Things you do that your SO/H doesn't agree with.

bigbootyjudi

SFM: Things you do that your SO/H doesn't agree with.

As far as parenting goes. 

SO hates that I pull DS into bed with me. I only do it during morning naps because he will NOT go back to sleep (just for that nap for whatever reason) and I desperately need my sleep. Honestly, I rocked him for 30 minutes this morning, set him in the bassinet, he woke up, and stayed awake for an hour, so I pulled him into bed with me and he was asleep not even 5 minutes later. I'm safe about it; he's swaddled, no blankets or pillows around him, sleeps in the crook of my arm on his back, but SO keeps telling me I'm going to roll over on him one day. I told him I won't do it anymore...I did it this morning. Mama needs her sleep. 

AutumnLeaves2

DH hates that I leave her on her tummy time mat to roll around and keep herself entertained so that I can get stuff done. He thinks it's "neglectful" and thinks she's gonna somehow hurt herself. Yeah, someone's gonna be spoiled by her dad...

gracie__r

Ha!  Anytime DH complains about my parenting I welcome him to step in and take care of it.  That stops him in his tracks. As an example, if DH were to complain that I bring DS to bed with me, he would be more than welcome to be the one to put DS back to bed when he wakes up.

I do listen to him when he makes a good point though.  For the record, I don't dismiss everything he says.

Cheerilee

DH thinks I spoil DD and should just let her cry herself to sleep rather than put her in bed with me. She will NOT sleep without me. We are working on it. Now, she'll take two 1 hour naps in her bouncer or on a blanket in the living room floor.

CaliVal

anbeck4:

SFM: Things you do that your SO/H doesn't agree with.

As far as parenting goes. 

SO hates that I pull DS into bed with me. I only do it during morning naps because he will NOT go back to sleep (just for that nap for whatever reason) and I desperately need my sleep. Honestly, I rocked him for 30 minutes this morning, set him in the bassinet, he woke up, and stayed awake for an hour, so I pulled him into bed with me and he was asleep not even 5 minutes later. I'm safe about it; he's swaddled, no blankets or pillows around him, sleeps in the crook of my arm on his back, but SO keeps telling me I'm going to roll over on him one day. I told him I won't do it anymore...I did it this morning. Mama needs her sleep. 

My DH is like this, too. The other day DD fell asleep as I was nursing her on our sides, facing eachother. I had a blanket pulled up around her shoulders (it was cold in the house) and her head was slighlty on our pillow. He comes in from the other room and asks me, "can she breathe like that?" It really pissed me off. Like no, idiot, I'm over here suffocating our daughter, duh!

JayandEmm

H doesn't agree on outtings with ds. He thinks we should keep him in the situation and allow him to be over stimulated to "get him used to it". I think he should be removed immediately to regroup and take a quick power nap.

I always remove him, and DH bishes about it later saying "he'll never learn".

Sorry, I can't purposely keep my 3 month old in distress...

LissaLynn0682

anbeck4:

SFM: Things you do that your SO/H doesn't agree with.

As far as parenting goes. 

SO hates that I pull DS into bed with me. I only do it during morning naps because he will NOT go back to sleep (just for that nap for whatever reason) and I desperately need my sleep. Honestly, I rocked him for 30 minutes this morning, set him in the bassinet, he woke up, and stayed awake for an hour, so I pulled him into bed with me and he was asleep not even 5 minutes later. I'm safe about it; he's swaddled, no blankets or pillows around him, sleeps in the crook of my arm on his back, but SO keeps telling me I'm going to roll over on him one day. I told him I won't do it anymore...I did it this morning. Mama needs her sleep. 

