My brother is getting married in May. His fiance doesn't feel comfortable around my BIL. She says she feels like he is undressing her with this eyes. Every time the family has gotten together they left shortly after sister and BIL arrived or made sure S and BIL were gone before they came over. My BIL has family issues due to verbal and emotional abuse he suffered growing up. He doesn't deal well with rejection and is very needy (IMO).
Because SIL-to-be doesn't feel comfortable around my BIL she doesn't want to invite him to the wedding. My brother feels funny about inviting my sister and the kids ( they will be 3 and 1 at the wedding) to the wedding without BIL. He decided to not invite either of them. This of course has caused quite a stir. My mother has even considered telling B and SIL-to-be she will not come if S and BIL are not invited to the wedding.
Talk about driving a wedge in the family. My parents aren't divorced and yet I'm going to have to deal with juggling 2 holidays gathers if I want to see my family. One with S and BIL and one with D and SIL-to-be.
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I'm with your mom. I wouldn't be happy either.
I am sorry you are having family drama! It sounds to me like your SIL to be needs to get a grip. Is her claim valid? I find it hard to believe that he would be acting inappropriately in front of his wife and the rest of her family. She should get over herself and let her husband-to-be's whole family come to their wedding. I would just stay out of it, they will work it out.
I agree with this and think your brother sucks for allowing this crap. It sounds like the beginning of her pulling him away from his family. Sorry you're going through this.
That is exactly what I told my mom when we had this discussion. I remember saying hello to everybody at the receiving line but that is it. I talked with a few but I know there were people there that I didn't talk with at all.
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Good luck and I hope you can stay out of it enough to not damage any of your relationships!
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This exactly.