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Her husbands deployed How to help

Jupiter62Jupiter62 member
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A friend of mine let's call her Laurie. Her husband is being deployed soon, leaving her 20 weeks pregnant with 3 kids. He won't be back for the birth. Laurie is about an 8 hour drive away which I wouldn't mind doing, but I don't want her to feel like she has to entertain. What can I do/send to help her out?nbsp;I've looked on a few websites but I've seen a lot of complaints too. Like sending a gift card to a restaurant = "GREAT now I have to lug everyone out the door." Or sending flowers = "GREAT another thing to take care of"nbsp;I would hate to send something thats more trouble than its worthnbsp;I'm sorry if this has been posted before, I looked through and didn't see anything.nbsp; /edited by mod. I know you're new, we just don't like things that specify when someone is deploying m. Vague terms like "soon" or "in the fall" are ok. :
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Re: Her husbands deployed How to help

  • jjgrl55jjgrl55 member

    I'm thinking drop in for a visit, offer to babysit and make her get out of the house by herself to get her hair done, see a movie, etc. Just a few hours of alone time might help a lot. While you are there, maybe make her a few casseroles/lasagnas she can freeze for nights when she is exhausted and doesn't want to cook. Keep the visit brief so she doesn't feel pressure to entertain, like you said. 

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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    I've also  heard a lot of woman say they would love a house cleaning service come through. Or a spa package. The way I would keep the spa package from back firing would be to cover child care as well. Hope that helps!

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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    I've also  heard a lot of woman say they would love a house cleaning service come through. Or a spa package. The way I would keep the spa package from back firing would be to cover child care as well. Hope that helps!

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  • TomHope2011TomHope2011
    Find out her favorite local restaurant and meal from there.  Then order delivery for her.  I had a friend do this for me the last time my DH was deployed.  It was nice not to worry about cooking dinner that night and also nice that I didn't have to drive out in the cold winter weather to pick it up.
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