A little miffed at Grandma

Scramblersmom

Back in October when I took that nasty fall I told my Mom that I could really use her to help and if she could come see us that would be great. I was having a really rough time and I really needed her. I generally never ask for help so it was a big step for me to ask for the help. I felt like she just ignored my request and I was hurt by it. She then said several weeks later that she would come at the end of November/beginning of December. Finally, she decided that she would likely come out on Wednesday this week.

When I talked to her yesterday and asked if she was still going to be here on Wednesday night she responded by saying "Wednesday, or maybe Thursday or Friday". This really irritated me as we had been busting our butt to get everything cleaned up around the house by tonight plus she needs to leave Monday morning so that really doesn't give us much time to get anything done while she is here. She is retired, and doesn't do too much activity wise, so it isn't like she has anything pressing to do at her home.

 I guess I am just feeling ignored, and since it was such a big deal for me to ask for help, it has just made me feel like I can not depend on anyone else in my family for anything. In the meantime she is always busting my balls about me coming to visit and gets all upset if she isn't going to see us for a month or two. Ummm...the highway travels in 2 directions! Also, this will be her last visit to us for probably at least 6 mos since she won't drive out here in the winter.

DoctorWorm222

Funny how those one-way-streets work. I must be surrounded by them as well. Most of my family (with the exception of my mom) expects me to come to them since they cannot come to me. There are always a million and one excuses. They're forever telling me that the traffic is too dangerous for them. I guess if E and I die during the treck, that's ok. Our neighborhood is also too dangerous - they could be murdered or mugged in our quiet St. Louis suburb.

pistolannie

I would be more than "a little miffed" but then again my hurt very quickly turns into rage so I'm a bit extreme.I'm sorry your mom isn't cooperating and being easy to deal with or considering your feelings and the fact that you asked for help over a month ago. I hope the visit is enjoyable once she gets there!

Nita2603

I would be more than miffed as well. I mean you all know I am doing better without my mother being around. But since she was here for six weeks, the help was nice. She chose the one week DH had to travel for business to meet with her friend though. Went to her cottage. Great. I mean, whatever, but for someone who keeps insisting she is not a guest but comes to help that was a real azz move. Oh well, we lived.

Scramblersmom

Thanks everyone for reading my vent. I am sure we will have a wonderful time and get a lot done when she gets here but it has just been frustrating. We were out there in July, September, October and November. We will also be out there for Christmas. We usually do most of the family entertaining when we are there including cooking so it would just be nice for her to reciprocate and stop complaining about how she wants to see DS but won't come here.

Chunstad

That's messed up.  I'm sorry that you are having to deal with that.  Reminds me of my Dad, who is retired and never comes down to see C.  What's wrong with these people?!  Why don't they want to see their Grandchildren?