will any of you have stay at home husbands?

gundy21

Looks like my DH will be staying at home with our little one to start things off.  He is a freelancer and will take an occasional job here and there (and we are lucky that his parents live in town and are retired - a perk of being older parents!).   We might look into part time or full time daycare down the line if his workload picks up (we would need cover the expense with his salary).  We are lucky that I have a great job and can support us but I am jealous that he will be home.  I am so thankful he is willing to do this - I think it could be very rewarding for him and our son.  Anyone else potentially in this boat?

boymamaco

The current plan is that we will both work however I could easily see this happening. My job has been very lucrative this year and if it continues, I'll be the primary breadwinner. DBF has a flexible job in that he makes his own schedule and goes home frequently during the day. So even if we are both working he will have way more time during the day to go home and visit with LO. Definitely jealous on that count but I also really like my job so its worth keeping.

danieleandwayne

MH would LOVE to do that! LOL In some ways, he will. I have to work every 3rd weekend, so he'll be with the babe then. But otherwise, my schedule is the one that will allow me more time with the child, since I work 12hr shifts which means we'll have part-time daycare (I hope; my schedule isn't fixed) and I'll stay home most days...

But honestly, MH would be a better SAH parent. He would keep the house cleaner than I will, that's for sure!

lilblt19

My DH works from home 3 days a week so our plan is baby will stay home 3 days and daycare the other 2 days.  My MIL lives down the street from us and is retired as well so she's going to come over and help out so DH can get his work done.  I think it'll be good for DH.  He doesn't have a lot of experience with babies and kids so it'll be a good learning and bonding time for him and our baby girl.  And yes I'm jealous. I'm jealous now when he gets to stay home but I know I'll be even more so when the baby comes.

starting all over again

I will be taking 6 months off work for matt leave and my SO is currently nursing a broken femur and shattered knee, so when I return to work he will be the full time daddy and he's so scared!! Good thing I also have a 12 yr old daughter who wants to take over as soon as the LO is born LOL!!

beforesunrise

My DH is going to be a SAHD and sooo excited for it!

SeaConquest

We are going to Puerto Vallarta for a year to cut expenses, so we can both stay home with the new baby. (I am normally the SAHM.) 

danieleandwayne

SeaConquest:

We are going to Puerto Vallarta for a year to cut expenses, so we can both stay home with the new baby. (I am normally the SAHM.) 

Okay, I have no idea where you live now, but how does going to Puerto Vallarta for a year cut expenses-- especially enough that you can both stay at home with the baby?!?

I think I need that plan!

SeaConquest

danieleandwayne:

SeaConquest:

We are going to Puerto Vallarta for a year to cut expenses, so we can both stay home with the new baby. (I am normally the SAHM.) 

Okay, I have no idea where you live now, but how does going to Puerto Vallarta for a year cut expenses-- especially enough that you can both stay at home with the baby?!?

I think I need that plan!

We live in San Diego. PV is more than 50% cheaper than SD. You can rent a nice 2/3 bedroom furnished condo in PV, inclusive of utilities and maid service, for $1000 per month. Eating out is also very cheap. Private school for my son is $150 per month vs. $1000. I have a monthly annuity of $3200/month, so we are able to live on that in Mexico with a decent standard of living. It would be impossible to do so in SD, 

elizabethnseanny

Just be aware that good, part-time daycare is hard to find, and many times almost as expensive as full time.  You will also have to find other ways of bonding with your son instead of being the primary care provider- sounds rough putting it that way though...I'm sure many working moms of infants can help with ideas of what they do...I'm interested to hear it too.

I'm in this boat. I was able to stay home the majority of the time with my first 3 until they were about 2, with had a much different lifestyle and I spent about 10 years going through school. Can you say broke and tons of student loans? Yea, I did things a little backwards.

After my 12 weeks at home with new baby, I have to go back full time and he will be trying to work from home while taking care of an infant. After doing it myself (school work and infant, which is more flexible) I'm worried about him being able to get any work done!

My bigger worry is how much I will miss my little one, and if I can pump enough to keep up my strictly breastfed until 6-8 months tradition. I also had pretty structured days for my kids, regular wake up, eating, napping, bath, bedtime schedule- we may want to change this around if I don't get home until 6 and only have 2 hours with the baby for the entire day! 

MT-Head

elizabethnseanny:

Just be aware that good, part-time daycare is hard to find, and many times almost as expensive as full time.  You will also have to find other ways of bonding with your son instead of being the primary care provider- sounds rough putting it that way though...I'm sure many working moms of infants can help with ideas of what they do...I'm interested to hear it too.

 

That really does sound super shitty.  I am the breadwinner and my husband is the SAH parent.  You don't have to pop your breast in your kid's mouth or change his diaper as the only way to bond with him or her.  How the hell are working dads supposed to bond with their kids, then???  That kind of ignorance really burns my biscuits.  Sorry, but you sound like some sort of demented Todd Akin or Rick Santorum sycophant for saying something like that.

OK, rant over.

I went back to work full time after 12 weeks, because as an attorney I make FAR more money than my husband could in sales/advertising, and everything is just fine.  My son loves and adores both of us.  He loves getting his bath with mommy.  He loves going our shopping or to the park with daddy.  We both have always spent time with him in the evening - playing with his toys, reading, dancing, etc. 

By about 10 weeks, I was kind of ready to get back to work and was going stir-crazy at home.  I jumped back in full time and that may have been a bot too much, too soon.  This time, I think I am going to start coming in for half days 2 or 3 days starting at 10 weeks, and ease back into the work routine.

Do I miss him?  Sure.  Did I ever cry at work over it?  Hell no, because I know that my son one of his parents were getting good, quality time together every day, something lots of kids these days don't get.

beforesunrise

Thank you MT-Head. I couldn't have said better what I look forward to being a healthy, loving situation for me going back to work and my DH being an awesome SAHD for our upcoming kid.

simplestlife

We've discussed having DH work from home three days a week. I love this idea. I'm a teacher, so I have zero paid leave. We need to figure something out. I want to avoid having the baby in daycare for the first 6 months. My mom is also retired, (but she lives 2 hours away) and has offered to stay with us during the week for the first few months.