introverts?

Helmet3311

Any other introverts HATE the idea of announcing their pregnancy?  We're announcing this weekend after yesterday's NT scan.  I've told my parents but that was easy because they are fairly unemotional.  We are going up to visit the ILs tomorrow and I know they're going to scream, cry, and be generally over-emotionaI. I DREAD the idea of bringing attention upon myself.  I know it's just that others are happy for us, but I just wish everyone wouldn't make a big deal about it.   I know it sounds crazy, but I felt exactly the same way with DD1. 

MissDei

I'm an introvert and found it a little overwhelming at first. I wasn't good at coming up with creative ways to announce it to people, so I would just say 'I have some news to tell you...I'm pregnant'...and let the rest take care of itself. Now that first trimester is over, I'm about to announce it on Christmas on facebook and get it over with lol...I find that I have just TOO many people to tell individually and it's exhausting trying to do so...lol...thanks to my husband being an extrovert and him knowing everyone, I told him it's impossible to tell everyone individually. I've given myself about 2-3 weeks to get used to the idea of all the fuss...I'm the same woman that went and eloped because I didn't want a wedding. so...I feel your pain.  

musicalsilver

*Definitely*

Fortunately I'm married to a big time extrovert - so he's done most of the talking.  I just kind of stand there and smile awkwardly.

 So I can totally relate!  Good luck dealing with very effusive people this weekend! 

melissa0726

I'm not so much of an introvert, but I really dreaded telling people (not parents and immediate families, just friends/co-workers) when I was pregnant with DD. I was afraid - and rightfully so - that it was an invitation for people to start prying with all sorts of personal questions.  Suddenly everyone, even people you don't know very well, think it's perfectly acceptable to discuss you, your body, and your feelings - it was just weird to me!

Temp53431437508241

Oh my god YES!! DH and I both are pretty reserved. I just felt like it was this personal thing, and why did I need to tell everyone, you know?

At one of his family parties last week, he announced by showing his half-brother his new "app" on his phone. It was an U/S picture. Then everyone started catching on. Pretty easy. Now his mom's side of the family next week. Oh boy, that's going to be chaos! Those are the screamers, squeezers and kissers. And I can't even drink to get through it!

theroadahead

100% yes! That's why I "wanted to get it over with" as horrible as that sounds. I don't like everyone fawning over me!

SummerSnow11

I love this question! I have definitely been feeling this way and I am very much an introvert. I've even had a hard time telling family for no other reason than this. And it's funny because once people know I have no problems talking about it or answering questions, I am fine with all of that. It is the telling that I don't like. It's nice to hear others feel this way. Yea!

kh59

I have a hard time telling people at all, but I have an equally hard time imagining making some kind of "official" announcement via a Christmas card or email or facebook or whatever.  We live a long way from our families, so we told our parents over the phone.  I am SO glad that both my mom and my in-laws took it upon themselves to tell our whole extended families, and I'm hoping that I've told enough friends around town and people at work individually that the news will just kind of get out there without my help from here on out.  It's not at all that I don't want people to know--I just feel so awkward bringing it up because it's such a sure way to stop any other conversation or get-together dead in its tracks.  I was the same way when I was engaged.  I just hoped that everyone was quietly noticing I was wearing a ring.  Turns out they weren't, and then a bunch of people gave me a hard time for "keeping it a secret," which I didn't really mean to do.  Oh well.

aesthyerin

Definitely an introvert. While telling family has been easy and fun I find it very difficult telling other people. It just isn't obvious yet and it's a weird thing to bring up out of the blue. It's not like I routinely have conversations about babies and am able to say "speaking of that..." It's all been very weird and awkward.

peachnectarine

I am dreading telling coworkers and non immediate family. I am hoping if I tell one coworker, it will spread and I won't have to tell everyone else. But I am also dreading the obligatory hug and bunch of questions. I am also hoping that our parents/grandparents spread the word to our Aunts/Uncles/cousins. I get a stomachache thinking about making a big announcement to a roomful of people. I just wouldn't do it. I HATE being the center of attention and everyone watching me.

CynthiaC1213

Yes! I hate being the center of attention, so I will be hoping for a small, family only baby shower.

People paying attention to me just makes me feel awkward, like I should be directing their attention elsewhere or something. 

MissDei

yes I hate being the center of attention too! I was able to escape it when I got married by doing the courthouse wedding (and never followed up with a bigger ceremony either)...but won't be able to do so with the baby :-( hubby comes from a large family, all of whom I love DEARLY, and again, since hubby is the one who knows everyone...I'm afraid we won't be able to escape having a mid-size or even large baby shower :-(

 

At least, I'm not the one commanding all the attention, it's the baby :-) I try to look at it that way...still hate all the fuss though! 

daisy19782011

oh yes it was...I am so glad it is over and I had MH announce for us...