i hate when DH lets her cry

Mrs.RockyM

I hate when DH let's her cry

I'm all for letting her comfort herself, and I don't immediately run, but I'm upstairs watching tv with DD1 and he's watching football with DD2 downstairs and she's been crying for 5, maybe 10 minutes. I'm trying so hard to let him do his own thing, and not always swoop in to do things my way since it was a constant argument with DD1, but it's killing me to listen to her cry like that when I know he's just sitting in the couch and just wants her to shut up so he can watch the game.

UGH!!!!!!!!

Kellogg06

Ugh! My DH does this too. Then he sits there asking him what's wrong. I try not to swoop in but got goodness sake would it kill him to pick up LO? Sorry no advice except you're not alone!

Olivebeinmamma

DH still hasn't figured out that the things that worked for dd don't really work on DS. Should be interesting when I go back to work tomorrow!

suzienickles36

Mrs.RockyM:

I hate when DH let's her cry

I'm all for letting her comfort herself, and I don't immediately run, but I'm upstairs watching tv with DD1 and he's watching football with DD2 downstairs and she's been crying for 5, maybe 10 minutes. I'm trying so hard to let him do his own thing, and not always swoop in to do things my way since it was a constant argument with DD1, but it's killing me to listen to her cry like that when I know he's just sitting in the couch and just wants her to shut up so he can watch the game.

UGH!!!!!!!!

This literally happened to me 15 min ago. I went to the bathroom and dh is sitting on his computer with the game on and I can hear LO crying in his swing. I waited to see what he would do then had to come out and say... Are you going to pick him up or play with him? And he was like uhh he was just stirring. No he wasn't then he picked LO up and of course he's still crying and dh says see I should have just left him. Ugh what the hell is wrong with them?

Mrs.RockyM

I came in after putting DD1 to bed and he just handed her to me and said "your turn" I asked where her binky was, put it in and she was quiet in less than a minute. He was so irritated!!!!

Starry Again

Yeah this would not be ok at my house when they are this young. I recognize that if they are screaming constantly for hours on end you sometimes need a few minutes to pee and grab a sandwich, but if you are just sitting on the couch and the baby wakes up crying there is no excuse to me for not getting over there fairly quickly. My daughter is 3 months and I have yet to have a time when she isn't crying for a reason, even if the reason is just needing to be comforted.

I am so mad reading this. 

Rachelilly23

Starry Again:

Yeah this would not be ok at my house when they are this young. I recognize that if they are screaming constantly for hours on end you sometimes need a few minutes to pee and grab a sandwich, but if you are just sitting on the couch and the baby wakes up crying there is no excuse to me for not getting over there fairly quickly. My daughter is 3 months and I have yet to have a time when she isn't crying for a reason, even if the reason is just needing to be comforted.

I am so mad reading this. 

I'm with you 100%. And I'll add that DH is the exact

opposite. He is so bothered by the sound of crying

that he'll pick him up almost immediately. He claims

that there's always a reason to the crying and a way

to stop it. I think he takes it a little far, but both my kids

are very easy, mellow, happy children so we must have

something right :P

alyson686

dotmbc:

Starry Again:

Yeah this would not be ok at my house when they are this young. I recognize that if they are screaming constantly for hours on end you sometimes need a few minutes to pee and grab a sandwich, but if you are just sitting on the couch and the baby wakes up crying there is no excuse to me for not getting over there fairly quickly. My daughter is 3 months and I have yet to have a time when she isn't crying for a reason, even if the reason is just needing to be comforted.I am so mad reading this.nbsp;

I agree. Somewhere along the line dh got it in his head that babies shouldn't be held all the time. I have explained to him over and over that is B.S. and doesn't apply at this age. Unfortunately some of our older relatives have made comments to the same affect, so he feels like his opinion is supported. He is getting a little better, but we still have arguments that basically consist of me yelling "PICK HIM UP" over and over.

It's the same way for us, though it seems to be getting a little better. My DH has good intentions, but he definitely doesn't always agree with how we should handle things.

schafer17

Kellogg06:

Ugh! My DH does this too. Then he sits there asking him what's wrong. I try not to swoop in but got goodness sake would it kill him to pick up LO? Sorry no advice except you're not alone!

Mine does this too!  Don't freaking ask him what's wrong!!  He's not going to tell you!  Just pick him up and you'll figure it out.  I always end up getting mad and doing it myself!

PixelPosy

I understand what you mean about trying not to swoop in and let them do their own thing, but their own thing sucks! My DH has trouble comforting her, and it irritates him that I can do it so quickly. He also gives up after all of 5 minutes of trying and will put her back down while she is still screaming. He has actually said to me that she can cry just as well in her swing as she does in my arms... grrrrr... 

rakle99

I slept on the couch for the first time in our marriage last night because of this.

Mrs_Lady

Hugs know how you feel this would drive me crazy

NWalker1006

I though I was the only one going through this! DH does the same thing. He think the cry-it-out is best. I think its total BS!! He gets so frusterated with her at night when he is  trying to put her to sleep that he just lays her in her PnP and lets her cry, while im trying to clean up the house and do dishes and maybe get a shower in. but that dont happen cause I get angry at him for letting her scream and cry that I end up telling him just to go to sleep and I will handle it all.. I get so mad!

dvladybug

dotmbc:

Mine does it too....I hate it. It kills me that it's basically out of laziness. We argue about it constantly....I can't just let it happen.

I could have written this word for word. 

kplaxco85

I'm sorry, this would make me crazy. And for those who's husbands ask your crying babies what's wrong, next time they ask for dinner because they're hungry ask them " what's wrong" until they go nuts. Then tell them that's the same fucing thing.

cwallac

Mine is the same. Though we don't have cable so he isn't usually watching anything. He'll be on the computer and have her and let her cry. His excuse, "I don't know what she wants. Maybe she wants this." Um... no. Not at nine weeks sorry. I always ask if she is hungry and he'll say, "No, she didn't eat that long ago." When I ask when he never remembers. I am always on him about it and it makes me feel bad but come on DH! She's too little to cry for long!