Okay I'm judging..

ChrisG83

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DH and I went out to eat tonight and a few tables away from us was a girl with a very small baby definitely no older than 6ish weeks. The baby was crying when we got there and still crying when we left. At first it was on and off but then it was consistent and I just think maybe if the baby is having that hard of a time through the whole meal maybe wrap up your meal to go and head home or go out to eat earlier when you know it isn't a fussy time. I just felt bad for the little guy.

ilovehouses

Enh, sometimes it's hard to stop the order etc.  I think she probably would have been better off addressing why the baby was crying in the first place.

At six weeks they are still pretty simple.  Hunger, wet diaper or sleep deprivation.   

Mrs.G123

If you had time to sit, order, eat and check out, they had time to deal with their meal/check out and GTFO. No way could I sit with my crying infant that long. I would have had to leave!!!

christinasullie37

Some times its hard but I would have definately dealt with thw crying. Nif I c ouldnt stop it then I leave. I cant stand listening to a screming baby kn public and I wont expose others to it either.

elfchique

This could be a mom with a baby with colic and this was the less fussy time. She could have been trapped in her house with someone screaming at her hours per day and just needed to get out. Who knows? Motherhood is hard. Give her a break.

[Deleted User]

This is why I hate going out. I live in fear of being judged because my baby cries. Even my husband's family judges me when she starts crying, like I'm doing something wrong. If she starts crying in public I usually just get up and leave after like 5-10 minutes if I can't get her calm. It sucks.

samsterrr

I judge if I can tell the parents aren't dealing with it, but babies cry and sometimes there is nothing you can do. Just like toddlers throw fits and most of the time you cant pause everything to deal with it for 10 minutes. Although I probably would have gone outside or to the bathroom until the baby calmed down.

AadensMommy2010

I can't stand sitting there if my baby is crying.  I know someitmes it's out of your hands but I always try to get up and walk around or walk outside if the baby is super fussy.

bal05

MrsNorry:

I live in fear of being judged because my baby cries. Even my husband's family judges me when she starts crying, like I'm doing something wrong.

 

I hate this, but know what you mean. If I could do something to stop the crying I obviously would! It frustrates me with my inlaws, because when my daughter is upset it seems like it's something I haven't done correctly "Oh your mom didn't feed you, you're cold, you're too tired, etc"...yet when she's happy they say "oooh you're so happy to see your grandma!"...never oh you're happy because you have a great mom who's doing things right!  

ChrisG83

MrsNorry:

This is why I hate going out. I live in fear of being judged because my baby cries. Even my husband's family judges me when she starts crying, like I'm doing something wrong. If she starts crying in public I usually just get up and leave after like 5-10 minutes if I can't get her calm. It sucks.

For us it was just the fact that such a small baby was crying through a whole meal and the mom never once try to do anything. It was tough to watch a baby cry and she never picked her up to console her or maybe feed her or just hold her. That seems like a long time to ignore a crying baby.  

Sarelnad

I almost never judge other people's parenting anymore. Unless its unsafe. You just never know what the whole story is. 

Rachelilly23

ChrisG83:

MrsNorry:

This is why I hate going out. I live in fear of being judged because my baby cries. Even my husband's family judges me when she starts crying, like I'm doing something wrong. If she starts crying in public I usually just get up and leave after like 5-10 minutes if I can't get her calm. It sucks.

For us it was just the fact that such a small baby was crying through a whole meal and the mom never once try to do anything. It was tough to watch a baby cry and she never picked her up to console her or maybe feed her or just hold her. That seems like a long time to ignore a crying baby.  

I think this is where the problem is. If you're trying

everything to console the child, that's one thing. If you're

flat out ignoring a very tiny screaming baby, that's another.

It's pretty rude to the people around you and total neglect to

the baby.

Starry Again

the fact you only mention MOM should have done something is telling. You should be thankful you have a baby who has a non fussy "safe" time to go out and MYOB.

hboo2011

Starry Again:

the fact you only mention MOM should have done something is telling. You should be thankful you have a baby who has a non fussy "safe" time to go out and MYOB.

Maybe I missed something, but who else should have done something besides the mom? I didn't see OP mention a Dad there, if that's what you meant.

I am in the boat of not judging (even pre baby) a crying baby or the parents. However, from OP's post, it does sound like the mom ignored the crying baby the whole dinner. Which, IMO, ignoring isn't acceptable. At least pick up the child, offer a bottle/paci, etc.

jenmccon

It makes me stabby when parents let their infants scream like that. I totally get if baby is fussy for a few minutes. But when they are going on minute 20 and up, and they are not stopping, PICK UP YOUR MOTHERFLUCKING BABY AND COMFORT THEM!!!! Gahhh pisses me off to no end! Ok sorry for the rant. I feel better. lol

jlr1988

MrsNorry:

This is why I hate going out. I live in fear of being judged because my baby cries. Even my husband's family judges me when she starts crying, like I'm doing something wrong. If she starts crying in public I usually just get up and leave after like 510 minutes if I can't get her calm. It sucks.

This is exactly how I am, minus the whole DH part.

My dad took us out to dinner at a fairly nice restaurant a few weeks ago and I was mortified when baby H started fussing. He was fine, just slightly fussy. I didn't not enjoy myself, nor was I enjoyable to be around because of it.