healz413 and Manada

hlke

I saw you mention that your doctor said Manada is not a good candidate for IVF.  I wonder if the standards are different in Canada?  We know someone locally with DOR/POF and IVF was definitely an option for her.  She was able to get pregnant with injectables and IUI, so it didn't come to that.  I know some women don't respond well to injectables and therefore aren't good candidates for IVF, but I haven't heard of anyone making that call before trying medicated cycles.

I know treatment decisions are very personal.  I just wanted to let you know that a) women with POF can get pregnant and b) you may have more options if it comes to that.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this before you really even got started.  Wishing you guys luck with IUI. 

healz413

Thanks, hlke. I appreciate the information and the thoughtfulness and good wishes.

 I don't remember the doctor saying that Manada (still feels weird to call her by her screen name) was not a good candidate for IVF, but I may have missed that in our last meeting with the doc. I believe that most of the info Manada has gathered about DOR/POF is from the internet and discussion boards and I believe it is through her research that she discovered she was unlikely to be a good candidate for IVF (with her own eggs). I think that the only thing our doctor mentioned about IVF was using my eggs since I seem to be producing plenty; I guess the assumption there is that since we have my eggs available, the chances would be higher with those.

 I am sure that Manada will weigh-in as well and share her info and thoughts with us.

We start cycle monitoring tomorrow, so the well-wishes are appreciated.

Manada

Thanks hlke

 Honestly, I don't know about all your clinics, but our fertility clinic's office is very much a game of "Wait 2 hours, and then get bombarded with so much information your brain explodes within 10 minutes, and go home and process" sort of experience for us.   

I don't remember exactly what our Dr told us about my eggs, but I do remember she was recommending specifically iui natural, iui with stims, and then ivf using my partner's eggs (is there a way we can hyperlink - like on facebook?) ---- if I really wanted to carry a baby.   At no point did she talk about using IVF with my eggs, and mentioned that it was very much a "get going NOW because in 6 months the eggs may not be there" situation for us....  

 I interpreted that as a pretty dismal outlook for my IVF chances, but looking back today - that may have just as much to do with the fact that my partner has TONS of good, healthy-looking follicles, and so for us our chances of success are better if we just use hers, either with her pregnant via IUI or me via IVF.

 

My period was late this month (finally started today!), and I had a good cry last night about this stress, and all the rest + a little bit of isolation at feeling like the only queer people we know who're negotiating infertility questions ----- So I really appreciate your shout out! 

We will have to talk more to our Dr about our options for sure in our future.  I'm hoping our communication experience there improves as we move into cycle monitoring and get to know the nurses better, who can help us filter questions through and to the doctor.   I'm still figuring out what POF means for my body, beyond having a lack of eggs and a bit of a wacked out hormone cycle....  The internet and these boards have been hugely educational!

 

Thank you.  I really appreciate your support.  Every ounce helps these days

 

hlke

Our first consult was also pretty overwhelming!  They definitely dump a TON of info on you.

Honestly I think a lot depends on what happens as you start with IUI, and it's pretty hard to know at the outset.  And obviously, a lot depends on how your feelings about all this develop as you go through the process.  When we started, I was really attached to the idea of carrying and we thought I would carry first, while DW had no desire to carry.  Now she's TTC and I'm not sure if I'll end up carrying, and we're both happy with that arrangement.  We also thought we only wanted low intervention TTC attempts, and now we're with an RE and are fully prepared to do IVF if it comes to that.  As long as the lines of communication stay open and you both feel good about the plan, there are lots of options to build a family and only you can figure out which is best for you.  I'm glad you've found this board - the ladies here are wonderful for support.