Right under my nose

Tiredbabymomma

My ex and I were together for nine months and he was always telling me how much he loved me and how different I was when he broke up with me I was crushed he said he just wasn't happy anymore and felt I had no ambition for the next few months we kept sleeping together on and off and he explained once I got my life together we could get us back over the next few months we would fight about him hearing things about me being with other people and behaving badly at a party when I found out I was pregnant I was shocked and didn't know how to tell him he said he would support any decision I made when I told him I wanted to keep it he told me I was selfish he felt I was trying to trap him and begged and demanded I had an abortion I decided against it and he said that would be the end of us romantically but he would be there for the baby fast forward he insist he wanted to come to a doctors appointment I scheduled it around his schedule and he was still almost an hour late and missed most of the appointment to which he just blamed traffic and couldn't see why I was so upset I had driven three hours with terrible morning sickness to make that appointment and for it to be convienant for him but still he was late the next few months we spent going back and forth between arguing and just barely getting along to him one day saying he wanted to sleep with me which thankfully I didn't now I'm seven months along and I was speaking to a friend from where I used to live who blurted out that he has been sleeping with a friend of mind since before I was even pregnant I was so shocked and upset not because I wanted him back but bcuz I didn't understand why he felt the need to string me along and sleep with us both at the same time when I confronted him it took a while but he admitted he was sleeping with her but not that it started before I was pregnant when I look back at how fake she was and how he could lie to me so effortlessly I'm disgusted beyond words recently I remembered I had a recording of her talking about my sex life behind my back with his sister who at the time was one of my closest friends and the one who introduced us and realized it had been going on for months right under my noes and I just didn't notice so she knew all along and said nothing to me even after she knew i was pregnant he says he is sorry for everything although I don't what that means and I find my hatred for him has grown more then I thought possible but he still insist he wants to be a part of the child's life am I wrong if I don't allow that to happen is my baby better off without him

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Tiredbabymomma:

My ex and I were together for nine months and he was always telling me how much he loved me and how different I was when he broke up with me I was crushed he said he just wasn't happy anymore and felt I had no ambition for the next few months we kept sleeping together on and off and he explained once I got my life together we could get us back over the next few months we would fight about him hearing things about me being with other people and behaving badly at a party when I found out I was pregnant I was shocked and didn't know how to tell him he said he would support any decision I made when I told him I wanted to keep it he told me I was selfish he felt I was trying to trap him and begged and demanded I had an abortion I decided against it and he said that would be the end of us romantically but he would be there for the baby fast forward he insist he wanted to come to a doctors appointment I scheduled it around his schedule and he was still almost an hour late and missed most of the appointment to which he just blamed traffic and couldn't see why I was so upset I had driven three hours with terrible morning sickness to make that appointment and for it to be convienant for him but still he was late the next few months we spent going back and forth between arguing and just barely getting along to him one day saying he wanted to sleep with me which thankfully I didn't now I'm seven months along and I was speaking to a friend from where I used to live who blurted out that he has been sleeping with a friend of mind since before I was even pregnant I was so shocked and upset not because I wanted him back but bcuz I didn't understand why he felt the need to string me along and sleep with us both at the same time when I confronted him it took a while but he admitted he was sleeping with her but not that it started before I was pregnant when I look back at how fake she was and how he could lie to me so effortlessly I'm disgusted beyond words recently I remembered I had a recording of her talking about my sex life behind my back with his sister who at the time was one of my closest friends and the one who introduced us and realized it had been going on for months right under my noes and I just didn't notice so she knew all along and said nothing to me even after she knew i was pregnant he says he is sorry for everything although I don't what that means and I find my hatred for him has grown more then I thought possible but he still insist he wants to be a part of the child's life am I wrong if I don't allow that to happen is my baby better off without him

 

Be strong!! I don't think he even wants to be in the baby's life. Pray to the God everyday and you will have be much more happier and positive.

I'm gonna be a single mom soon as well. Baby's father and I were together for 9 months and we were living together. When I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant in the first place, we decided to keep the baby. Coz he said no matter what is my decision he would always supoort me and be with me no matter what.

While I'm pregnant we always get into a fight, most likely every single day. 12 weeks pregnant we broke up, he told me he wants nothing to do with me and the baby, we are the burden of him. And he told me he needs to focus on his career, get a part time job and try to sign up for school. So he doesn't want any distraction and can't spend time with me.

I was so depressed and sad for almost 3 weeks. When I saw him again I found out he download a dating app on his phone and he was chatting with few girls, he even want to meet up with them. But he would still say he loves me and he didn't want to give me back our old pics that we took before, he even cried about that.

But I figured these all are lies, he just falling out of love on me and I know no matter how much I love him I can't force us to be together anymore. 

When I was 12 weeks pregnant till now, he still trying so hard to ask me go for an abortion and we can stat fresh. But of coz I won't do that coz I love my baby and read to be a mom. I'm most 17 weeks now

I pray everyday to God, ask him to help me go through the tough time, sad moment and red rid of the depression, I feel so much better now, I would still keep praying for me and the baby.  

Good luck!! I know you can do it and get over this drama:) 

Runaway22

Wow. That is beyond emotionally rough. I am so sorry!

I know you're hurting, and this guy is total douchebaggery, but just because YOU are better off not being involved with him doesn't mean baby is better off not having a daddy who wants to be around, around. Terrible boyfriend =/= terrible dad. Maybe if he was a rapist or a druggie or an abuser of another kind... but he's just a scummy dude. A dad who sucks at treating women well romantically is better than no dad at all. I can only imagine how rough that will be for you, but keep your chin up. You'll get through it, one step at a time.

PS, punctuation is your friend, hun. Your post was really hard to read, since it's all one sentence :X