Would you tell hubby? NBR

TriciaChick

I got a xmas card addressed to me (not family) yesterday.  It was from a guy friend I had in highschool.  It was long filling up both sides of the card saying how much he misses me and wishes he could see me when he wanted.  Said I will always be one of his favorites and that I am an "amazing woman."  He did also reference me being pregnant for the 4th time (we are friends on fb) and how lucky my boys are....Maybe he was just being nice and I am looking into it too much?

My uestion is do I tell hubby about the card or just throw it away to not make him upset?  This friend I know had always sort of had a thing for me but i NEVER felt the same for him. I have not talked to him for quite a while so this was sort of out of the blue.  From fb I see he has a girlfriend now too.  WWYD??  thanks so much girls!!

MechanicMama1

I would tell him always better to be honest

crunchymnm

I would tell him.. because honestly if I hadn't talked to someone in that long and then got a card in the mail like that, it'd probably weird me out a bit..

drtarajp

i would tell him. by not telling him, it makes you seem guilty of something, even though you arent. hopefully, he will just get a good laugh out of it- i mean, who sends out a Christmas card like that to a woman who is married with 4 kids?! 

NicoleSB80

I'd tell hubby and unfriend him on FB. 

mngildersleeve

I would tell him. I agree it can seem like you may be trying to hide something even though your not. It is a bit strange but he could very easily be just trying to be friendly maybe you could even send a card back, from family of course!

Ooglybear

NicoleSB80:

I'd tell hubby and unfriend him on FB. 

I agree. 

NativeFloridian

Honesty is the best policy.  Plus, I'm getting a weird vibe from all the way over here.  Your hubs should know in case there's ever a need for you to be protected, or to keep an eye out.  I mean, I don't know this other guy, obviously, but that really is a bit strange.

StarBe

crunchymnm:

I would tell him.. because honestly if I hadn't talked to someone in that long and then got a card in the mail like that, it'd probably weird me out a bit..

This^ I would be a bit creeped out and want DH to know - he would probably thinks it's creepy too or funny :P

colleenh01

drtarajp:

i would tell him. by not telling him, it makes you seem guilty of something, even though you arent. hopefully, he will just get a good laugh out of it i mean, who sends out a Christmas card like that to a woman who is married with 4 kids?!nbsp;

This.

Lhyacinth888

I'd tell my hubby. I don't really think it's that creepy depending on the circumstances. I have a few old male friends say things like that and don't think it's weird. And maybe he only addressed the card to you because he's never met your family? My hubby would probably gently tease me about it but really it's just a card. That being said I know I don't know the whole story between you and old friend so maybe it is creepy!

tondraluv

MechanicMama1:

I would tell him always better to be honest :

Yes I would tell him because if this happened to him I think you would want him to tell you.

RussianMommy

i'd throw the card away and pretend it never happened

BoatsNHoes

How would you feel if the roles were reversed and your husband didnt tell you about receiving that kind of card/note? There's your answer. Andplusalso, I agree with nipping it in the bud. Either defriended or seriously limit the details this man can see about your life/marriage/children. That is not normal behavior.

JanessLynn

Ooglybear:

NicoleSB80:

I'd tell hubby and unfriend him on FB. 

I agree. 

This!

Bink720

MechanicMama1:

I would tell him always better to be honest

This!

Enigma11

I would tell him, but I cannot keep anything from DH. We tell each other everything. The card sounds like he got drunk and nostalgic, I'd show it to DH and then throw it out.

kimmarie1105

Tell him. If you don't it looks like your trying to hide something you're guilty of. Also, either delete him as a friend on FB or alter what he can see about you. 

Fremdschamen

I'd tell him-- keeping it from him might imply to some people that you reciprocated this guy's feelings, which you obviously don't! 

TriciaChick

Sorry I went to bed early last night so just reading all your replies.  I appreciate your feedback and you are right if the situation were reversed I would DEFINATLY want him to tell me.  I will for sure tell him then throw it in the fireplace lol.  This guy even wrote on the outside of the envelope "Warning mushy stuff inside!" Uggggg.  Makes me wonder why I was ever friends with him.  He lives in CA now (Im in MI) so I NEVER see him nor do I have a desire to.   I think he probably was drunk when he wrote it.Thanks again everyone.

JSS1002

I would tell him.

If the roles were reversed, I'd want my husband to tell me.

So I could scratch her eyes out. Hahahaa.

Poochie22

BoatsNHoes:

How would you feel if the roles were reversed and your husband didnt tell you about receiving that kind of card/note? There's your answer. Andplusalso, I agree with nipping it in the bud. Either defriended or seriously limit the details this man can see about your life/marriage/children. That is not normal behavior.

I agree with PP, I would tell your husband and either unfriend the guy or limit what he can see. Some of the things are uncalled for. If he knows you are married and knows you have kids, a card like that should have never been written. Just a Merry Christmas to you and the family is more than enough. You would get the message there that he still considers you a good friend because he took the time to write that simple yet thought card.  

BrittKav

Glad to hear you plan to tell him. I think that's the best choice.

agytay

Haven't read the reponses, but definitely tell.

BTW, how did your high school friend get your address if you don't talk frequently?

hatroopes

agytay:

Haven't read the reponses, but definitely tell.

BTW, how did your high school friend get your address if you don't talk frequently?

This is what I was wondering as well. If he googled you or looked it up on the yellow pages, then that is definitely creepy. Un-friend and block him ASAP! 

And definitely tell your husband! 

akraxner

This sounds like something that happened to my mom.  She will occasionally...and I mean once in a blue moon...get an email, card, phone call, or even a gift from one of her ex boyfriends.  My mother has been married for 38 years!  She didn't tell my dad about it because she thought it was harmless, but eventually she thought he seemed a bit depressed and unstable and told him just to be safe.  Everything was/has been fine, but it was kind of creepy and my father was not real pleased with the guy. 

ahenry143

double and triple agree!