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JaysonandKristin

C'mon girls, don't tell me you're all still trying to make Santa's NICE list!?!?!

 

 

JaysonandKristin

Looking at Duff's Xmas tree picture yesterday made me ever so happy that we only got the boys one present each this year.  

We have so much crap (despite the fact that I regularly purge and donate).  I can't imagine the chaos that would ensue if we had that many gifts.

 

countrywed

I got a daycare one too- I took him to daycare this morning and I knew he had a poopy diaper before we left

MrsCase1

I hid from my sick baby because I thought I was going to explode into tears myself. 

Suesse2009

JellyBellyStar:

I posted on another board about eyebrow threading. nbsp;A few people never heard of it which is fine, but what I don't get is why you wouldn't be willing to look into it. nbsp;If you get your eyebrows waxed then threading shouldn't be that big of a deal. nbsp;I get it if you don't get anything done to your eyebrows, but otherwise come on give it a chance. nbsp;nbsp;Based on the above you'd think i'm some fanatic about eyebrow threading which I AM NOT. nbsp;I need to take a break from being on the computer. nbsp;

I have seen threading but would never have it done. The ladies were holding the thread in their mouths while they are doing it. I find that gross.

Rachey1082

Suesse2009:

JellyBellyStar:

I posted on another board about eyebrow threading. nbsp;A few people never heard of it which is fine, but what I don't get is why you wouldn't be willing to look into it. nbsp;If you get your eyebrows waxed then threading shouldn't be that big of a deal. nbsp;I get it if you don't get anything done to your eyebrows, but otherwise come on give it a chance. nbsp;nbsp;Based on the above you'd think i'm some fanatic about eyebrow threading which I AM NOT. nbsp;I need to take a break from being on the computer. nbsp;

I have seen threading but would never have it done. The ladies were holding the thread in their mouths while they are doing it. I find that gross.

I get mine threaded. I am hairy and wax irritates my skin. I use tweezers when I can't make it to the Indian ladies.

melissa0726

Mrs Case:

I hid from my sick baby because I thought I was going to explode into tears myself. 

I did the same thing this week, to DD and my husband.  It's been a horrible week, a person can only take so much!

NativeFloridian

I'm late to the game, and this is going to be a bit of a tl;dr reply.  But here goes!

I hate the way every mother gets a guilt trip every time there's a tragedy involving the death of children. You know, those heart-wrenching "I wanted to yell at my kid for leaving his socks on the floor again but then I remembered the kids who died and I hugged him instead" things that go around.  Excuse me for being crass, but how does that tragedy have anything to do with how I typically raise my children? I could go on and on about this, but let me just use one or two examples:

YES, I do get mad when my daughter makes a huge mess, and if I were to go around cleaning all of her messes all of the time (as it is I clean half of them) I would be in constant back and hip pain and she would never learn how to clean her own messes. So yes, I make her clean up her messes and will continue to do so, and if she cries then too bad. I'm not going to suddenly make my daughter stop cleaning her messes because she could die at any moment and I'll feel guilty about making her cry. I'm going to thank her and give her a hug when she's done and feel the gratification of knowing I'm raising her into a responsible person who will function well as an adult.

YES, I get frustrated when my toddler throws all of my folded laundry onto the floor every time, without fail, as soon as I turn my back. Or when she continually crumples or rips important papers, or cries incessantly while I scramble to figure out what's wrong. If I have to put her in her playpen or crib for a while so I can cool down and put things right again, or grab the Orajel, or whatever, I shouldn't have to feel guilty about it. I need a break, and sometimes that is going to make my toddler cry. But we're both better off if I do what I need to do because it means I'm not going to lash out at her in my anger. And when I come back for her, I am going to give her a kiss and a hug and make her happy again.

So do me a favor, people who are circulating the "OMG I'll never yell at my kid again and I will hug them forever!" crap. STOP IT. You're guilt-mongering. You're encouraging parents to interrupt their normal care routines and the disciplinary techniques that will help their children grow in responsibility just so their kids never have to "suffer" in case they die early. Just because a parent doesn't coddle their kid doesn't mean they don't appreciate their kid, there's a world of difference.  It's nonsensical and I, for one, don't appreciate it.

WashingtonQueen

XP from Aug '13

My In-laws are such a-holes that we have discussed not telling them that I am pregnant. In August we will just be like, "By the way, we had a baby."

Probably not going to happen that way but, we have thought about it. Haha!

ladybugpjb

WashingtonQueen:

XP from Aug '13

My In-laws are such a-holes that we have discussed not telling them that I am pregnant. In August we will just be like, "By the way, we had a baby."

Probably not going to happen that way but, we have thought about it. Haha!

I saw an episode of A Baby Story ages ago where the couple didn't tell. I can't remember if they called them from the hospital, or if they waited until after they'd gone home. Their families were pretty upset and confused, and the whole thing seemed weird. They had some really strange reason for not telling them, but I can't remember what it was.

Totally not criticizing you - it just reminded me of that show and made me chuckle.

NativeFloridian

LalaMama81:

NativeFloridian:

I'm late to the game, and this is going to be a bit of a tl;dr reply.  But here goes!

