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megaroo64

OK, so I know people have different opinions about what should go on Facebook in relation to the baby. DH and I have decided to keep baby news off Facebook as much as possible. So two questions for you ladies.

1. Are you goingFacebook public? 

2. Is it realistic for me to think that this will stay off Facebook the whole pregnancy, or am I fighting a losing battle anyway?

JilliansMoma

I rarely post status updates on FB.  I think if you avoid posting too much or saying anything at all about the baby that people will follow your lead.  Of course there are always the ones that can't take a hint!  

GL, JM

lobosabby

1. Are you goingFacebook public? I want to say no but DH is dying to tell people. I'm going to see how long I can get away with not putting it out there. He's agreed that it's when I'm ready.

2. Is it realistic for me to think that this will stay off Facebook the whole pregnancy, or am I fighting a losing battle anyway? One of my friends from college kept it off until her last month of pregnancy and when people did post she was pretty vague or didn't say much. She just didn't like the idea of it on there. Now that she's had the baby she posts pics constantly. She also has a SIL that is dealing with pretty severe IF issues. She wanted to respect her and not put it on there since she knew how hard of a time her SIL was having.

It IS possible. But difficult in today's world.

ladybugpjb

How much into Facebook are you, your friends, and your family?

I have two friends who don't spend a lot of time on FB in general. The one who has a baby didn't post pictures for six or eight weeks, and she rarely posts pics. Her husband is very conservative as far as posting stuff online, and he didn't even have a page for awhile. Their families are respectful of that and don't post pictures, etc.

The other friend is still pregnant and rarely mentions it. Her hubby doesn't have a page at all. She just doesn't post that much in general.

But then, if your friends and family are the type to post pictures without asking, or to post a lot of comments on your page, then you might have a battle ahead of you. And if YOU post a lot, it will be hard not to mention things.

ETA - We will announce on FB, but we don't live near family or close friends, so it's our way of communicating.

am&n

1. We haven't fully decided but we are leaning to annouce after our anatomy scan.

2. We have annouced to our family and close friends and no one has said anything yet. But if they do, I will not be terribly upset

singahappysong

Facebook is used for different things for different people. I moved across the country, so it's pretty much my lifeline between friends and family back home, so I'm definitely going to post something about it once we are ok with announcing to everyone.

That being said: as long as you aren't worried that certain people will find out you are pregnant from FB, you don't really have anything to worry about. Will people comment or post things about it on your wall? Possibly, but if you aren't worried about that: then you are fine.

But if you are worried about that and you don't want ANYTHING on there being said....then it depends on your friends and family  lol I know, without a doubt, that I could not have at least one person post something.

 

mikaelaandmichael

1.) Yes we are going to announce on FB but not until Christmas.

2.) If you have excited friends and family it might be hard to keep off FB. I almost got outed yesterday by a friend. She posted on my wall if i was showing yet. i had to call her and have her take it off. So im not sure how many of my friends saw that. So a few things like that COULD happen to you.

sheacox

So far i haven't even told anyone i am pregnant. Except my very close family and a friend. I thought I would be ready to tell when I hit 12 weeks and now I just don't really feel like it. I don't like a lot of attention so i don't feel as though i want to make a big deal out of it. This being said obviously i haven't posted on FB. I dunno if i will or not we will see...

My best friend kept it off FB her entire pregnancy... in fact lots of people didn't even know she was pregnant until after she gave birth. If you don't post it on FB people usually get the hint. If someone else posts something you can always delete it... it's easy to do if you really want to keep it off FB.

duffmaker

I'm on facebook a decent amount so we are definitely going facebook official, most likely the beginning of this week.

There is a ton of more distant family that I keep in touch with on facebook and a few friends that I wouldn't really call or visit to announce to them so our facebook announcement is mainly for those people. 

You will probably have it on facebook by a family member at some point, even something as simple as "Heading to MegStory's baby shower today!".

megaroo64

Thank you so much for all the Facebook input. I don't really post a lot, so it will be pretty easy for me to keep my mouth shut. I am concerned about some of my husband's family members. One girl in particular posts ALL the time, so I have been mentally preparing myself for her to out me. 

I guess I have told the people that I really want to hear it from me. So if something happens on Facebook, though I would not be thrilled, it wouldn't be a crisis.

skio

I'm only on fb for a mom's group, to keep up on local play dates and such. No one else knows I have an account; I'm not interested in having people know. So, I guess my situation is unique.

I'll announce to most of my mommy friends in person, but I do plan to announce it on fb for the few that I don't see too often. But again, my fb consists of a small circle of mom friends; I'm betting you can tell by the fact that I don't have a regular account that announcing on fb isn't something I would typically do. I like my privacy.

ariaforte8

I think it depends on how you use facebook.

