Loss CheckIn

Mrs Nice

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to our Thursday checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

fluttergirlmoonchild79

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

Get through Christmas, my birthday and new years.  no real plan other than feeling what I feel

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them?

Horrible.  Can't believe this is our 2nd Christmas without Corbin. 
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Everything I need to do to get ready for Christmas.  We're hosting at our house for the first time and MIL is crapping all over everything nice or my family related I try to do.  Also trying not to think about how horrible it's going to be to have 3 kids and 4 adults other than DH in our house when we wake up Christmas morning because DH's family thinks it's best for them to stay the night Christmas eve - they only live like 30 minutes away.

jrebele

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 

No - just a lot of steps back 

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Start individual therapy QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them? Not the greatest - I thought this time of year would be much different and it is hard readjusting my expectations  

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? sophia and how much I miss her 

OSUWifey09

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I kinda have, actually. I'm not a deeply religious person, by any means, but I do have my beliefs. Yesterday, some friends from my church came over and helped me look at things in a different light. I've been struggling lately with the "Why me, God, why?" bit, and they helped put things into a perspective. I feel so much better now. I feel like I'm on the path to acceptance.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? If I can make it through Christmas, I'm gold.

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them? It's been a struggle. Doesn't help that I have several friends who will be celebrating first Christmases with their little ones, and I won't be doing that with Devon. I've just been keeping busy and trying to remember my little perfect angel and not all the bad stuff.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I just want it to be 2013 already. I'm so over 2012. This has been the hardest year of my life, and I am desperate for a new start. I'm desperate to see my husband again, desperate to really start TTC...I just want to put this year behind me.

karebear57

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

Make it through Christmas. This year is so much harder, this would have been her first Christmas. I hate seeing all that 'first christmas' crap in the stores. 

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them?

Not good. Every day is more of a struggle. I miss Bri.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

I miss Bri so much, I've even slept with her urn occasionally. Trying to be in the Christmas spirit for the boys but it is so damn hard. 

starburst0928

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 

Nope!  Much like many of you, I've taken steps back...

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? 

Lose 8 more pounds to finally get to pre-Bradley weight.  Diet and exercise.

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them? 

Horrible.  I've done basically nothing at work all week but cry at my desk.  

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

I just want to have my little boy back.  I was originally excited to TTC again, but I don't think becoming pregnant again will make me feel better.  All I want is Bradley back. 

Noethola

Its my first check-in.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?  I have started a journal to/for Elsie (memories during pregnancy and L&D memories, and memories of the hours we had with her little body).

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Tomorrow is the memorial service. Just wanting to get through that.

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them? I was planning on still being pregnant and seeing the holidays go by knowing it meant we would see each other's faces soon. Today is the first day I have mostly felt ok, but its still moment by moment. 

calibride2005

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No, not anything that I haven't done already. Just keeping busy I guess.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

To get a new job.  Yes, I have a plan and an interview 1/8/13.  If I get it, we will be moving to Phoenix as the job starts 1/28/13. 

QOTW: The Holidays are really hard for a lot of us, how are you doing so far in the days leading up to them?

 I am getting extremely emotional and angry.  Why the anger? I really do not know...but I find myself looking at my little girls pictures more and more as Christmas gets closer.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Not much...just getting through this next week.