I hate the way every mother gets a guilt trip every time there's a tragedy involving the death of children. You know, those heart-wrenching "I wanted to yell at my kid for leaving his socks on the floor again but then I remembered the kids who died and I hugged him instead" things that go around.  Excuse me for being crass, but how does that tragedy have anything to do with how I typically raise my children? I could go on and on about this, but let me just use one or two examples:

YES, I do get mad when my daughter makes a huge mess, and if I were to go around cleaning all of her messes all of the time (as it is I clean half of them) I would be in constant back and hip pain and she would never learn how to clean her own messes. So yes, I make her clean up her messes and will continue to do so, and if she cries then too bad. I'm not going to suddenly make my daughter stop cleaning her messes because she could die at any moment and I'll feel guilty about making her cry. I'm going to thank her and give her a hug when she's done and feel the gratification of knowing I'm raising her into a responsible person who will function well as an adult.

YES, I get frustrated when my toddler throws all of my folded laundry onto the floor every time, without fail, as soon as I turn my back. Or when she continually crumples or rips important papers, or cries incessantly while I scramble to figure out what's wrong. If I have to put her in her playpen or crib for a while so I can cool down and put things right again, or grab the Orajel, or whatever, I shouldn't have to feel guilty about it. I need a break, and sometimes that is going to make my toddler cry. But we're both better off if I do what I need to do because it means I'm not going to lash out at her in my anger. And when I come back for her, I am going to give her a kiss and a hug and make her happy again.

So do me a favor, people who are circulating the "OMG I'll never yell at my kid again and I will hug them forever!" crap. STOP IT. You're guilt-mongering. You're encouraging parents to interrupt their normal care routines and the disciplinary techniques that will help their children grow in responsibility just so their kids never have to "suffer" in case they die early. Just because a parent doesn't coddle their kid doesn't mean they don't appreciate their kid, there's a world of difference.  It's nonsensical and I, for one, don't appreciate it.

I was trying to come up w/ a way to post this on the FFFC here on on SAHM but couldn't thing of a way to say it w/o sounding heartless. I have a few friends who have posted stuff like this and I just don't know how they live if this is so debilitating to them. They talk about how they feel so guilty for disciplining their kids now b/c "at least they have theirs." The one woman seriously seemed on the brink of a major depressive episode. Believe me, I was sad; I cried, I was angry; I ranted. But, I still put my daughter in time out. 

It's so hard, having to tiptoe around this issue, because the tragedy is still so fresh and painful.  But honestly, we're not doing our kids any favors by letting them get away with everything and not imparting any discipline in their lives.  It kills me, it really does, that any mother should feel guilty for trying to raise a responsible child.  It's not hurting your child to expect them to be disciplined and responsible, it's helping them.  Yeah, it means you have to deal with tears and "it's not fair!" and time-outs and lost tempers, but there's nothing wrong with that.

And for younger children, like my toddler, parents have to expect that there will be moments when what baby wants doesn't align with with mom and/or dad need to do, and when that time comes the parents should NOT feel guilty for placing baby in a safe environment until whatever needs to be done is done and then going back to get them.  Yes, it means tears and screaming and baby being upset, but it's good for mom and dad to get things done that need to be done, and good for LO to learn that sometimes he'll just have to hang on a bit and that mommy and/or daddy will come and get them when it's done.

And I fail - completely fail - to see how this tragedy translates to failure to encourage responsibility in children.  The two are not related!  Especially because it's entirely possible to teach your children to be responsible AND show them affection and appreciation.  I just don't get it, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

BlueJewelM

Rachey1082:

Suesse2009:

JellyBellyStar:

I posted on another board about eyebrow threading. nbsp;A few people never heard of it which is fine, but what I don't get is why you wouldn't be willing to look into it. nbsp;If you get your eyebrows waxed then threading shouldn't be that big of a deal. nbsp;I get it if you don't get anything done to your eyebrows, but otherwise come on give it a chance. nbsp;nbsp;Based on the above you'd think i'm some fanatic about eyebrow threading which I AM NOT. nbsp;I need to take a break from being on the computer. nbsp;

I have seen threading but would never have it done. The ladies were holding the thread in their mouths while they are doing it. I find that gross.

I get mine threaded. I am hairy and wax irritates my skin. I use tweezers when I can't make it to the Indian ladies.

I love getting my eyebrows threaded!  Waxing makes me break out a lot and I cannot be trusted to tweeze my own...I'll end up going to far and looking funny!

NotSharknado

ladybugpjb:

WashingtonQueen:

XP from Aug '13

My In-laws are such a-holes that we have discussed not telling them that I am pregnant. In August we will just be like, "By the way, we had a baby."

Probably not going to happen that way but, we
have thought about it.
Haha!

I saw an
episode of A Baby Story ages ago
where the couple didn't tell. I can't
remember if they called them from the
hospital, or if they waited until after
they'd gone home. Their families were
pretty upset and confused, and the
whole thing seemed weird. They had
some really strange reason for not
telling them, but I can't remember what
it was.

Totally not criticizing
you - it just reminded me of that show
and made me chuckle.

I saw that episode, they didn't tell because the last time they were pregnant the baby didn't make it.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

I woke up Friday morning at around 4AM and started wondering "What if the Maya were right?" I'm ashamed to admit it but that did keep up for half an hour.