is this really awful?

Suern9870

I did our holiday cards late last night online.  It's primarily a collage of the kids, 6 or 7 photos.  We have 3 kids.  It's all pics of just the kids. I'm in one picture, only because I'm holding the baby.  I didn't put any in of my husband because I really didn't think he'd want to be in it.  this morning he saw the photo online and is upset he's not in it.  Of course, when I ordered, and paid for express processing, it's too late to make changes  At this point, I'd have to just toss the original set and redo to a tune of $200.  Ugh. 

MrsGoodkat

That sucks  I probably wouldn't re-do the cards for that price but I'd be doing something REALLY special to help make it up to him.

klondikebar

I don't think it's awful. We only put the children on the cards and if someone had to hold a baby, I'd make DH do it just so I didn't have to be on the card. lol

Really, the card sits out for a few weeks and is either thrown out or stuffed in a box/book. It's not a big deal. People only care about seeing the cute kiddos anyway.

littlemermaid

I can see why he's upset.  If it was only kids then he probably wouldn't of cared but because there was that one pic of you holding the baby he probably feels left out.  Since you already spent $200 I would just keep it as is  but be prepared for his side of the family to comment why he's not on the card.

smerka

A friend of mine once sent out a Christmas card with them at the beach.  She looked all cute and he wasn't wearing a shirt and not so cute.  That image is still burned in my brain and I always wonder how she could be so oblivious.  I think you should redo the cards.  

MommaG123

I wouldn't re-do them because that is a lot of money but I can see why he's upset.  

Wufroggy79

MommaG123:

I wouldn't re-do them because that is a lot of money but I can see why he's upset.  

This.

greeneyed_bride

I think if my husband ordered Christmas cards with pictures of everyone but me, I'd be really upset. Not that my husband ever orders the Christmas cards, but still...

I think at this point, your best/easiest fix would be to take a picture of the whole family, have it printed just as 4x6 prints, and stick one in each envelope along with the card. Yes, it might seem weird to people that you have a card AND a picture, but possibly less weird than the fact that your husband isn't in the picture at all.

As for the pp who said people leave cards laying around and then throw them out: I put all of the cards we get on display until mid January, and then I mount the photo ones on scrapbook paper and put them in a scrapbook. And I know that on Pinterest, a lot of people are passing around the idea of binding all of the photo cards you get together with rings so that you can put them out to look at them each year. So some people do keep them.

JET29

I like the idea of including a picture of the whole family in the envelope.

Also, are you positive it's too late to edit the card? When we ordered ours, they sent us a proof the next day and we could make changes up until we approved the proof. I know every company is different, but it might be worth calling the company to see if they have already been printed/finalized. 

 

klondikebar

greeneyed_bride:

I think if my husband ordered Christmas cards with pictures of everyone but me, I'd be really upset. Not that my husband ever orders the Christmas cards, but still...

I think at this point, your best/easiest fix would be to take a picture of the whole family, have it printed just as 4x6 prints, and stick one in each envelope along with the card. Yes, it might seem weird to people that you have a card AND a picture, but possibly less weird than the fact that your husband isn't in the picture at all.

As for the pp who said people leave cards laying around and then throw them out: I put all of the cards we get on display until mid January, and then I mount the photo ones on scrapbook paper and put them in a scrapbook. And I know that on Pinterest, a lot of people are passing around the idea of binding all of the photo cards you get together with rings so that you can put them out to look at them each year. So some people do keep them.

Yeah, I said throw them out or put them in a box or book. My point is no one is blowing up your photo card and hanging it over the fireplace for years. It's an annual picture card. 

Maybe I'm not taking my christmas cards serious enough;)

RondackHiker

I'd be hurt if it was me. DH and I usually do the cards together, or at least each approve them.

Smootchy

I totally see why he's upset. Not sure I'd reorder or not.... Honestly, I'd probably look for a cheaper one and redo it. People are going to comment on why he's not in it and his feelings being hurt are completely justified.
That's a tough call but I guess a lesson learned. It should be either the whole family or just the kids.

klondikebar

chapski:

I totally see why he's upset. Not sure I'd reorder or not.... Honestly, I'd probably look for a cheaper one and redo it. People are going to comment on why he's not in it and his feelings being hurt are completely justified. That's a tough call but I guess a lesson learned. It should be either the whole family or just the kids.

See if I received a card minus one parent I might think about it for a second. I'd think he was either sick, out of town when the photos were scheduled, holding the camera or didn't want to be in the photo. I wouldn't care enough to comment on it. I'd be like "Hey, the kids look adorable and stick it on the card tree."

J&A2008

Kind of.  I can imagine it will be odd for friends and family to see a card with your whole family except DH.  It would make me wonder what was going on.

Smootchy

KlondikeBar:

chapski:

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See if I received a card minus one parent I might think about it for a second. I'd think he was either sick, out of town when the photos were scheduled, holding the camera or didn't want to be in the photo. I wouldn't care enough to comment on it. I'd be like "Hey, the kids look adorable and stick it on the card tree."

I don't think I'd be the talk of the town but if I sent a Christmas card sans DH, you better believe my inlaws [and prob my family... And probably my close friends] would ask where he was/think it was odd. If DH didn't care or didn't want to be in it, that's different. Because instead of this convo:
mil: "got your card, why weren't you in it?"
DH: "apparently DW didn't think it was important to include me."
Which leave you the Ahole. It'd be:
mil: "got your card, why weren't you in picture?"
DH: "gosh ma, you know I hate pictures..."
Kwim?

klondikebar

chapski:

KlondikeBar:

chapski:

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See if I received a card minus one parent I might think about it for a second. I'd think he was either sick, out of town when the photos were scheduled, holding the camera or didn't want to be in the photo. I wouldn't care enough to comment on it. I'd be like "Hey, the kids look adorable and stick it on the card tree."

I don't think I'd be the talk of the town but if I sent a Christmas card sans DH, you better believe my inlaws [and prob my family... And probably my close friends] would ask where he was/think it was odd. If DH didn't care or didn't want to be in it, that's different. Because instead of this convo: mil: "got your card, why weren't you in it?" DH: "apparently DW didn't think it was important to include me." Which leave you the Ahole. It'd be: mil: "got your card, why weren't you in picture?" DH: "gosh ma, you know I hate pictures..." Kwim?

I guess I just don't care enough about christmas cards. I wouldn't think about it enough to bring it up a friend or family member in the first place.

LowTalker23

Next year only have DH on the Christmas card. Boom. Problem solved.