Yesterday...

JayandEmm

Was exhausting.

We had thanksgiving with my some of my mom's family out of town. Ds did good. He napped in his carseat on the way and took a cat nap while there, so he wasn't too overtired. I guess all the commotion was overwhelming, because he slept 11 straight hours last night!! He usually wakes up twice in that time period.

We stopped by MIL's in the way home, only stayed for half an hour, and we got into an argument. She asked if we started him on solids yet, I said no, he's only 3 months old. And while I was in the bathroom and DH was outside taking a phone call from his boss, she tried to give ds sweet tea. I stayed calm as long as possible, before she told me that the way I'm raising my son is bullshiit and setting him up for failure. I told her to stay out of my business, that she raised her son, now let me raise mine.

I also told her that she was not allowed to watch him anymore since she won't respect my wishes on solids and naps. DH was still outside during all of this and I walked out the door with ds. I think he called his mom later, but I don't know what he said.

rp-chicago-mom

Who cares what she said? I would be livid. It is one thing to disagree because, let's face it, our IL's ate older and their info is outdated. But to tell you you're setting him up for failure? That's just crap! I love that she waited until YH was out of the room too.

I'm sorry! She really sucks. My mom has a similar attitude. She hates that I nurse him because she likes giving bottles. She hates that I don't want him watching television because I watched it as a child. She hates that we read to him so much. I just don't get it. My solution for her is limited doses. If you can't respect me, you don't get to see my kid very much.

JayandEmm

Baker_Bride:

Who cares what she said? I would be livid. It is one thing to disagree because, let's face it, our IL's ate older and their info is outdated. But to tell you you're setting him up for failure? That's just crap! I love that she waited until YH was out of the room too.

I'm sorry! She really sucks. My mom has a similar attitude. She hates that I nurse him because she likes giving bottles. She hates that I don't want him watching television because I watched it as a child. She hates that we read to him so much. I just don't get it. My solution for her is limited doses. If you can't respect me, you don't get to see my kid very much.

DH didn't take solids until he was 9 months old, and she claims that why he was a picky eater and had stomach problems a lot, was because she didn't start him early enough. I've assured her that that was not the reason.

I've continually knocked food out of her hand since ds was 6 weeks old. She's convinced that bm is not enough, and that's why "he nurses so much". He nurses 7 times in 24 hours. That doesn't seem like a lot to me...

Eta: she's also gave me hell on swaddling. She thinks it "torturous". You know what else is torturous? Having to get up every hour because ds is a wild sleeper and still hits himself in the face.

Msbean22

Oh my god I HATE hearing sh!t like this. I get it from my mother too, but thankfully we live in different countries. 

 

rp-chicago-mom

The mental image of a little baby waking up because he hit himself in the face made me laugh. I'm going to hell apparently. Well, and Howell hits me in the face so that's no better! Tell her your bf baby won't be picky if you eat a variety of foods while nursing.

This woman has balls. I've had a lot of unsolicited advice but no one as persistent as your MIL!

lady_tytah

I'm sorry to hear about you MIL. I would be pissed if that had happened to me as well.
I ann so thankful pretty much every one I know including family bf's our are advocates ofbf'ing. My dad even educated himself on it the audience gasps
Limited visitation is definitely the key. I have more grief from the arty I discipline my oldest.

CoUnTryBB1

That sounds exhausting.   Your MIL wow that is all I can say.  I wouldn't worry about what she had to say either.  

SO Mom ask us every time we visit so when is Leah going to spend the night . . . are you frickin serious lady she is 12 weeks old.   On top of that almost every time she hold Leah she starts to scream because she doesn't seem to feel comforted (mostly because his Mom is trying to carry on conversations and pay Leah no attention almost like she is holding potatoes or something).   I try to bring her over to visit quite often in hopes that she will form a better bond with her but she is constantly telling that Leah is hungry (ten minutes after she eats I don't think so).   The best that she has come up with though is if we are in a pinch and don't have milk to fill a bottle with water and that will make her think she is full . . . roll eyes.    I don't know why I would run out of milk lady I am BF and I am pretty sure she should have a bottle of water until she is a year old.  stoping my rant now . . . you inspired me JayandEmm  hehe

punkrockabye

Wow... try to tell my kid that swaddling is tortuous when it is the ONLY thing that calms her down sometimes, and she truly loves it.

It would hit the fan of anyone tried to give my baby anything without my permission. I'd lose it.