So we are 6 months away from TTC but I have been thinking about this lately.
DS has a family name for his mn [my grandfather/great grandfather/uncle's name]. DH does not wish to honour any family members. On my dad's side, my dad, grandfather, and GGF all have the same name, but my grandfather has proven himself to be a racist jerk over the past year and I do not want to honour him. My maiden name is a common boy's name and we had planned to use it for DS until my grandfather pulled his crap, and we ended up changing it bc DH was not comfortable with using it.
Would it be weird if just our first son had a family mn? We eventually want 4 kids, and have a multitude of family names to choose from for future daughters, but any future sons would probably just have a name we like. My two sisters have my mom's deceased sisters' names for their mns and I just have a filler name and I always felt kinda left out.
Re: Would you give a family name to just one kid?
DD1 does not have a family name, but my aunt died while I was pregnant with DD2 so her mn is my aunt's name. DC3 will have a family mn as well. I don't think it's really a huge deal.
D 2.20.2011 & Z 7.16.2013
I don't know...my relationship with my dad has become considerably more complicated since marriage and kids. It's just become a bit of a loaded name for me and all the connections to the various men in his family it has.
I have thought about using a male version of my grandmother's name- she was Frances, so Francis is pretty straightforward. Her maiden name was Evans, which is also pretty useable, except that it's quite close to a few of the names we're considering.
Luckily I have some time to ponder this, haha.
Yep. DD1 has my mom's name as her mn. DD2 is not going to have a family name because there's no one else I want to name her after.
My brother is named after both my grandpas (first and middle name). I wasn't named after anyone, just 2 names my parents liked. I don't care at all... it's never bothered me in the slightest.
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We didn't give DD a family name, but this time around we've picked family names.
All along I've wanted to use one of my grandfathers names as a MN for a boy. Last time I really liked my great grandmothers name (Nora) but DH wasn't sold. It has grown on him and its now our top choice for a girl name.