HELP!!!

mrsacp

So DD is 10 months.  I haven't had a full night sleep in over a year.  I'm sure you all can relate to your hips hurting and having to change positions often in your last trimester last year, not to mention the bathroom runs.  Well my DD is still not sleeping through the night :-O Is anyone else's lo not sleeping through the night.  Or has anyone tried something that really works.  She doesn't get up often but wakes up once every single night.  Her doctor said not to feed her and just let her cry it out.  I just can't do it.  She starts to really ball !! And I do work. Any advice would be appreciated!!!!!  PLEASE!!! 

Ya Never Know

Is she waking up and just eating a little bit? If she's only eating a bit where it seems to be more comfort feeding than actual hunger, give her water instead. Her waking may be just out of habit.. waking up to get some milk is enticing.. waking up for water might be a little less interesting, and maybe she'll phase out that wake-up.

Take this advice with a grain of salt, it's just what I've heard/read. My DD doesn't STTN either, she's up at least once. I'll get up with her once, but if she wakes up an hour or two after that, I let her CIO... It sucks, but it has worked for us when nothing else would. She used to wake up every two hours not too long ago, so once a night for us is amazing.

shotzie

My 10 month old still gets up once or twice a night. She nurses and goes back to sleep. [She usually actually eats, but sometimes she just nurses for comfort]. There was a week or two where she didn't get up at all, but that was a while ago.

DD1 started sleeping 11 or 12 hrs straight at night around 9/10 months old. I figure DD2 will do it when she's ready.

kali55

DS still wakes up once a night or more.  I'm still BFing and planning on weaning this month and hoping he might STTN after I wean.  I'm not holding my breath though

ryry1977

My girl is almost 10 months old and still gets up at least 2 times a night   It is getting really old.  She eats both times though and I don't want to just let her cry either.  Also she shares a room with her 3 year old brother...so that would wake him up.  So I am just getting up with her for now.  Maybe once she is a year old I will only feed her once a night...if she isn't down to that on her own yet.

kmz885

I hate it when doctors say not to feed your kid in the middle of the night. If they're waking up hungry, then they're hungry. My LO still wakes up sometimes in the middle of the night wanting a cup of formula. Sometimes it lasts for a couple months, sometimes it lasts for a week.

If it is a hunger thing though you can try feeding closer to bedtime, see if that helps.

mexicolombiana

shotzie:

My 10 month old still gets up once or twice a night. She nurses and goes back to sleep. [She usually actually eats, but sometimes she just nurses for comfort]. There was a week or two where she didn't get up at all, but that was a while ago. DD1 started sleeping 11 or 12 hrs straight at night around 9/10 months old. I figure DD2 will do it when she's ready.

Similar to our situation.  My 10 month old doesn't go down until around 8 p.m and usually wakes once to eat around 4/5 a.m. then I just bring her into bed with us, nurse her and she goes back down to 7 a.m. Really it's not a big problem, and eventually I know she'll just sleep through this feeding. 

KateLouise

My LO still wakes up at least twice in the night. I've been going in and sleeping with her in a bed in her room, so we have a whole host of habits to break.

But with DD1, when she was around 9mths and waking just once in the night to nurse I did the Jay Gordon method. Essentially you reduce how much you allow them to nurse a little bit each night, until they are nursing so little it's not worth them waking up.

We got to the point where I'd count to 10 in my head, and then unlatch her. We did that for 2 nights, after that I just went in and patted her bottom. And after two nights of bottom patting she didn't bother waking.

I like this method because although they don't "need" to nurse in the night, if they're in the habit of having a good drink at night, then they need an opportunity to shift they're feeding so they're making it up at another time. Because although they don't need to eat at night, they're going to feel hungry if that's what they're used to. (In my opinion) 

It's not a quick method because it does take a few days of gradually reducing the nursing session, but it suited me and my baby. I figured I'd been waking up for so many months that a few extra nights wouldn't kill me. 

Good luck 

Helenahhandbasket

Awww...sorry you are going thru this.  It sounds really frustrating.

If your DD is only eating a little bit-- she might not be hungry.  What if you just go into her room and try to soothe her back to sleep?  Try patting/ rubbing her back?  Even if you just pick her up and rocking her for a minute or two and put her down again?

Do you keep any toys with her in the crib?  We have the Fisher Price Ocean Wonders Seahorse-- it's really cute and it lights up and plays really soothing music and makes ocean sounds.  DD has been using it to soothe herself back to sleep since she was maybe 4 mo old.  Just a thought.

 

Anyway I hope your situation gets better soon.  I am a working mom as well so I understand how important sleep is!

sunnybrook.

We did sleep training at 10 months because I wasn't functioning well waking every night. We did the Ferber method. When my DS cried, my DH would wait 5 minutes, go in and comfort him briefly. DH would leave. Let DS cry 7 minutes. Comfort. Leave. Let cry 9 minutes, etc. You continue up until a time that you're comfortable with and then just continue to repeat that time. It didn't last long once LO realized DH was going in and not me. He was STTN in two nights. I wish I had done it months earlier.

NiniJ55

I have not had a full night's sleep in about 3 years.  All I can say is that I totally understand where you are coming from and CIO was/ is not for me either.

DD does not sleep through the night.  She wakes 2-3 times for a bottle but goes right back to sleep.  DS only started STTN after DD was born. Before that he was still waking up once a night.  With all that said -- i don't have much advice but No Cry Sleep Solution helped a great deal with DS.  You have to have the patience to lose a little more sleep and really work through the tips in order for them to work.

Good Luck.

Oh, and the book was written by Elizabeth Pantley

Jolaine83

I'm with you on this too.  DD isn't sleeping through the night regularly, but she does give me a sneak peek of what life is like now and then.

 You said your LO was still waking to eat at night.  Do you nurse or feed by bottles?  If you do bottles, you could try weaning them off of them by cutting down the amount of formula in the bottle slowly.  This worked with both of my kids.  I got to 3/4 the amt of formula (so 1.5 scoops for a 4oz bottle), then down to 1/2 the amt, then down to 1/4 the amount. DS made me get to giving him water before giving them up but DD stopped wanting fed after we got to 1/4 amt.  She still wakes up at night, but it's more random now and not as long.  

Babies this age don't technically need food at night (unless there is a medical reason.)  However, like my pedi put it to me: if you start having a pizza randomly delivered at 3am each night and you eat it each night, after awhile, you start to expect it.  You wake up for the delivery whether it comes or not.  Your body anticipates it and you get hungry around that time.  But it doesn't mean you need it.  

Otherwise, i wish I could give you a magic wand to make it work. CIO wasn't right for us with DS and I'm ready to try it with DD yet.  DS didn't start sleeping through the night consistently until he was closer to 2.  He would cry out in his sleep and it would take 2-3 min to get him back to sleep each time.  Not a big deal in the whole realm of things, but still sleep disruption.  I hope DD starts STTN sooner than he did.