14 month old and tantrums

nursesrh

So...lately DD has taken to having tantrums when the answer is no. How long does this phase last??? We have been trying to ignore and redirect. Any other suggestions?

ladybugpjb

It lasts for about another 17 years. (Just kidding...sort of.)

DS's tantrums are short-lived and mild. He'll sit down in the middle of the floor and start to wail, and I'll pick him up and say something like, "Mommy doesn't listen to tantrums," or "We don't have tantrums in this house." Eh...whatever. He usually moves on pretty quickly when I redirect, so I'm guessing I haven't experienced a real tantrum yet.

If he gets upset easily, it's usually because he's hungry or tired, so I try to keep on top of that.

mbgreenwalt

We redirect and if that doesn't work we ignore the behavior.  Any attention is positive attention when they are throwing a tantrum so we don't reward it.  

Like pp said, monitor hunger and tiredness.  Those two things will cause a tantrum at the drop of a hat with my girls.

12bailey18

DD also has tantrums, which is something DS never had so it's all new territory! DD hates to be redirected when we tell her no. She would rather just stand there and scream or throw herself on the floor. We ignore a lot and that seems to help the most. I think a lot of her frustrations is that she can't talk yet, can't do a lot of things her brother can do so she gets worked up very easily. I'm hoping as she gets older and finds her words it won't be as bad. Emphasis on 'hoping.' LOL. 

PayolaCrayola

12bailey18:

DD also has tantrums, which is something DS never had so it's all new territory! DD hates to be redirected when we tell her no. She would rather just stand there and scream or throw herself on the floor. We ignore a lot and that seems to help the most. I think a lot of her frustrations is that she can't talk yet, can't do a lot of things her brother can do so she gets worked up very easily. I'm hoping as she gets older and finds her words it won't be as bad. Emphasis on 'hoping.' LOL. 

My DD is the same! i just walk away and she stops pretty quickly...the worst are the car seat tantrums...she hates being buckled in and then, of course, she hates to get unbuckled lol

law&order

Crash Into Me:

Ignoring is the best tactic.  I also taught DD how to sign please.  If she starts throwing a tantrum or whining for no real reason, I ask her if she needs something.  If she signs please, I can usually narrow her need down to food or water. 

This has been a lifesaver for us. My son's first sign was "help" and it saves a lot of frustration.  When he's on the verge of a tantrum I ask him what he wants and to "use your words" and he will use a sign to indicate what he wants. 

SkyBee

DS's tantrums are very short and not often, so when they do occur, I ignore the behavior and never give in to what he is throwing the tantrum for.