FFFC

missyishere

And?!

BeesMomma00

I confess that I am not yet ready to leave B with anyone overnight.  I didn't think I would be this way, I just don't know if I trust anyone enough to do it.  Our regular "babysitters" are B's grandmothers.  MHs mom is 70 and probably fine to do it,  but what if???   My mom, on the other hand, is a DEEP sleeper.  So deep in fact that when she went home to wait for the birth of her granddaughter, she feel asleep and didn't hear us call her when she finally was born.  And she was waiting for our call.  Add to that, she has a bad back and a bad knee and I'm afraid of her walking up and down steps with her.

Sigh. 

I know I will need to do it someday.  I'm just not there yet.

jwls84

Ohhh I actually have one this week!! Sometimes I get off work early and instead of picking up B from DC, I go home and watch TV all by myself and totally veg out for a hour or so. I feel guilty not spending that time with him, but having some me time has been nice!

pennysuedog

BeesMomma: Don't feel pressured to do it if you are uncomfortable.  I never left my kids overnight at this age. 

MH and I divide up expenses, he is responsible for the majority of them because he make 4x what I make.  I used to buy all the Christmas presents with my income.  That was when I also worked for my Dad, he is now retired.  I was bringing in an extra 2-5 hundred a month back then.  A few years ago I made MH start paying for Christmas, he has gotten several promotions so it made sense, I still do all the shopping though.  Since MH took over Christmas  the gifts have gotten a little nicer.  He is very impressed how I managed to pull Christmas off with my tight budget for all those years.

 

amyc216

I'm having one of those days where I resent working.  DS woke up at like 4:30.  He eventually went back to sleep, but I never really got to.  Then I had to wake him up and he was pissed and it was a nightmare to get him out the door.  I'm tired and grouchy and don't feel like doing my job.  Sometimes it just feels like every day is the same and I miss out on all the fun time with DS.

pennysuedog

Spicy15:

I'm starting to hate meal times with Tristen, it's starting to feel like I'm playing a weird version of battleship. Offer him this and that, and no problem putting it down, successful feeding ="You've sunk my battleship"! Then he determines, now we're playing Guess Who, shrimp..no, beef...no, mac and cheese...no. Arrggghhh! He eats something fine several times, and then all of a sudden refuses it, and it's making me crazy.

The only things he will consistently eat are squeezie packets, yogurt, cheese, cheerios, goldfish, fruit snacks, and fruit. Kid could eat his weight in just fruit, I do sneak in some PB with his fruit, but FML why won't he just what's on his plate? I know you like it, you've eaten it 50 million times before! I'm going to hope this recent spell is due to him teething and having a cold, and that's why meal time has been such a PITA.

Hey, this sounds like my 7 year old!

Jazzym12

The past couple weeks I have been struggling with being a sahm. I am thankful that mh has a well paying job and can support me being a sahm but
Damn, toddlers are hard. She is on the go constantly and I run around all day cleaning up after the little tornado. I keep thinking about my nice paying corporate job where I could veg out if I needed to.. Sigh..

anasazi17

I have had a gym membership at a dump gym in my town for about 7 years.  While I was pregnant I must have been delusional and signed a 3 year contract (expires in 2014).  Well, I haven't been able to go because MH's schedule is stupid and by the time he gets home I'm fried and don't want to go.  Their child center is nasty, I wouldn't let my 3-legged outdoor cat play there.  

So this week I dropped a ton of money to go to the nice (hospital owned) gym in a different town.  Their childcare is amazing as is their equipment.  I guess I'm feeling a bit stupid for having 2 gym memberships and paying a ton for both.  But I swear, A and I are in better moods because we have something fun to go do daily..so it's all good, right? 

MrsTBird

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I don't care for colored Christmas lights. Especially the ones that blink. I don't know, I just like white lights better. And it really bugs me when the outside Christmas lights don't match. My neighbors have blue lights on their tree, purple on the roof and blinky colored lights on the deck. It makes my OCD flare up.

Jazzym12

MrsTBird:

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I don't care for colored Christmas lights. Especially the ones that blink. I don't know, I just like white lights better. And it really bugs me when the outside Christmas lights don't match. My neighbors have blue lights on their tree, purple on the roof and blinky colored lights on the deck. It makes my OCD flare up.

I'm with you! I also don't like when the lights aren't perfectly lined up and I also hate icicle lights!

pennysuedog

MrsTBird:

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I don't care for colored Christmas lights. Especially the ones that blink. I don't know, I just like white lights better. And it really bugs me when the outside Christmas lights don't match. My neighbors have blue lights on their tree, purple on the roof and blinky colored lights on the deck. It makes my OCD flare up.

