magdalina.h:I love talking about Aidan and I let everyone know that.
I love talking about Patricia, her life and the impact of her death. The greatest gift my pregnant/mom friends have given me is asking about my pregnancy with her and the details of her birth. It still hurts very much when people don't acknowledge her. If I see a family member or friend even now, almost 9 months later, who I haven't seen since she died they often don't mention her and I wish they would. It makes it very awkward for me. Just as immediately after her death, I want you to acknowledge her life before I can talk about anything else with you.
I have seen and heard in real life and on the bump where pregnant women complain about the "horror stories" they hear from other moms about stillbirth, PTL, or infant death. This is very hurtful to me. My daughter's life is a horror story to you?
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
I love it when people want to talk about my son. He was here, he existed. We have memories. I also think it helps people realize that not all pregnancies have happy endings.
And I can attest to Magdalina loving to talk about Aidan. I know her IRL and she always gets a really big smile on her face when she says his name.
In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11.
Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind
Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me
Missing you tonight, see you again sometime
For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight
I'll love you forever
I'll like you for always
Now and Forever
My baby you'll be
I hate the people who are avoiding me right now! the least they could do is say "I'm sorry for your loss" or "thinking of you"...
meli1025:I also love talking about Ava and I get upset when people pretend that she never happened. That's what happened when I went back to work, and it was hurtful. I know that people don't know what to say so I make a point of being the one to bring her up and let it be known that it's OK to talk about her.
I feel the same way. Although it is extremely hard for me to talk about Stella without crying, she was real, she was born, we held her and named her. And when people act like those 9 months never happened, it hurts so much.
I think a lot of people don't want to upset me by reminding of her, but obviously I haven't forgotten.