Floortime Question

Rdmaggie

I have been doing a major concentrated effort with floortime with DD. I may have gone overboard a touch, basically we spend the day "playing" or doing whatever it is that she wants to do, but I am right there with her and interacting. She still has meals and sits in her highchair, still has bathtime and we still take DH to work (something we started to help her understand "bye bye", which has worked). I want to introduce more structured play here soon, but I felt like I needed to gain her interest first and start off slow.

 I'm seeing a lot of positive things from our floortime, but I'm also noticing some other behaviors, and I'm having trouble deciding if they are a result of my near constant attention or if they would have cropped up on their own anyway.

The positive effects:

1. She now wants me near her, and will actively search me out even if it is just to sit with her while she plays.

2. She has started initiating games with both DH and I "Dada where are you", I can tell when she does this that it is not simple echolaia because she will close her eyes or hide herself (this is our version of hide and seek).

3. She asks us to sing songs to her, although her asking is either one word or doing the motion of the song and looking at us.

4. She has two books she will bring to me and will turn the pages and LOOK at me (amazing to me still) and then wait for me to read them.

5. She now says "zat" (whats that) to things that she doesn't already know. For a while she would ask, but it was something she could always answer herself.

What concerns me:

1. Shes always been fine with my mom, but yesterday she wouldn't let her change her diaper. Shes never refused to let anyone do this, and my mom whom she sees quite frequently...thats just odd. It scares me because my mom was babysitting her, and I don't want this to turn into a "No one can take care of me but mom" situation.

2. She now gravitates heavily to me, she told my mom bye bye over and over yesterday and wanted nothing to do with her. She for whatever reason still loves my bestfriend, who she rarely sees. Now I'm wondering if she associates my mom with DH and I being gone...hmmm....

3. Since this entire situation came to our attention I cut out the tv completely on our days home together. Now if DH is home, or we just want to watch a christmas show of some sort her behaviors skyrocket. The tv turns on and she immediately begins running back and forth across the room and flapping...like the tv "on" button is the on button for her behaviors.

So I guess what I'm asking is, am I over doing it? Should I start focusing on structured playtime more? That part is kind of challenging because her ability to focus is so limited. Also, having a true schedule is near impossible due to her sleep issues.

I hope this makes sense...TIA