Starting a family

MrsD6812

What made you and your DH or SO realize that you are ready to start a family?  What were some of the deciding factors for you?  Or was your pregnancy a surprise?  If it was a surprise, how did you cope with this?

Cindal

We were married for a few years, had our own home with an extra bedroom, a 4 door vehicle, no debt, a good job, and insurance. Dh's age factored in since I had read about the supposed increased incidence of autism in kids who were fathered by men over 35 and Dh is turning 34 in 6 days. And a few months before I turned 25 the 'switch' flipped for me and that clock started ticking I guess.

kiki1978

We were both just in that place in our life where we were ready. We are both older (DH 36 me 34), had a house, two paid off cars, very little debt.  We both want kids and we don't want kids in high school when we are ready to retire!

TiaS16

My husband was ready the day of the wedding...me not so much. I've always wanted to be a Mom, but I wanted to figure out the married thing first.

Well, everyone in our little group of friends was having babies...I got a little baby fever and decided to give marriage a little time and then stop all types of avoiding pregnancy. So... After 6 months I went off the pill and 5 months later we were pregnant, followed by a lot of tests, an emergency D&C and a year of tests to make sure I could even have kids. 

It's ended up that we are expecting our baby any day now...almost 3.5 years after our wedding. It worked out great us everyone else is done having their babies and we are just getting started...a little older than everyone else, but I feel we are in a good place and we will be better parents for experiencing everything we did to get here  

gamergirl522

For us it is get out of debt, own a home, get some savings, enjoy marriage, and for me to lose some weight.

 All that is left is for me to lose some weight... 

Ardmhs83

We wanted to be married, own a home and have secure jobs both school teachers. We also wanted to travel and experience a carefree life...not having to answer to anyone. Having a good financial status was important too.

Once we had that all down...we just knew we were ready, you'll know! I still considered us young though, I had my DS at 26 and my DH was 27. Everything has been pretty good and we will be TTC when DS is 4. I will be a bit older then, but still young enough to be considered safe. Good luck!