Does it mean its not THE name?

asibilrud

SO seem to have come to an agreement on a name. Have any of you ever experienced a whoa feeling?

Although I LOVE the name and so does DH, I didn't think we would ever agree on anything so the constant arguing over names just comes to an end?

I guess my question is, has anyone else second guessed THE name because it just felt too final? Does this mean its not the one??

lily_721

We all love our girl name -- as a family, we voted last night. 

DH loves his boy choice and I love mine -- unfortunately, its not the same name.  DH got two votes, I received one, SS2 didn't like either.

AppleJacks81

We had a name picked out that incorporated mine, my mother's, and two grandmother's names. It was perfect.....except I just couldn't see her with this name and had a feeling it just wasn't it. The new name we picked feels better to me - but I do understand the "final" feeling. We haven't told anyone the name because I worry I will see her and get that feeling again that it's not the right name.

LadyXaverian

Yes, we 2nd guessed ourselves, but once we decided that it was "the one", we settled into it, and we loved it even more.

If you both love it, start using it when you talk about the baby. Once webstarted doing that, we got excited about it.

shellylovelee

My DH and I start with making a long list then each month we've narrowed it down to our current favorites, however many that is.  He also likes to say them outloud as well as coupled with our DS's first name.

I say, mention to your DH these thoughts, then "try it on" for a while in your head as well as speaking the name out loud.  I think over time you will realize one way or the other where to go with it.

All the best!   

~Kat~

With DS2 and with this baby we agree on a name, but it just hasn't felt final. What helped me was just mentally saying "This is it. This is his name." I liked the names, but it just seemed like such a big decision that I kept second guessing our choice. After a while, the names just seemed to fit, but I'll admit it did take a little bit before I felt settled. 

BLPL101

Of course I've second guessed it! I think that's perfectly normal considering it's a huge decision. It doesn't mean it's not the one!

this decaf life

When I gave up looking for THE name we found one we both love. I wouldn't put pressure on the name for it being THE one.

BlindysWife

BLPL101:

Of course I've second guessed it! I think that's perfectly normal considering it's a huge decision. It doesn't mean it's not the one!

I agree with this.  Its such a big decision, that I think it's probably normal to feel like, "ok, this is going to be permanent..."

We had pretty much decided on Linus toward the end of my pregnancy, but that didn't stop us from keeping our short list, and we still discussed names a lot. Just exhausting all options, making sure there wasn't another name out there for us, you know? I don't think this meant that it wasn't our name.

BlueJewelM

BlindysWife:

BLPL101:

Of course I've second guessed it! I think that's perfectly normal considering it's a huge decision. It doesn't mean it's not the one!

I agree with this.  Its such a big decision, that I think it's probably normal to feel like, "ok, this is going to be permanent..."

We had pretty much decided on Linus toward the end of my pregnancy, but that didn't stop us from keeping our short list, and we still discussed names a lot. Just exhausting all options, making sure there wasn't another name out there for us, you know? I don't think this meant that it wasn't our name.

All of this.  Once I held DS in my arms and called him by the name we had (sorta) settled on...its just fit.    We will have a name picked out when we go in the hospital, but nothing is set in stone until we meet LO. 

asibilrud

Thanks for all the input ladies! Just like most of you said, its not that I don't love the name it just is such a HUGE decision I just wanted to know that it is the right one!

I'm going to take your advice and not tell others what the name is until we meet him, just in case!