Why would this be flammable?

ITA

What bother's me most is when they still have them on in February too!

MrsTBird

Jazzym12:

The past couple weeks I have been struggling with being a sahm. I am thankful that mh has a well paying job and can support me being a sahm but Damn, toddlers are hard. She is on the go constantly and I run around all day cleaning up after the little tornado. I keep thinking about my nice paying corporate job where I could veg out if I needed to.. Sigh..

I totally understand. I've been thinking about going back to work PT but DH really wants me to stay home. I just find myself either crazy busy chasing R around or completely bored with nothing to do. There is never a happy medium. We've gone down to one car though and its gotten pretty cold here so I think that's why I'm going stir-crazy. 

whittier06

I fcking hate cosleeping. I want my bed back.

MrsTBird

pennysuedog:

MrsTBird:

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I don't care for colored Christmas lights. Especially the ones that blink. I don't know, I just like white lights better. And it really bugs me when the outside Christmas lights don't match. My neighbors have blue lights on their tree, purple on the roof and blinky colored lights on the deck. It makes my OCD flare up.

Why would this be flammable?

ITA

What bother's me most is when they still have them on in February too!

I was just kidding. I've been getting the "Your kids won't have a real Christmas without them!!1!" comments from my family when I confess this. I just roll my eyes.

EloiseWeenieSkipperdee

Red Velvet is gross. It's just a wannabe chocolate cake hopped up with lots of food coloring.

pennysuedog

anasazi17:

I have had a gym membership at a dump gym in my town for about 7 years.  While I was pregnant I must have been delusional and signed a 3 year contract (expires in 2014).  Well, I haven't been able to go because MH's schedule is stupid and by the time he gets home I'm fried and don't want to go.  Their child center is nasty, I wouldn't let my 3-legged outdoor cat play there.  

So this week I dropped a ton of money to go to the nice (hospital owned) gym in a different town.  Their childcare is amazing as is their equipment.  I guess I'm feeling a bit stupid for having 2 gym memberships and paying a ton for both.  But I swear, A and I are in better moods because we have something fun to go do daily..so it's all good, right? 

If lifetime fitness ever comes to Indiana go there!  I love them, I just can't afford them.  My kids loved the childcare center, even Oliver.  When were debating moving MH said we would have to give up the gym membership.    They had a water park outside and water slides inside too, indoor and outdoor hot tubs steam rooms, tons of classes, they had a cafe, indoor tennis, rock climbing.  I need to stop, I'm making myself really, really, sad.  

anasazi17

pennysuedog:

anasazi17:

If lifetime fitness ever comes to Indiana go there!  I love them, I just can't afford them.  My kids loved the childcare center, even Oliver.  When were debating moving MH said we would have to give up the gym membership.    They had a water park outside and water slides inside too, indoor and outdoor hot tubs steam rooms, tons of classes, they had a cafe, indoor tennis, rock climbing.  I need to stop, I'm making myself really, really, sad.  

There is a lifetime in Indianapolis..it's just too far away.  I ogle it when I go to the mall

jwls84

EloiseWeenieSkipperdee:

Red Velvet is gross. It's just a wannabe chocolate cake hopped up with lots of food coloring.

Whoa, you're crazy! It's actually the only cake I will eat!

EloiseWeenieSkipperdee

Woodsie:

Last night T woke up screaming and I wasn't able to console him after about 5 minutes, so I caved quickly and turned the TV on to Disney Junior to calm him down (worked instantly). Well I fell asleep on the couch pretty quickly, and woke up some time later to see T still wide awake watching TV. I wasn't paying attention to the time, so I don't know how much time he was watching while I slept.. probably not my best parenting moment.

To clarify, he would have had to climb over me to get off the couch, which would have woke me up, so it wasn't as unsafe as it might seem.

We do this all the time, so this isn't flammable to me.

Oh, and Amelia is a food tornado too. It sucks. 

Nita2603

Mrs TBird, I am with you. The only exception is ice blue lights, I like those.

Spicy, our mealtimes are the same as yours, and I hate them as well. It's been a wild ride the last little while. Thankfully, Shadow cleans up after him. Confession: I may not even try stuff with Alastair when I know Shadow won't eat them. That will change once that mofo last molar is in. But experience has shown that it makes no sense to feed him things she won't eat while teething.

Jazzy, I may or may not have researched child care costs. If I go back to work full time, I would be able to pay for it. It would be just working for that and 100/month extra though. MH doesn't see the point but I am thinking about it. Seriously.

