I hate to admit it, but it has gotten so out of control.
My 3.5yo step son has become more and more violent. As he's getting older, he's getting more complex &stronger feelings, but still has no way to cope with them. We get notes home from daycare, and even got a phone call it's been so bad.
Here's the multiple times a day cycle:
He gets mad/jealous so he hits/punches/pushes/kicks. He gets in trouble - talked to, set in a chair for a "quiet time". If any kid walks close, he'll hit them because he's mad he got in trouble. Or if there is anything near him, he'll throw it. Then he gets in even more trouble, getting even more mad... Today he was so mad about having to sit on "quiet time" that he peed the chair out of revenge! Gah!!
He's not so bad at home. But there's also a whole lot less kids at home to set him off. And when he does hit, he goes straight to his room if he's bawling and screaming (because I don't want to hear it), or to the time-out chair. Timer set at three minutes. No exceptions.
I feel like I've tried a million things, and I'm just at a loss as to what to try next as far as discipline. What would you do if this was your kid? How do you make your kid behave at daycare/school the way they do at home?
Secondly... I don't have much to compare him to... is this just a phase some boys go through? Or is this excessive, and probably time to get some therapy?
TIA.
Re: Embarassing - Violent 3yo
Sorry you are going through this. Hugs!
Is he behaving like this at home/with others too or just at school?
He gets somewhat out of control when he's around other kids, like his cousin who's the same age. He's been quite a bit better around his cousin in the past 6 months or so, but we've also been much more conscious about making sure there are doubles of toys, and finding things they can do together.
I'm wondering too, if DC just isn't the right match. I know his teacher is slowly finding good outlets for him, like art time.
I think we will talk to his pedi about possible counseling, since with the issues with his mentally ill mother, it's probably not a bad idea anyways.
could it be a SPD issue? this sounds like a kid i know who is getting therapy for sensory issues. overstimulation can be really bad and set off the whole day...
good luck!