Everyone keeps telling me we need to start TTC for #2

MommyKayla11

As some of you know, we're one and done. Partially to the terrible PPD I had during Bryce's first year and just personal preference. When DS turned one, all of our friends started nagging us to have another baby. We have told them multiple times that we're done, but they just won't listen.

Any one-and-doners feel this way? 

EDWHIP

We're one and undecided, but I find it annoying that people expect that #2 is around the corner.  It's no ones biz!

MommyKayla11

EDWHIP:

We're one and undecided, but I find it annoying that people expect that #2 is around the corner.  It's no ones biz!

Agreed! 

mrsseguin

I think generally people are just curious.  It wouldn't stop if you were to have 2.  We have two and people keep asking us when were having another.  It is no one's business, but since you've told people your one and done, people should leave you alone!

bluejetta

Yeah I've encountered some of this.  We are 95% decidedly one and done and it seems so wrong of people to ask or imply anything.

luvmyducks

We aren't one and done obviously, but I find it annoying when people do this.  Once DD turned 1, people would ask us all.the.time.  So none of their business.

mama&baby

When I came home from the hospital with LO, people were oohing and ahhing over how cute he was and started asking if we were going to have more kids. I am not sure if they were joking or not.

By the time LO was 6 months, people were making the "oh maybe by this time next year you will be getting close to have a little brother or sister".

I kinda can't decide about a number two and/or three at the moment... but it's no one's business.

laurakaz13

We are one and probably done, but undecided.  I'm 37 so I think people keep their mouths shut, b/c they're unsure about my fertility and age. I don't think I'd be able to stay cordial if anyone was this intrusive with me! 

SharonB222

I relate but for a different reason.  The majority expects it to go the majority way and like it or not - most folks have more than one child (you are the minority) and most folks have children easily (I am the minority), so we are faced with "pressure".  Even close friends (in the majority) can't imagine another way.  Since you've told your friends many times over, I'd whip out the sarcasm or shock factors!  I just googled "one and done" responses and found one I like:  "I can ssure you our sex life is healthy if that is your ongoing concern."

sharinfaith

all the time we get it. 

we had a landlord at a house we were looking to rent try and convince me that absolutely we needed to start trying to have another child.

she then listed the reasons. ugh.

from here on out i just tell people "Oh! You didn't notice? I'm due any day now!"

shuts them up pretty quickly  

Five Months to Plan

EDWHIP:

We're one and undecided, but I find it annoying that people expect that #2 is around the corner.  It's no ones biz!

ditto

NewFamily09

That would be really annoying.  It seems like people sometimes get judged for having only one kid, when really they should be commended.  You're controlling your family size and you are stopping when you have your hands full.  Your son will have so much love and will be fine without siblings.  Siblings are great, but I don't think he'll suffer without any. 

Cebs222

We want more but due to circumstances are choosing to wait a few years ( unless God decides for us sooner) but it is rather annoying for us too. Everyone keeps telling us to make our daughter a playmate, we say that we are waiting and everyone has their responses. It sucks too because i'm so ready to begin trying again and would have loved to be pregnant again- so my mad baby fever makes me upset about not being able to now.. then i turn into guilt because i know we are incredibly blessed to have a baby at all... end rant lol.

but i have a friend who she is one and done and her family is hitting her up hard and making her feel bad. i almost wonder if they will guilt her into a second sometimes.

molisar

MommyKayla11:

As some of you know, we're one and done. Partially to the terrible PPD I had during Bryce's first year and just personal preference. When DS turned one, all of our friends started nagging us to have another baby. We have told them multiple times that we're done, but they just won't listen.

Any one-and-doners feel this way? 

Ugh, I hear you.  DS in 19 months - everyone is asking.  We're one and not sure if we can have a 2nd due to my fertility issues.  Nobody really knows about them.  I'm half tempted just to tell everyone it's not as easy as just becoming pregnant.  Grr. 

sugarbear0524

I was 40 when I had DS and  had a  stroke when he was 7 weeks old, and even that hasn't stopped some people from asking.  Geez people...I'm 41 and getting DS here nearly killed me. I want to watch him grow up, not risk everything to have another child.