Two years ago....

silliestbunny

Two years ago tonight, we were blessed to be handed my oldest daughter minutes after she was born.  The last two years have been the best years of our lives....

I really want to share this because our road to our sweet girl was anything but easy.  We had three (sort of four) failed matches... one of which I am sure was a scam.  One included a newborn at the hospital.  All were heart-wrenching.  

Our journey to our sweet girl took 22.5 months and there were times I really didn't think it would happen.  The last five months of waiting were miserable... my husband and I walked around in a gray cloud grieving the three children we thought we were suppose to parent.

And then on a nondescript Wednesday afternoon, we received a call from a friend that asked if we'd be interested in talking with the father of an Emom that was going to be induced that following Monday... a short five days later!  Well, of course we would... and the rest is my daughter's history.

 My point in sharing is that it does happen... even when it seems like all arrows point away from you becoming parents... even when you have deep doubts, one phone call will change your life forever.

Hugs to all of my waiting (virtual) friends... I've walked your walk... it's not easy but it's worth it. 

CaptainSerious

Everytime I hear or think of a failed match, I think of you and your courage and determination, silliest.  I can't tell you how often I prayed that you wouldn't give up.  I could tell from everything you wrote how badly you wanted to be a mother, and I couldn't imagine what it would do to you if you decided you couldn't continue down the path any further without finding your child.

The day you took your daughter home, I cried tears of joy for you.  And then, right after your oldest, you were blessed with your second daughter, and I remember feeling so happy because I knew that whatever happened, you'd always be mom to two precious girls.

Happy family day, Silliest! 

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MayDayGirl

My story is soooo similar!! 20 months of waiting, 4 failed matches, a call out of the blue, a baby just days later.

I am so happy for your beautiful family!!

DaisyZH

That is so beautiful and I think really needed right now.  I have so many on here in my prayers, it's truly a wonderful thing to see those that have made it through and have their precious little ones.  

IRR

Silliestbunny - Thanks for posting this and a happy birthday to your daughter.  The pain is still new and raw.  We just got home last night and it tares me up how upset our parents are as well.  DH and I will wait a week to decide next steps.  All of you ladies have been such a great support and I really appreciate it.  It's good (and bad) to know how many have been in this awful place and glad to see for some there is a happily ever after.

cogbot

Thank you for posting this.  It was exactly what I needed to read.  I had a mini-melt down yesterday while we were putting ornaments on our tree.  Christmas should be a time of joy and celebration, instead I find myself feeling sorry for myself.  Then I feel guilty because I know God has given me so much already.   It's a whirlwind of emotions.  Frustration, sadness, emptiness, anger, and then guilt....  uuurgh!

silliestbunny

C-S... wow... thanks for such kind sentiments.

 

IRR.... I was esp thinking of you when I wrote this.... I know your pain. Sending a hug. 

sgb721

Thank you for sharing. You're daughter is blessed with determined parents

lafayettegirl

Thank you so much for this post. It was exactly what I needed to hear today!

It is so easy to get locked into my own little world of waiting and frustration, and to think I am the only one going down this type of road. Reminders, like your story, doing an amazing job of changing perspective and putting an amazing and happy light at the end of the tunnel.

Thank you again for sharing your story. You've made a dreary Monday morning bright and breathed life back into my journey!