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August 2012 Moms
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2u2 check-in
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This weekend's excitement over 2u1 had me wondering how other August 2u2's are doing. We're graduating out next week but I don't think that's going to change much of the chaos.
So, what's been the good, the bad and the ugly so far?
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Re: 2u2 check-in
the good: the other day in the car, A (23 mos) reached over to E, said "I love you E," and blew him a kiss. I wanted to cry from the sweetness. It makes me happy that they will be companions (hopefully friends) for life
the bad: life is rather harried. A lot of strangers tell me that I look like my hands are full - I know they mean well but it makes me feel like I don't have it together.
the ugly: hands down is the fatigue. But, better to get it over with now than draw it out with a larger age gap between kids.
The bad: DD still has some super jealous moments, especially when I'm nursing DS. It makes for some very rough days.
The ugly: my PPD/PPA is about a million times worse this time around and I mostly feel like a sh.it mother to these precious babies. I love them so much it's physically painful, but I'm still finding the reality of 2u2 to be pretty harsh.
We only had 2u2 for a week after DS2 was born, so I don't really qualify, but I wanted to through this out there. A friend gave me the greatest comeback for the "you look like your hands are full" line. She says, "Better full than empty!" Love it!
The Good: DS (23 months) will give DD her pacifier if she drops it and I feel like I can trust him to be alone in a room with her while I have to grab anything somewhere else.
The Bad: On Thanksgiving, while DS was having a mini meltdown, a family member commented that he was miserable. I'm still not over that comment. Am I making my son miserable?
The Ugly: When both are crying for my attention and I'm just so exhausted I feel like I'm drowning in stuff to do to make DH happy.
The Good: DS1 (turns 2 on Sunday) absolutely adores DS2! Seriously, he is so incredibly thoughtful and wants DS2 to be big enough to play with him already LOL.
The Bad: DS1 still had so much "baby" left in him when I was pregnant and after DS2 arrived. I am still trying to make up for being unavailable to DS1, and I probably will be for a long time... I just hate that I "missed out" on so much of him growing as a toddler
The Ugly: DS1's tantrums are out. of. control. And he's started taking his frustrations out on DD. While she's bigger than him now, he will outgrow her for sure very soon. I am having a hard time getting him to understand discipline/rules/behavior/consequences. And he is so much harder to work with than DD was. Needless to say, it gets very ugly with him sometimes. Time outs all around!
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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Getting this baby sht over with all at once. We may be done now.
When Ds1 is actually nice to Ds2. He offers him food, toys and the paci. Its so sweet that I fall in love with Ds1 all over again.
And just the love I have for both of them. I didn't think I could love anyone as much as I did Griff but my heart just grew when B came.
Bad
When Ds1 gets evil and plots against Ds2. B brings out the worst in Griff.
Like what pp said about missing Ds1 growing from a baby to a toddler. The guilt kills me.
Less time for Dh and I. Our relationships on the back burner.
Ugly
I never had patience and now I feel just insanely crazy. I have seriously lost my mind. I'm so exhausted and irritable. There are times I've ran to my room to scream and obviously Ds1 hears and he just looks at me like I've grown an extra head. I'm so not a good role model. I also don't feel like I'm a good mother. Dh is way more maternal and patient with them. I suck.
I had 2 under 2 for 2 months (and played 222 in the lotto and won
)
The good- Sophia took to her brother right away. In the hospital they went to take him to the nursery and she flipped out, yelling at them to bring back her baby.
The bad- what many have already said- I feel like I missed so much of her growing into toddler world being pregnant and with having a c-section I couldn't pick her up for almost a month afterwards
The ugly- I hadn't lost all my babyweight before I got my surprise bfp so now I feel like I have double work to do.
Bad: DH is working 60 to 80 hours a week plus grad school, so I feel like a single parent and it's exhausting. DD has been colicky although she's getting better. ETA: I've also been working part time from home on top of that. I'm quitting after December.
Ugly: The other night I had to put DD to bed before DS because she was having a complete meltdown. DH was at work so I had to do something with DS while I nursed DD and put her to bed. I took him to his room and told him to play with his trucks and I'd be right back. Finished with DD and went back to his room to find him sobbing in the corner of his bed! It was awful. I'm sure he thought I abandoned him. I'll never do that again!
The good: When my older two are actually being nice to eachother seeing them play together is amazing and seeing them smile and try to play with Lilah melts my heart.
The bad: said older two are fighting like crazy lately.. I think they're both taking their frustration with a new baby out on eachother :
The ugly: My depression is getting worse every day.. I start school/work next month and I am not ready but need a break at the same time...