so how about us with empty ute syndrome?

PrincessFiona9

Eh? What's up gals? How're you handling the baby fever?

RondackHiker

I belong here, but TBH, I kinda wish I was part of the other group. Not that you ladies aren't awesome, but... Babies.

Wine O Mite

I have the fever.

And while I'm off of BCP, we aren't really trying right now.  But as you can see in my ticker, February is when we will start.

I'm excited and ready, but I know waiting until February or thereafter will work out better for us in the long run.  Andplusalso, all inclusive vacations and booze.

LuckyDad

My ute is happily unfilled.

Seriously though, with a 7 month old it's hard to imagine DW being KU right now.

MrsGoodkat

I have the fever but we're waiting about 6 months to start TTC.

HenHen25

My fever is bad. Getting jealous of random pregnant strangers bad. We're quickly approaching the 1 year TTC mark and I'm pretty bummed about that. 

KJmashup

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

LuckyDad

Wine O Mite:

I have the fever.

And while I'm off of BCP, we aren't really trying right now.  But as you can see in my ticker, February is when we will start.

I'm excited and ready, but I know waiting until February or thereafter will work out better for us in the long run.  Andplusalso, all inclusive vacations and booze.

Hey, feel free to TMI, but I have to ask. So, you're off BC, but you're not "really trying"... are you having unprotected sex that leads to the conclusion god intended? Are you just assuming no baby will happen until you start charting or what not? I guess I'm just really curious what you will do differently in Feb?

PrincessFiona9

cruelsound:

Thought for sure we had an oops baby on our hands, but my period said otherwise.

I was super bummed about it, I won't lie.

This was me a few months ago.

Karschingham

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

awww hugs, KJ.

numeria11

Count me in.  DH and I technically "trying" but in order to try one must have sex, something that has been sorely lacking this month in our way too busy schedules.  DH is super stressed at work (as in worked until 3am last night to meet a deadline), we've had several house guests, and a toddler who is suddenly going thru night terrors all of which have equaled very little sexy time.  

 Hopefully next month or January will go better and I can get KTFU and get outta here.  Part of me is fine with it being January since I would like to go on a vacation in April and want to still be comfortable in my own skin when we do.

PrincessFiona9

HenHen25:

My fever is bad. Getting jealous of random pregnant strangers bad. We're quickly approaching the 1 year TTC mark and I'm pretty bummed about that. 

Aww I'm sorry it's not happening more quickly

Wine O Mite

LuckyDad:

Wine O Mite:

I have the fever.

And while I'm off of BCP, we aren't really trying right now.  But as you can see in my ticker, February is when we will start.

I'm excited and ready, but I know waiting until February or thereafter will work out better for us in the long run.  Andplusalso, all inclusive vacations and booze.

Hey, feel free to TMI, but I have to ask. So, you're off BC, but you're not "really trying"... are you having unprotected sex that leads to the conclusion god intended? Are you just assuming no baby will happen until you start charting or what not? I guess I'm just really curious what you will do differently in Feb?

I'm charting and using OPKs, so I have a pretty good idea of when my fertile days are and we are doing the pull and pray method.  It's not fool proof and we could get pregnant sooner than we want, which would be fine. 

And when I say better for us, I'm seriously talking about wanting to drink on my vacation.  Not like we can't afford it or aren't mentally ready for it.  

And if my cycle stays consistent, I will be fertile while on that vacation, so that would be fun.  (obviously I know that it might take time...I'm just thinking optimistically). 

 

 

KJmashup

Karschingham:

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

awww hugs, KJ.

Thanks.

Sorry for being a downer here, just being honest. Sometimes I wonder what I'd do without you all here to make me laugh or think. 

KJmashup

ashleysyn2:

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

Hugs, KJ.

Thanks *sniffle* 

PrincessFiona9

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

I'm sorry. I bet that would be rough, plus with all the pregnant ladies on here too.

Glitter Pop

I have baby fever bad! But until I land a job with maternity insurance, I guess my ute will remain unoccupied.  Plus, I need to sit down with my ob and discuss the complications from LO's delivery and make sure that its not w big risk to have another child. 

Wine O Mite

HilarityEnsued:

Wine O Mite:

And while I'm off of BCP, we aren't really trying right now.  But as you can see in my ticker, February is when we will start.

I noticed your ticker the other day and I was super excited.

