Need some suggestions please...

sargent85

My LO is always sick. I dont understand what it is. I fully get he goes to daycare and bla bla bla...but he is always sick. He just got over being extermly sick, and 4 days of not being sick..here he is again sick with some green and yellow boogers. Am i doing something wrong? I feel like a horriable parent..all i know is, ive missed so much work in 3 weeks, i cant even afford to pay my daycare. (Yes i have to pay even know hes not there)

foreverapartofme

You are not a horrible parent at all!  Unfortunately kids get sick and I'm sorry your LO is sick so much!  I bought nose drops for my LO for when she was sick.  I start using them right away when I notice she is getting the sniffles and it seems to help a little bit.  Good luck!

PsyDr04

I'm so glad you wrote this. I am dealing with the exact same thing. DS has been sick for much of the last 10 weeks. As a matter of fact, I just had to go get him out of his crib and put him in his swing because he keeps waking himself up coughing and then he cries when he wakes up. He has had 3 ear infections since mid-September, Roseola, and various colds. He was diagnosed with croup on Friday but I think it has since progressed into a nasty cold. The pedi said his lungs sounded good on Friday, but I'm convinced there is some nastiness in there. I am so frustrated I just want to cry and am already anticipating ear infection number 4. If that happens, he will be getting tubes. The pedi said to anticipate DS picking up a new virus every 3-6 weeks and that this is a "normal" part of them building their immune systems. Then why do I feel like DS is sick more than other kids?

To make matters worse, I feel like I have been dealing with most of this myself in these 2 months because my husband has been away from home, either working odd shifts at work or having to go to his hometown 3 hours away for various family issues. Right now, for example, he is at his grandmother's wake and is staying through tomorrow afternoon for the funeral. It seems like everytime DS gets sick, he is not home. He works every other weekend usually so I am alone then, too. It's exhausting enough when DS is well, but when he's sick neither one of us gets any sleep (me or DS). I also work but work as a contract psychologist in a private practice so if I'm not there I don't get paid. No paid sick days. It seems like I'm the one always having to cancel clients which is not good for my business because these people rely on me. I've already cancelled 3 days in the last couple of weeks and I'm not keen to do it again, though if baby boy is not any better tomorrow or has fever, I'm going to have to since hubby is not available (yes, DS is in daycare as well and we also have to pay regardless of whether he is there or not).

I don't see myself getting any sleep tonight, just like last night. I had to either put him in his swing or rock him all night long last night. I know I'm going to get sick from the stress and lack of sleep. I keep waiting for a break, but it never comes. I don't work on Fridays so that is my day to sleep, but so far, something always comes up or there are other things that need to get done, so that never happens either.

I literally just want to sit and bawl my eyes out. When my husband left this morning he said, "I'm sorry, I know it's hard". The thing is that he really doesn't know. He has no idea what I've been dealing with. Moms don't get a break and I feel totally overwhelmed and alone lately.  

I hope your LO feels better soon. I can completely empathize.