Gipper0809

Ok, so this is going to sound incredibly selfish and potentially whiney but I'm a little surprised at the lack of offers of help or support with this pregnancy.  This is my 3rd kid and my last two will only be 14 months apart, so I get that I just did this.  I wish someone would offer to clean my house for me (which someone treated us to last time) and I would love for someone to take my kids so I can do some last minute preparations around the house.

I don't know.  I'm feeling like I'm getting the shaft because it's not as exciting because it's the 3rd kid.  Whatever.  I just need to get over it and accept it for what it is.  The hardest part is that even my mom isn't making herself as available this time around.  She lives 10 minutes away and acts like I'm asking a lot when I ask if she can come hang with the kids for an hour while I clean my floors or scrub my bathroom.  I'm just feeling overwhelmed and don't know who to ask for help.

Pity party over.

Jazzym12

Nita2603:

Mrs TBird, I am with you. The only exception is ice blue lights, I like those.

Spicy, our mealtimes are the same as yours, and I hate them as well. It's been a wild ride the last little while. Thankfully, Shadow cleans up after him. Confession: I may not even try stuff with Alastair when I know Shadow won't eat them. That will change once that mofo last molar is in. But experience has shown that it makes no sense to feed him things she won't eat while teething.

Jazzy, I may or may not have researched child care costs. If I go back to work full time, I would be able to pay for it. It would be just working for that and 100/month extra though. MH doesn't see the point but I am thinking about it. Seriously.

I have all the child care cost and a little less then half of my income would go to child care. Then you factor in gas, mileage, drive time and it seems silly oh and how I have a kid that still doesn't sleep..

cantalopes24

You know how everyone on here always complains about their IL/sibling/cousin whatever who makes bad life choices and lets their parents spend way too much money on them? Well that's totally me. My sister, brother and I are the typical older child/half sibling/only child/bitter about the divorce and new family, middle child/oldest child because of the age difference, baby sister stereotype. I always got blamed for everything and my brother was my moms (first kid for her and the only boy) favorite. Recently because of some stupid stuff my parents are starting to realize that my brother isn't so perfect and I'm not 5 and I am having a hard time not rubbing it in all their faces.

sharksfan

- I am not a fan of colored Christmas lights.  But, a house around the corner from where I work has colored lights around their fence that look really cool.  It's a green string of lights, but every 4 lights is a red light.  It is pretty and appeals to my OCD appreciation of patterns!  What I really can't stand is a mixture of white and colored lights. 

- My confession:  I'm afraid that when DH comes home from deployment, he won't like my style of parenting that I've been doing with Ronin for the last year.  I'm also afraid that I won't feel as bonded to Ronin when I have to share him with DH.  It sounds so stupid, but I've actually really enjoyed my one-on-one time with him every night.  Of course, I've missed DH and love him and blah blah blah....but R is a little Mama's boy, and I like that right now.

pearblossom

Gipper0809:

Ok, so this is going to sound incredibly selfish and potentially whiney but I'm a little surprised at the lack of offers of help or support with this pregnancy.  This is my 3rd kid and my last two will only be 14 months apart, so I get that I just did this.  I wish someone would offer to clean my house for me (which someone treated us to last time) and I would love for someone to take my kids so I can do some last minute preparations around the house.

I don't know.  I'm feeling like I'm getting the shaft because it's not as exciting because it's the 3rd kid.  Whatever.  I just need to get over it and accept it for what it is.  The hardest part is that even my mom isn't making herself as available this time around.  She lives 10 minutes away and acts like I'm asking a lot when I ask if she can come hang with the kids for an hour while I clean my floors or scrub my bathroom.  I'm just feeling overwhelmed and don't know who to ask for help.

Pity party over.

I'm sorry Gipper. I remember feeling like that. Everyone was all over me for #1 but I was completely on my own for #2. It will get less overwhelming, I promise!

KrisM86

MrsTBird:

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I don't care for colored Christmas lights. Especially the ones that blink. I don't know, I just like white lights better. And it really bugs me when the outside Christmas lights don't match. My neighbors have blue lights on their tree, purple on the roof and blinky colored lights on the deck. It makes my OCD flare up.

I don't mind colored lights (although white ones look classier IMO) but I hate the blinking ones. They are awful. 

