DD1 has been badly, badly picking her nails for the last few months. Yesterday, it was so bad that I couldn't paint her nails -- she has a couple of cuticles that are just raw. It's both her hands and feet; picking, not biting or sucking. She asks for a bandaid when they hurt. I'm seriously thinking about putting her in socks all the time to see if at least I can get her to let those nails grow.
On one hand, I did this myself (though not so extensively) and I know she's probably still seen me doing it from time to time -- although I'm way better than I used to be. I don't think I started at four, though. My sister has picked her nails so badly her entire life that they're stunted, and the thought of DD1 doing the same thing makes me so sad. Now I realize why it bothered my mom so much when I did it -- and I know she's only four, with ASD, so impulse control is a tough thing overall.
She was upset that I wouldn't paint her nails, but she still says her own are "getting too long." I tried to explain that actually they're too short, and she needs to let them heal and grow so I can put polish on them (which she loves).
Ugh. On one hand I feel like a hypocrite b/c it took me a very long time to correct this in myself, but at the same time, I want to help her shortcut that if it's at all possible.
She doesn't seem to have an aversion to me clipping her nails, which we used to do often; she likes having them painted. I don't know if this is a kid thing, an autism thing, an anxiety thing? Should I talk to the school OT? Has anybody tried to break a habit like this?