Every day when I pick my son up from his babysitter's house, I always ask how his day was. Friday my babysitter said "Well.... he's really far behind the girls. He doesn't put on his own shoes, his own coat, pull out his own chair, he didn't tell me today that he needed to go potty. He's just really far behind the girls." She went on to say she's not sure why he doesn't want to do these things but she was frustrated.
Needlless to say, I felt like I let my son down. Like I had not been working with him enough. I called my mom and talked it over with her.
L is an only child. He will be 3 Jan. 17. He CAN take off his own shoes/coat, put on shoes like crocks/slip ons with ease, knows his right/ left foot, can take all his own clothes off (long sleeve fitted t-shirts are difficult for him), he can pull out his own chair/push it in... etc... basically he can do with in reason what you ask him to do. DH and I hold up his coat for him and he slides his arms in, we zip up his coat...
What are the expecations for an almost 3 year old to do? The two girls that our daycare lady are referring to have other siblings. They are both 4 months younger than DS and both were potty trained by 2.5. DS will go pee in the potty all day and rarely has an accident. He does not like to poop in the potty but we're working on that.
DH and I used to read all of the monthly milestones for DS when he was little but I haven't been reading up on it lately. Am I missing anything?
Re: Tough discussion w/babysitter... re potty training/doing things for themselves
Thank you for your response. We are not around many other 2-3 year olds and aren't really sure what to expect. After talking to some friends, their sons weren't potty trained until 3.
I think your son is fine. DD will be 3 in Jan too. She can dress herself, although doesn't know left shoe/right shoes, so we have to check that. She has trouble connecting the zipper, but can zip/unzip.
I wouldn't use potty training as a comparison method - there's a huge window for that. DD also has pee down, but we're still working on poo.
I hope your babysitter was just having a bad day, because I don't think that was very appropriate the way she expressed her concerns about your son. Also, if she works with kids, she should know that kids reach milestones at different times, right?
Your son is fine, please don't stress about it! . I have boy girl twins and the differences are amazing and trust me I know how hard it is to not compare. Your son can do more than mine and my son turned three in August. I am not worried about him esp because he goes to daycare and they do very extensive twice a year evaluations of an insane number of different skills and abilities and he is totally on par for all of it, including just starting to work on potty training, there are a number of boys in the class still working on it and they are all over three in the class. The girls are a totally different story when it comes to self care things like dressing, pottying, drawing/writing type skills etc. but at the same time, Ds can do puzzles and build things and do all those spatial relation things way better than her...he has no interest in writing or drawing but tells very creative stories off the top of his head.
I am not saying is to say either of my kids do anything amazing or outside the norm for their age but to reassure you that all kids are different, and the genders are truly different! I think your sitter needs to better understand that.
your poor babysitter. sorry but that's kind of her job isn't it? to care for children and deal with differences in them? if not, she shouldn't be watching more than one at a time. JMO.
my girl, also an only child, will be 3 end of this month and can't take off her own shirt or dress, doesn't really put on her own shoes unless they're CROCS, and is nowhere near being PT. they're still little and need help with some things! i understand it's frustrating, but that's all a part of being the adult.
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