Family middle names

cw2009

I'm in the final stretch-- 3 days till due date. We are team green and have managed to keep our name choices secret so far (of course, our family members have had plenty of suggestions throughout the pregnancy). I am getting excited to unveil our choices when this baby decides to arrive. 

We are using family names in the middle name spot. If it is a boy, the LO will have my dad's first name in the middle name spot. It just so happens that my MIL's first name is the same as my mom's middle name, so we plan to honor both by using it as a middle name if we have a girl. The only thing I am worried about is that my mom might not be thrilled about it because she has never really liked her middle name.

What do you think- is it a problem if the name you are passing on to your LO isn't liked much by a family member you are trying to honor? 

Elsa1984

I think once you mention that your LO's middle name is after two important people in you and you DH's life, your mom will get over it. 

divinemsbee

I think it kind of depends on how much she dislikes it or how often she's said such. My grandmother, who has been a constant presence in my and my siblings lives has said to both me and my sister during hypothetical conversations that she doesn't much care for either of her given names, Gladys Leila, and doesn't want a child named for her. If your mom hasn't been that specific then it'll probably be fine, plus it's a middle name and is partly for your MIL as well.

oliversmom03

Elsa1984:

I think once you mention that your LO's middle name is after two important people in you and you DH's life, your mom will get over it. 

This!  

oliversmom03

Elsa1984:

I think once you mention that your LO's middle name is after two important people in you and you DH's life, your mom will get over it. 

This!  

Guillerma

divinemsbee:

I think it kind of depends on how much she dislikes it or how often she's said such. My grandmother, who has been a constant presence in my and my siblings lives has said to both me and my sister during hypothetical conversations that she doesn't much care for either of her given names, Gladys Leila, and doesn't want a child named for her. If your mom hasn't been that specific then it'll probably be fine, plus it's a middle name and is partly for your MIL as well.

That's too bad because those are both beautiful names!
OP, no, I don't think she should mind. It's the sentiment and you are honoring two people with it.

coopsbaby

I think she'll certainly get over it, but speaking as someone who hates her middle name, it may take her a while. My parents have the same middle name (Ray/Rae) so my sister and I are both Rae. I LOATHE it, and am actually dropping it when I get married. When my son was born I got so much grief since I didn't give him Ray, and my sister followed tradition and gave Ray to her son.

 

Well, lo and behold, Ray is my fmil's maiden name. Fi is forbidden to tell her my middle name since we will not be passing that particular awfulness to any children.

I do know that my particular hatred is very uncommon though, so unless she rants about it I think you're fine. My kids all know that I refuse to acknowledge it as my name so they would never ever ever use it. I think you'd know if it was off limits! 

 

BunInTheOvenX5

I think she'll love the fact that you're honoring her. Plus it's only the mn and it might grow on your mom. She could like her own name then

MommaG123

Elsa1984:

I think once you mention that your LO's middle name is after two important people in you and you DH's life, your mom will get over it. 

This. 

groovygirl858

I think it depends on your mother. I know some would be upset if they were "honored" by naming a child the same name they personally dislike, but others would feel the sentiment outweighs the dislike of the name.