Elsa1984

Gipper0809:

Ok, so this is going to sound incredibly selfish and potentially whiney but I'm a little surprised at the lack of offers of help or support with this pregnancy.nbsp; This is my 3rd kid and my last two will only be 14 months apart, so I get that I just did this.nbsp; I wish someone would offer to clean my house for me which someone treated us to last time and I would love for someone to take my kids so I can do some last minute preparations around the house.
I don't know.nbsp; I'm feeling like I'm getting the shaft because it's not as exciting because it's the 3rd kid.nbsp; Whatever.nbsp; I just need to get over it and accept it for what it is.nbsp; The hardest part is that even my mom isn't making herself as available this time around.nbsp; She lives 10 minutes away and acts like I'm asking a lot when I asknbsp;if she can come hang with the kids for an hour while I clean my floors or scrub my bathroom.nbsp; I'm just feeling overwhelmed and don't know who to ask for help.
Pity party over.

My friend has three kids close in age. At the hospital with the third, he mentioned they had one other visitor. He said with the first, you get a ton of visitors...everyone wants to help...and it's really exciting. It was less with the second and almost nonexistent with the third.

BeesMomma00

whittier06:

I fcking hate cosleeping. I want my bed back.

Oh man... Any plans to "wean" from co-sleeping?  That really has to suck.  I can't even stand when B needs to be in our bed one night because she's sick or irritable.

Elsa1984

We are getting new windows throughout our house. I called the construction company to set up a consultation for a quote for the house. The guy I talked to, that was going to come measure our windows, sounded like a total hottie on the phone. I may or may not have purposely got up early to make sure I looked good, the house was spotless, and I had a prime seating spot for checking him out while he measured and talked to SO. Turned out, he was hideous. I blame Magic Mike for making me think if the construction worker sounds like a hottie, he will show up looking like Channing Tatum. 

missyishere

wishful thinkin:

Elsa1984:

We are getting new windows throughout our house. I called the construction company to set up a consultation for a quote for the house. The guy I talked to, that was going to come measure our windows, sounded like a total hottie on the phone. I may or may not have purposely got up early to make sure I looked good, the house was spotless, and I had a prime seating spot for checking him out while he measured and talked to SO. Turned out, he was hideous. I blame Magic Mike for making me think if the construction worker sounds like a hottie, he will show up looking like Channing Tatum.nbsp;

IMO: This is the best FFFC so far! I so LOLed. I'm sorry you were disappointed.

Hey, this could be your OOTW pic for next week, but make sure the construction man is included. 

My confession is I may start looking at a few homes even though we don't really need one.  I saw a house online less than our home, it's bigger, and it has a fenced in backyard.  I frucking hate moving, but hey, if it gives us more space and saves money- why not, right?!

Elsa1984

missyleaferg:

wishful thinkin:

Elsa1984:

We are getting new windows throughout our house. I called the construction company to set up a consultation for a quote for the house. The guy I talked to, that was going to come measure our windows, sounded like a total hottie on the phone. I may or may not have purposely got up early to make sure I looked good, the house was spotless, and I had a prime seating spot for checking him out while he measured and talked to SO. Turned out, he was hideous. I blame Magic Mike for making me think if the construction worker sounds like a hottie, he will show up looking like Channing Tatum.nbsp;

IMO: This is the best FFFC so far! I so LOLed. I'm sorry you were disappointed.

Hey, this could be your OOTW pic for next week, but make sure the construction man is included. 

My confession is I may start looking at a few homes even though we don't really need one.  I saw a house online less than our home, it's bigger, and it has a fenced in backyard.  I frucking hate moving, but hey, if it gives us more space and saves money- why not, right?!

i didn't take a pic because I was so disappointed I didn't get to see any eye candy. I put my sweats on, snuggled on the couch with a blanket and a coffee before he even left. 

Liz4444

whittier06:

I fcking hate cosleeping. I want my bed back.

Then why don't you put the baby in the crib?

Gipper0809

Spicy15:

Gipper0809:

Ok, so this is going to sound incredibly selfish and potentially whiney but I'm a little surprised at the lack of offers of help or support with this pregnancy.  This is my 3rd kid and my last two will only be 14 months apart, so I get that I just did this.  I wish someone would offer to clean my house for me (which someone treated us to last time) and I would love for someone to take my kids so I can do some last minute preparations around the house.

I don't know.  I'm feeling like I'm getting the shaft because it's not as exciting because it's the 3rd kid.  Whatever.  I just need to get over it and accept it for what it is.  The hardest part is that even my mom isn't making herself as available this time around.  She lives 10 minutes away and acts like I'm asking a lot when I ask if she can come hang with the kids for an hour while I clean my floors or scrub my bathroom.  I'm just feeling overwhelmed and don't know who to ask for help.

Pity party over.