 

DH used to criticize it when I brought DD in bed, too.  By the time it hits 4:30 am she is moving around like she wants to get up.  If I bring her in bed she will sleep another two hours with me.  He thinks I'm creating a bad habit.  My response?  I won't bring her in bed if you get your arse up at 4:30 and hang out with her then.  He hasn't commented on it since  

 

Tula214

Here's a perfect example. A couple nights ago I posted that I don't want SOs family sharing Js pictures all over the internet. Maybe I'm a hypocrite because I post his picture on here, but he is my child. When I tried to calmly share my feelings about it yesterday SO freaked out. I mean yelling, and slamming doors. We have never had a bad fight. I just needed time to collect my thoughts, but he wouldn't back off. He was blocking the door so I couldn't leave, and I was livid. Eventually I slapped him in the face, told him I wad about to lose it, and he let me go for a walk. After a while we tried to talk it out, but eventually had to agree to disagree. Maybe I'll end up posting the full reasons we both gave.

I had a hard time the first 2 months taking care of the baby. I felt like I had no clue what to do. SO spoke to a coworker who is a mother is her late 30s maybe. She told him if he's fed, clean diaper, and all.. that I should just let him cry himself to sleep. NO! I explained to him that newborns can't self soothe. What I wanted to say was, "PICK UP A **!N BOOK OR SOMETHING!!"

We also used to have disagreements of how much clothes to put on him. I ended up realizing I was being a worried FTM, and he won that one lol.

mamahawk12

gracie__r:

Ha!  Anytime DH complains about my parenting I welcome him to step in and take care of it.  That stops him in his tracks. As an example, if DH were to complain that I bring DS to bed with me, he would be more than welcome to be the one to put DS back to bed when he wakes up.

I do listen to him when he makes a good point though.  For the record, I don't dismiss everything he says.

Pretty much this, exactly. DH is an amazing father and our kids adore him, but we have a very "traditional" marriage where I do 95% of the child rearing. I don't tell him how to mow the lawn...  

DerpityDog

DH wishes I hadn't gotten her hooked on napping on my chest when I was on maternity leave.  He is a SAHD now and it's the only way she will nap solidly right now (she sleeps fine in her crib at night, thankfully), which makes it hard for him to get things done around the house.  This weekend we will practice putting her down for naps.  It's not a horrible thing, though, since we both enjoy the bonding time when she sleeps like that.  They're only that little for so long.

xxbabycakesxx

With Ds1, its definitely spanking.

Ds2, I'm not sure. Can't think of one right now.

Eta
Guess I should be more specific about spanking lol. He wants to spank and I don't.

CLeigh03

Lgamache90:

DH hates that I leave her on her tummy time mat to roll around and keep herself entertained so that I can get stuff done. He thinks it's "neglectful" and thinks she's gonna somehow hurt herself.nbsp;Yeah, someone's gonna be spoiled by her dad...

I'd be pissed.

DH knows better than to comment. I am with them all day, mom knows best. In general we are really in sync with what to do with both our kids.

byrne15

CLeigh03:

Lgamache90:

DH hates that I leave her on her tummy time mat to roll around and keep herself entertained so that I can get stuff done. He thinks it's "neglectful" and thinks she's gonna somehow hurt herself.nbsp;Yeah, someone's gonna be spoiled by her dad...

I'd be pissed. DH knows better than to comment. I am with them all day, mom knows best. In general we are really in sync with what to do with both our kids.

this.... DH has them in the morning and I trust him to do whatever he feels is right, and I have them the rest of the day.

with ds#1 we only ever disagreed with CIO.  I never let ds#1 CIO and he didn't STTN until 17 months.  I will do it earlier this time around....not sure when...maybe 9 months?

merricksmom

I put her down on her mat a lot of evenings and let her play and roll.  I am either doing things during this time, interacting with her or just sitting on the couch and watching her.  My husband hates it when I put her on the playmat because we have a wood floor.  I always put something under the mat, but he never uses it and doesn't like it when I do.  He watches her during the day and he is amazing with her,  BUT.....I told him he only has himself to blame when she gets older, spoiled and won't ever let daddy put her down.  It's funny how different our parenting styles can be sometimes.  I am the pushover with our older child, where my husband is the enforcer.  When it comes to the baby, she has him wrapped around her little finger.  I know, you can't spoil a baby right now.  But when she is older, I predict that she is going to be daddy's little monster.