Late Term and Child Loss

help please intro/question

Hi all, I just lost my sweet angel babies on Sunday at 19w3d, since I was far along my milk has come in. It hurts SO bad. Does anyone have any good remedies to dry up the milk? I can't even sleep they hurt so bad.
Lilypie - (5WpR)
Me(26)PCOS, Hypothyroidism & Incompetent Cervix  DH(28)Azoospermia
4/11 Off BCPs -- Cycle 1-3 (6months) - No ovulation, Provera
Cycle 4-6 - Provera, Clomid 50mg, CD23BW - All BFN (HSG-all clear)
Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
<312/9 Joshua David and Zoe Faith born too early at 19w4d due to incompetent cervix <3
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 ER 8/7 19R 9F 3dt of 2- 8BF embryos. (+HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1 - 82.8 Beta #2 - 821 Beta #3 - 7254
9/11/13 - U/S shows 1 baby HR 135bpm! EDD: 4/30/13
It's a BOY!!
2/9/14 - DX Gestational Diabetes
C-section scheduled for 4/7/14 (36w5d)
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Re: help please intro/question

  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your babies. 

    When my milk came in, the generic google tips really helped me. Wearing a tight sports bra, putting ice on them and taking some Tylenol... They really only hurt for 3-5 days, and then slowly started to get better after that. 

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  • Tight bra, cabbage leaves, ice packs. Taking vitamin B6 helps too.
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  • HI Cuddle...

    First off I want to jump through this computer screen and give you the biggest hugs ever.. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

    I've been following your story and updates and my heart is breaking for you. I was you almost 2 months ago. I lost my twins under the exact same circumstances. If you ever want to talk please feel free to PM me. My heart breaks for you and your DH. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Also, as for the milk - I had the same problem. It got very painful and I started using ice packs under a sports bra to help reduce the swelling and pain. It took nearly 2 weeks for the pain to go away and just recently after almost 6 my milk dried up completely.. 

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  • I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your twins. ((hugs)). 

    I wore tight sports bras and used cold compresses to stop the milk.  Within 3-4 days they dried up.  Also you can take motrin or tylenol for the pain and remember not to let the hot water hit them in the shower. 


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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your babies. When my milk came in, I bought some sports bras that were supportive, but not too tight. I also spent a lot of time just lying down with a cold pad on them. When I was in the shower, I would express tiny amounts just to relieve some pressure but not enough to stimulate any more production. Engorgement only lasted 3 days or so, but I leaked for a couple of weeks.

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  • I am so, so sorry for the loss of your babies. (((Hugs)))

    What helped me was wearing tight sports bras and placing cool cabbage leaves on my nipples and changing them when they wilted. Also, do not squeeze any milk out or let water hit them as this will stimulate them to produce more. And take acetaminophen or ibuprofen for any pain and to help relieve swelling. 

    Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss of your precious little babies. We are here for you anytime. I'm sorry you find yourself here. Right Hug

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  • I'm so sorry for your losses. Milk coming in is really hard. Wear a tight sports bra 24/7. You can put cold cabbage leaves in your bra and make sure to break the veins of the leaves. When you shower don't let the hot water hit them.
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  • I have no other advice but just want to say that I'm so sorry for your losses. We are here for you if you need to vent, cry or just talk. *hugs*

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  • I am so, so sorry for the loss of your twins.  

    I wanted to point you to two resources - the first is the website Glow in the Woods and they have been a great source of comfort for me in reading other moms experiences, and I have directed a lot of my family to their "how to help a friend" link.  They have a great page on how to stop lactation:

    Also, another huge source of support for me after the loss of my twin daughter was the Center for Loss in Multiple Birth.  The founder, Jean, has been amazing and they have a parent contact list so you can connect to other twin loss moms when you are ready, if that's something you think you would like.  They have a lot of practical information and links for friends and family as well.

    Again, I'm so, so sorry for your losses. 

  • so sorry for you heart breaks for you.

    I lost my baby girl at 19 weeks 3 weeks ago today so I know exactly what you are going thru.

    My OB stressed NOT touching them for any reason...I kept 2 tight sports bras on at ALL times unless I showered. The cabbage leaves also relieve some of the pain.  I think the only way to truly dry up the milk is to leave them alone though...I didn't touch mine for about 5 days at all and then they were back to normal.

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  • Hey, Cuddle.  <3

    This happened to me too.  I didn't find anything that made the pain better, but luckily, it only lasted for a few days. 

    I'm thinking of you and praying for your family.  If you need anything -even just to vent- feel free to FB me.  I'm so sorry you're going through this hell.

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