strange?

morsey2011

I just noticed a present to my DD under the tree that my ILs brought down. They wrote it from my sisterinlaw. She passed away 3 years ago. Strange?

KrisM86

A bit strange unless maybe it was something of hers they want LO to have, or something she'd been saving for your kids.

LCass

Definitely unusual, but I think it's kind of a neat idea.  I would imagine they want your DD to know about her aunt, even if she'll never meet her.

HappyAardvark

KrisM86:

A bit strange unless maybe it was something of hers they want LO to have, or something she'd been saving for your kids.

this. I think this is an especially hard time of year for anyone who has recently lost someone close. I might side eye a little, but I'd never judge. I'm sure they are just sad that SIL never got to be a part of dd's life.

missyishere

It may be a little odd with DD being so young. I will probably give DD gifts in the future passed down from my Mom, but I will include they're from me. I will explain to her where they came from in order for her to understand the grandma she never got to meet.

stardust317

Yes.

morsey2011

I am not judging, but it really bothers DH. And I find it odd, but would never tell them that.

LCass

morsey2011:

I am not judging, but it really bothers DH. And I find it odd, but would never tell them that.

If it bothers your H, then he needs to talk with them about it.  They need to come to some kind of understanding so that your ILs and your H feel comfortable with how your DD will "know" her aunt.

morsey2011

LCass:

morsey2011:

I am not judging, but it really bothers DH. And I find it odd, but would never tell them that.

If it bothers your H, then he needs to talk with them about it.  They need to come to some kind of understanding so that your ILs and your H feel comfortable with how your DD will "know" her aunt.

I agree. But that would require him to actually tell them how he feels about something, which he never does. Drives me crazy.