. I don't care if it makes them mad, it's my child and I don't want her to have to be back in the hospital. You'd think people would have more sense and respect, but they don't. You're not being over the top. You're being a good mom.  

Shauna07

You'll just have to ignore the people (and there are lots of them!) who don't get it.  I agree, they all don't know what it's like having a LO in the NICU.  My friend even had her son at full-term the same week I had my daughter at 31 weeks, and her son got RSV when they got home and went back into the hospital for a week.  He was full term!  Just stay away from the sick people and if someone in their home is sick -- your baby comes first -- before other peoples feelings