Plus I figure now that we Browns beat the embarrassing Steelers I'm off probation and we're friends again.

We can be friends again.  I guess

Like I said, I'm being optimistic that this could actually happen in one shot, but I hang out here enough to know that it's not that easy.  But yay!  I'm excited to start! 

Wine O Mite

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

I'm sorry KJ

 

numeria11

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

Hugs.  And you aren't being a downer you're being honest.  All of us are at different stages in this crazy journey, some just starting, some far too long, and some on hold or stopping.  Best of luck in where ever this journey ends for you guys. 

KJmashup

Thanks, y'all.

I am sincerely, genuinely thrilled for everyone here who is PG or will be soon. Really. I love living vicariously through y'all. 

PrincessFiona9

We want to wait until after next December to have a baby, as that is when I will finish school. So we're thinking about starting TTC next fall. My sister also plans to start TTC around that time. I think it would be exciting to be pregnant at the same time and have cousins so close in age, but I worry about "stealing her thunder" since it will be her first LO. That's a conversation for another day though.

I am on the fence about stopping my BCP next month and only using condoms and possibly charting for the next year as I hate the way BC affects me. FWIW SO hates the fact that my libido is almost nonexistent these days because of the BC and is fully supportive of the switch. 

KJmashup

HenHen25:

My fever is bad. Getting jealous of random pregnant strangers bad. We're quickly approaching the 1 year TTC mark and I'm pretty bummed about that. 

I'm sorry.  

PrincessFiona9

cruelsound:

Huge hugs, KJ.

PrincessFiona9:

cruelsound:

Thought for sure we had an oops baby on our hands, but my period said otherwise.

I was super bummed about it, I won't lie.

This was me a few months ago.

I just realized the other day how hard I'm taking it, which is so fvvcked up I can't even explain it.

I probably need therapy. I think I purposely pretended to freak out more than I actually was freaked out, just to hear SO say it was OK and he would be happy if we had another LO. We both want one, the timing just isn't right yet.

mben1119

Luckily, no baby fever here. DH and I are almost 100% sure we're one and done. We like our family the way it is, and I had such a terrible delivery and recovery that I don't know if I can go through that again, physically and emotionally. Once my IUD is almost up, DH is getting snipped.

Karschingham

HilarityEnsued:

KJmashup:

Sorry for being a downer here, just being honest. Sometimes I wonder what I'd do without you all here to make me laugh or think. 

Well if you weren't here it would be decidely less amusing and that would be suckass.

all of that X's 10! you crack my sh'it up like no one else.

CoffeeBeen

Hugs to Hen and KJ. 

 

 

I've got the empty ute syndrome, we've been TTC a month or two.  Pretty sure I'm going to have to wean DS before we get a bfp.  ::sigh::  I don't think either of us are really ready for that part, but the time is quickly approaching.

HenHen25

Thanks everyone. At least I can still drink to forget how long it's taking

Sonadora

If there is an opposite of baby fever, I have that.

LuckyDad

Wine O Mite:

I'm charting and using OPKs, so I have a pretty good idea of when my fertile days are and we are doing the pull and pray method.  It's not fool proof and we could get pregnant sooner than we want, which would be fine. 

And when I say better for us, I'm seriously talking about wanting to drink on my vacation.  Not like we can't afford it or aren't mentally ready for it.  

And if my cycle stays consistent, I will be fertile while on that vacation, so that would be fun.  (obviously I know that it might take time...I'm just thinking optimistically). 

Ah, gotcha. The bolded is what I'm always curious about but usually too polite to ask people IRL.

GrayGhost13

HenHen25:

Thanks everyone. At least I can still drink to forget how long it's taking

That is my consolation too! December will be 18 months TTC for us, so I'm trying to focus on having as much holiday fun as I can to keep my mind off of it.

LuckyDad

HilarityEnsued:

I was off BC for a while when we weren't "not not trying" (I'm annoying myself even typing that out).  Anyway... basically we did the pull and pray method. 

Once we got into active "trying" mode, I had a very solid idea of what date needed to be the Bone-Date.  I told DH, we did it, Munch was conceived.

See, I kinda feel like if you're pulling out, you're not trying and are preventing. I always assumed "Not Trying, Not Preventing" meant not pulling and just having sex and seeing what happened. My wife had some idea of her cycle only in the crudest sense that she wrote down when her period started and ended and happily also got horniest when she was ovulating, but our version of "trying" really was just "have a lot of unprotected sex". So yeah, I'm definitely curious about what strategies others employ.