For example, facebook os actually a big part of how DH an I communicate with friends and family. We have friends all over the country that mean a lot to us, and I have an enormous family. Facebook is the main way we communicate with all these people.

We use facebook to share our lives with those who care, and baby is one of the biggest things that will ever happen to us. I couldn't imagine not sharing!

We're also a young couple, 22 and 23, so I think that makes a difference as most of our friends also communicate via facebook.

In the end, I think the way you already use facebook determines the level of weirdness sharing things about baby.

kari.sandall

I have a private blog I posted on instead. But for some reason I just really don't want to make a facebook announcement, I'm really not sure why. I asked my family not to make an announcement either. But my MIL did whatever she wanted and announced it on facebook anyway.

+Preppy+

With DS, we waited till after a great anatomy scan. I had a previous loss and made the mistake of telling the world too early. It was really nice telling everyone the good news at once. Close friends and family got phone calls of course. It was nice for relatives and friends that I don't talk to on a regular basis to find out. 

If you are rarely on Facebook, sure, you can do it. I like Facebook, so it would be impossible. I love posting pics of DS and I'm of course in them. Do what you are comfortable with. I like limited exposure until the second tri.  

phishgirl29

We will not be doing any Internet announcement until after the birth.  My BFF had a stillbirth child @39 weeks 2 years ago, and since watching her take own all her photos and posts regarding her pregnancy and announcing the passing of her little girl, I'm dead set against it.  If any of my friends comment on my pregnancy, I'll end up deactivating my account until after the baby is born.  I'm a bit crazy!

ChristyD6

We will eventually post it on fb I'm sure... but I really don't want to anytime soon. I'm thinking maybe after New Years. Or something cute on DH's b-day the end of January about how LO is due around Father's Day.

Mommy2CB

Many of our friends and family are on Facebook, extended family etc, so it's a great tool to stay in touch and share news. Having a child is big news, so yes we went public once it was safer to do so.

I like to post stuff every now and then and I'd be weird to just randomly start posting about baby stuff or asking baby or sibling related questions and people being like, what?

nicoleliu271

We announced on FB

Jordan1234

I won't be going public, and yes it is realistic.  With my son I didn't discuss anything on facebook and my family and friends respected my wishes.  

theroadahead

I knew if I didn't say something first then someone in my family would. They don't believe in privacy. I however won't be posting updates other then the gender. I will be making a blog for the people that have said they want updates.

Ilovepjs

My plan is to tell family at Christmas.  And then after our 2nd u/s for the brain measurements then we will announce. While will be at the end of January. 

ohdrama09

I have A LOT of friends and family on FB.  I'm still really close with my July '11 BMB group on there.  We've been FB public for awhile.  

 

It's really up to you and how often or not often you use FB.   

kimx86

My other half isn't posting anything at all about the pregnancy on FB and we've agreed not to share ultrasound photos online, so I carry a spare photo around to show people as and when I see them! I'm going to do a little announcement just before Christmas even if it's just to make people aware that I'm not just getting fat haha. A couple of people have been asking my friends (who haven't commented), so I guess it's for those who I don't see all the time but who are interested anyway. All of my family and close friends found out ages ago so it's not a big deal if it's shared online now.

Dragonfly1226

Last night we started telling people the news. I changed my FB settings so only I can post on my wall. I will eventually announce on FB, but until then I don't want anyone else outing us.

BermudaWedding2012

My husbands family has a problem keeping things quiet too .. His sister announced to all of her friends and I am sure his mom has told as well .. But his cousin posts every tiny detail about her life on fb and I just keep waiting for her to say something. We are going to post our Christmas card on fb after we send them out to our close family and friends!!

jlaOK

I'm not making a FB announcement, but I won't care if someone mentions my pregnancy on FB.  I'm not going to avoid mentioning my pregnancy on FB, I just don't see the need for an official announcement. 

musicalsilver

DH doesn't have a proper Facebook account anymore, so it's really all me with the Facebook public-ness of things.

I mostly post interesting news articles and the like on my Facebook - not a whole lot of super personal things beyond vacation pictures.  I don't know that I'll mention anything specifically for a good while yet.  

We'll just have to see how it goes!  I can't imagine making it all the way until June without it coming out somehow on Facebook - but I don't think I'm going to make any great effort to out myself. 

mlandwehr

i will post something so i don't feel like i am hiding it from the people that i really cant see for a often.  But with out me telling them i have alway afraid that as people find out they are going to post something and then the cat will be out of the bag on facebook. 

kread8

1. Yes we will, though probably not until after our 16 or 20 week appt (can't decide which)

2. It depends on how much you use it and if you have any oversharers as friends.  My suggestion would be to block your friends from posting on your wall if you don't want it to go public on FB. (you can change this on your profile settings)