DS is 7 months old, first grandchild on both sides and this is our first Christmas in the UK. The grandparents are all asking about sending us gifts, but from what I can tell if UK customs determines that the contents of a package are worth some amount, they would assess duty on the package before releasing it. Which to me sounds like a PITA. Plus, as parents we want to have some control over what DS receives, especially when it comes to toys. And we pretty much have what we need and don't have a ton of space as it is.
So we want to tell the grandparents to go lite on the gifts, but they might not take this well. Especially MIL, who goes overboard with gifts every year. We Skyped with her the other day and she wants to send a box of stuff but it was going to cost her $160 to ship it to us here. So she asks if she can send it to DH on his next business trip home (next week) so that he can lug it back and forth across the USA before bringing it back here. She says "It's not that much, it'll squish down, you can fit it in a small carryon" And then she shows us this Large moving box that fills the whole screen! And it's full of knitted items, toys, and matching pajamas for the whole family, etc., etc. DH actually didn't let her finish her entire inventory.
We finally agreed that she could send the box to my brother, and DH will have an opportunity to stop by there and bring back what he can. Privately, we've decided that anything that is not hand-made will go straight to charity -- Toys for Tots, women's shelters, etc. DH wants to save his suitcase space for stuff we actually need. He thinks his mom is out of control and needs to dial it back, but from experience he knows that having that conversation with her would be like talking to a brick wall.
How do you get your far away families to dial things back during the holidays?