Need a good excuse

twoitalians

At my job I'm being asked if I can volunteer at an event that happens to be on a Saturday night, like the one night out of the week where I can just snuggle with DS and not worry about anything that day or the next morning. Basically, all I wanna do us spend time with my baby. I would have to find a sitter different from my mom cuz she goes out of town on the weekends and yadda yadda. I'm new at this job so I don't want to look bad to them. I work at a small university and the volunteer gig is serving a sit down dinner to the students. Is it terrible if I tell them I can't do it cuz it's my only day of quality time with DS and I would have to look for a sitter? Should I tell them something else? Should I just suck it up and do it?

loramag48

I would just tell them your only comfortable leaving your LO with your mom and since she will be out of town you cant do it. I totally understand wanting to spent time with you LO some days I just want to cry because the daycare ladies get to spend more time with Jack than I do

merricksmom

I would personally suck it up and do it.  Especially if the job is a new one.  You want them to know you are willing to go the extra mile and be flexible.  Just make sure it doesn't turn into an every other week thing.  It stinks when the precious little time you have with your LO gets cut into. 

 

klmcguire

I would just let them know that you do not have a sitter and that you would prefer a little more time to plan things like this.

Ladiebug710

Just say no and don't feel guilty.  You deserve time with LO.

downwardsunshine

I would suck it up. Work, while not everything is important. We all love our LO's and part of showing that is making sure you support them financially the best way you can.

DerpityDog

mlynne37wiu:

If you don't feel comfortable looking for a sitter, then I would just tell them that you aren't available and you already have plans.  They don't need to know that your plans include staying home and snuggling your baby.

 

This!  The less you tell them, the better.  The more you try to make excuses, the more it looks like you feel guilty about it.  Offer to do something else soon, though, so you still look like you're going the extra mile, but don't sacrifice precious baby time. They grow up too fast!

sdlaura

I would do it since it's a one-time thing and new job.  Then if they ask you another time and you don't want to, you'll be in a better position to say no.

twoitalians

Thanks ladies! I was able to politely decline without having to provide a reason but I will make sure to step up at the next event.