CoffeeBeen

LuckyDad:

HilarityEnsued:

I was off BC for a while when we weren't "not not trying" (I'm annoying myself even typing that out).  Anyway... basically we did the pull and pray method. 

Once we got into active "trying" mode, I had a very solid idea of what date needed to be the Bone-Date.  I told DH, we did it, Munch was conceived.

See, I kinda feel like if you're pulling out, you're not trying and are preventing. I always assumed "Not Trying, Not Preventing" meant not pulling and just having sex and seeing what happened. My wife had some idea of her cycle only in the crudest sense that she wrote down when her period started and ended and happily also got horniest when she was ovulating, but our version of "trying" really was just "have a lot of unprotected sex". So yeah, I'm definitely curious about what strategies others employ.

That's what I thought, too.  But it's such a grey area, I bet it varies a lot.

catycate

I'm waiting anxiously for my period so we can start. I'm hoping that my irrational irritation at DH is a sign that it's coming.

LuckyDad

LoisLane23:

When I'm not on BC but not DTD on the O days, just winging it, I  consider that not trying but not preventing. Then again, PnP worked for us for 7 years.

My understanding is it's actually a pretty decent method if done with 100% proper execution. And that's where the trouble comes, pun intended. Especially if drinking is involved.

Wine O Mite

CoffeeBeen:

LuckyDad:

HilarityEnsued:

I was off BC for a while when we weren't "not not trying" (I'm annoying myself even typing that out).  Anyway... basically we did the pull and pray method. 

Once we got into active "trying" mode, I had a very solid idea of what date needed to be the Bone-Date.  I told DH, we did it, Munch was conceived.

See, I kinda feel like if you're pulling out, you're not trying and are preventing. I always assumed "Not Trying, Not Preventing" meant not pulling and just having sex and seeing what happened. My wife had some idea of her cycle only in the crudest sense that she wrote down when her period started and ended and happily also got horniest when she was ovulating, but our version of "trying" really was just "have a lot of unprotected sex". So yeah, I'm definitely curious about what strategies others employ.

That's what I thought, too.  But it's such a grey area, I bet it varies a lot.

Sometimes he doesn't pull out...but when I get a +OPK, I tell him to make sure to pull out.  But since it's not an exact science, I feel like we are playing Penis Roulette.

Ha. 

iheartsippycups

I would love to be pregnant now, but we need a bigger house (we only have 2 rooms & it's tight). The sucky part is, we can't afford a new house now. We may never end up with number two

LuckyDad

Wine O Mite:

Sometimes he doesn't pull out...but when I get a +OPK, I tell him to make sure to pull out.  But since it's not an exact science, I feel like we are playing Penis Roulette.

Ha. 

Except the Gun is always loaded!

*rimshot*

kellymacc

KJmashup:

After dealing with 2IF for about a year, we gave up. I thought I was mostly over it until I went to my OBGYN's office the other day for my annual exam. There were happy pregnant women everywhere, and I had my own memories of visiting that office many times while I was once PG. Then I got morose all over again and am having a hard time picking myself up, honestly.

 

Lurker here - I've posted one or 2 other times maybe - but your post caught my eye. Misery loves company right?

I'm sorry KJmashup!

We dealt with IF right from the get-go and our wonderful DS was finally conceived via IVF in 2010. We a few snowbabies from that cycle and decided last April to start trying again. So far we've done 2 FET cycles, only one snowbaby made it transfer and I miscarried it : (  and now we're staring down at a fresh cycle - and my baby fever is BAD. It's ok to be morose - this is HARD.

((hugs))

HenHen25

GrayGhost13:

HenHen25:

Thanks everyone. At least I can still drink to forget how long it's taking

That is my consolation too! December will be 18 months TTC for us, so I'm trying to focus on having as much holiday fun as I can to keep my mind off of it.

::hugs:: I hope it happens soon 

GrayGhost13

HenHen25:

GrayGhost13:

HenHen25:

Thanks everyone. At least I can still drink to forget how long it's taking

That is my consolation too! December will be 18 months TTC for us, so I'm trying to focus on having as much holiday fun as I can to keep my mind off of it.

::hugs:: I hope it happens soon 

Thank you! Same to you!