Hey there she is! Sorry you feel so overwhelmed, this is one my greatest fears once the new baby comes. Do you talk to your DH? I think I remember he has some crazy work hours, or maybe I'm thinking of someone else. Is he able to help with cleaning house stuff at night while the kids are asleep? DH will do this if I ask him, but hey it gets done. Any how I hope things get better and less stressful for you. I did feel that way just after mister was born and that was just one not with two. DH was trying to get me to rest, and do this and that, and I flat out told him I can't do it all and I'm not going to make myself crazy trying to. If no one can or will help, realize you are only one person and you can only accomplish so much in a day, and if it doesn't all get done, then that's okay.

I can understand your life is about to get even crazier with #3 about to be here, but you can do it. This line is so cliche but so true, "This too shall pass". It won't always be like this, it will get easier and more manageable. Hugs to you.

Hi! I just have to keep plowing ahead. DH has actually really stepped things up the last few weeks and is helpful around the house and with the kids especially.  Maybe part of this stems from the fact that we are still somewhat in denial about the fact we're having another baby!  lol  I don't know.  We'll manage.  Everyone finds a way to make it work somehow!  Thanks for the kind words!

Gipper0809

Thanks, ladies, for your encouragment.  We're only 12 days away from meeting the newest addition and I'm just really feeling it right now.  The best part of this being #3 is that I know that nothing lasts forever, even the hard parts.

Liz4444

Confession, totally flammable... I just read about stupid expensive nail polishes and I liked one of them. It is a 65 dollar bottle of polish that they sell at Barney's. I had a 50 dollar gift card to Barney's, so I ordered it.

Eta I hate that symbols don't show up on iPhone posts.

wilsontl19191

Liz4444:

Confession, totally flammable... I just read about stupid expensive nail polishes and I liked one of them. It is a 65 dollar bottle of polish that they sell at Barney's. I had a 50 dollar gift card to Barney's, so I ordered it. Eta I hate that symbols don't show up on iPhone posts.

Must be nice!  Enjoy!  I don't think I have ever stepped foot in a Barney's.  Is it an up-scale department store?

wilsontl19191

Gipper0809:

Thanks, ladies, for your encouragment.  We're only 12 days away from meeting the newest addition and I'm just really feeling it right now.  The best part of this being #3 is that I know that nothing lasts forever, even the hard parts.

That's so true!  Best of luck to you :-)

Chunstad

Liz4444:

Confession, totally flammable... I just read about stupid expensive nail polishes and I liked one of them. It is a 65 dollar bottle of polish that they sell at Barney's. I had a 50 dollar gift card to Barney's, so I ordered it. Eta I hate that symbols don't show up on iPhone posts.

Holy Sh!t!  You should have just given me the gift card, and I would have given you one of my unused bottles of OPI

Mine is lame, but I don't care.  I HATE being called fuking Ma'am.  Today at Lowe's, this cute sales guy called me it.  I actually had the balls this time to ask him not to call me that.  He said "sorry, I'm just being polite", and I told him please don't because it makes me feel old.  I really wanted to get on my soapbox and inform him that no one enjoys being called that, but I chickened out.

Liz4444

Woodsie:

Liz4444:

Confession, totally flammable... I just read about stupid expensive nail polishes and I liked one of them. It is a 65 dollar bottle of polish that they sell at Barney's. I had a 50 dollar gift card to Barney's, so I ordered it.

Eta I hate that symbols don't show up on iPhone posts.

For 65 bucks that nail polish better paint itself and last a month without chipping!

The funniest this is that it was the least expensive out of the list. I would totally buy selfapplying nail polish!

kagl08

Gipper0809:

Thanks, ladies, for your encouragment.  We're only 12 days away from meeting the newest addition and I'm just really feeling it right now.  The best part of this being #3 is that I know that nothing lasts forever, even the hard parts.

maybe its the 14 month age gap? My 2 are 13.5 months apart and my #2 got shafted with everything. My entire pregnancy was overlooked, I barely even got asked how I was feeling. Barely any visitors after he was born. Then he was put into the NICU and we almost lost him, and still barely anyone cared. Everyone thought we were exaggerating and my DS was old news. He got overlooked for his birthday too. I'm convinced its the age gap! My MIL STILL hasn't met him and has no plans to come until May. I got no help after #2 was born and was right back to the grind 1 day after he came home. I hate insensitive people! I hope you get some help! Can't believe you have 12 days left!!  

whittier06

BeesMomma00:

whittier06:

I fcking hate cosleeping. I want my bed back.

Oh man... Any plans to "wean" from co-sleeping?  That really has to suck.  I can't even stand when B needs to be in our bed one night because she's sick or irritable.

We have never done it, he's been in his own crib since 2 months. It happened the first time a couple weeks ago, then he went back to his crib. Now for the last 3 nights he wont sleep in his crib. I don't know what to do!!