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ExcitedFTM

In case you already loked at my preggers post before I edited.

Edit: just read the posts you guys sent me and my DH has NEVER cheated on me!! We've been married over 2 years and he's amazing. He's also a pastor, yes. Never, ever cheated on me. We worked out what we needed to and saw a counselor. He's been really amazing and a lot of the feeling bad about my weight came from old habits and me taking things the wrong way. He still said some hurtful things at some point, but I forgave him and he's been truly sweet since. All I can say is wow, I can't believe how much I got attacked. We wanted 2u1 and this LO is amazing, sleeps great, never cries and I'm so in love with her and being a mommy has been easy and natural and I can't wait to have this next LO.

irer

ExcitedFTM:

We wanted 2u1 and this LO is amazing, sleeps great, never cries and I'm so in love with her and being a mommy has been easy and natural and I can't wait to have this next LO.

congrats and good luck to you ... This part of your post grabbed me, though. Your baby never cries? Sleeps great? Wow! Hope your next one is just as easy and if not, that you will adjust accordingly.  You have been a mommy for only a few months and it won't all be easy even with the easiest kid. I think if you go into this with open eyes you will have a better time of it. 

ExcitedFTM

I'm out. You guys are vultures.

Tula214

There's no doubt that I wish you the best of luck.

You never told us in the past that you guys were all peaches and cream again. You only told us he said something very bad to you, which you wouldn't even tell us what that was, and that he was very hurtful towards you.

It's only been 3 months, and I can't imagine dealing with 1st tri issues with a teething baby, or chasing around a crawling or walking infant 9 months pregnant. Like I said, you are brave. Crossing my fingers you have a easy pregnancy, and that you and your H stay happy.

merricksmom

Technically vulture would be correct. When you leave your proverbial "roadkill" out there for all to see, people WILL pick at it. What do you expect?

garciasgal

Yes, I sincerely hope your next LO is as "easy" as your first. I also was blessed with a good baby and although both DH and I want more, when the time comes I'll be nervous if the next happens to be a lot more work.

xxbabycakesxx

2u2 is effing hard for us, theres no way I'd want 2u1! Ds1 was a fairly easy baby but Ds2 is worse. And to have to take care of a newborn with a toddler? Its hell... but worth it. So, like I mentioned in your preggers post, you'll probably go insane but who isn't? Lol

GL!

Bemyselfandi

irer:

ExcitedFTM:

We wanted 2u1 and this LO is amazing, sleeps great, never cries and I'm so in love with her and being a mommy has been easy and natural and I can't wait to have this next LO.

congrats and good luck to you ... This part of your post grabbed me, though. Your baby never cries? Sleeps great? Wow! Hope your next one is just as easy and if not, that you will adjust accordingly.  You have been a mommy for only a few months and it won't all be easy even with the easiest kid. I think if you go into this with open eyes you will have a better time of it. 

you said it best. I have a beast of a toddler who was THE best baby. He never cried, he never had a problem sleeping, was great with anyone watching him. My second...not so much. I honestly thought my kids would be the same. Duh. I'm so stupid.

rainedrops117

i had 2u1..(both born Oct each year) and my second was a preemie w/special needs. It was insanely hard but you learn to adapt. Not that we expected the complication. Fast fwd years later and we're all fine very close to each other and I LOVE having stair step kids. I call them my first generation kids. 

You are brave and it sounds like you and DH are in a good place right now (hopefully) so all the best to you! But seriously vultures... ppl are just voicing concerns. you should be taking note!

 

merricksmom

And a shit_ton of booze.

beckyfarrelly

Wow! I seem to have missed a lot this morning!!

CLeigh03

C_mo:

BayleighPaws:

Can I recommend getting a puppy? It's cute when babies and puppies can grow up together.

I have 6 you can choose from. I'm only half kidding.

Btw, Scout, you're amazing. 

Agree. Can she be our board president?

garciasgal

CLeigh03:

C_mo:

BayleighPaws:

Can I recommend getting a puppy? It's cute when babies and puppies can grow up together.

I have 6 you can choose from. I'm only half kidding.

Btw, Scout, you're amazing. 

Agree. Can she be our board president?

Seriously love that idea.

thepretzelchick

CLeigh03:

C_mo:

BayleighPaws:

Can I recommend getting a puppy? It's cute when babies and puppies can grow up together.

I have 6 you can choose from. I'm only half kidding.

Btw, Scout, you're amazing. 

Agree. Can she be our board president?

I support this idea

daniellelovesjacob

stephaniemthomas:

But guys...her H has been sweet for TWO WHOLE WEEKS! So obvs their marriage is totally fine and the whole verbal abuse can't forgive what you said thing totes doesn't matter anymore.

Good thing your H is a pastor because you guys need all the prayers you can get!

Omg you crack me up. Lol.

Tula214

thepretzelchick:

CLeigh03:

C_mo:

BayleighPaws:

Can I recommend getting a puppy? It's cute when babies and puppies can grow up together.

I have 6 you can choose from. I'm only half kidding.

Btw, Scout, you're amazing. 

Agree. Can she be our board president?

I support this idea

I second, or third this.

Stephaniethomas... You took the words right out of my mouth.

MoFree

After reading posts like this, I can see the advantage of requiring ART and having to plan when to TTC again.

I don't know of a single person or couple who has not benefitted from therapy with a skilled counselor. That would include you and your husband.

GL to you and your family. And please stop using the term Preggers.

phq2011

Scout2005:

Look OP, in all seriousness, I hope you go through with counseling, for you individually and with your husband as well.

Babies only underline, underscore and enhance pre-existing issues, personal and as a couple. Clearly there are things at play that need to be addressed, and having another baby will not make them magically go away. Having TWO babies under the age of one can only make it that much worse.

I'm not saying that to be a jerk. But you seem to be in denial over things that you yourself brought to our attention.

My relationship is living proof of that. My husband was a great guy and he got so frustrated from all he was handling that he shook our son. I hope it works, and like I said, congrats, but please be cautious and don't expect roses. DH and I want more children, but he has a lot of progress to make before we get back together totally or even consider #2. I expect at least 2 more years before we even talk about TTGP.

klmcguire

stephaniemthomas:

But guys...her H has been sweet for TWO WHOLE WEEKS! So obvs their marriage is totally fine and the whole verbal abuse can't forgive what you said thing totes doesn't matter anymore. Good thing your H is a pastor because you guys need all the prayers you can get!

HAHHA!!! Thanks for this!!!

Seriously Good Luck wtih 2u1!1 I hope it works out very well for you!

Jnmac83

ExcitedFTM:

I'm out. You guys are vultures.

I feel like you should have been nominated for the drama award now.

AprilAngie

Wow !

Op: I agree with scout and c_mo. Sometimes true friends will tell you theory even if it isn't something u want to hear. I further agree that ANY issues you have many magnify further as baby gets older and comes into the world. If u have a daughter; not sure Los gender, think if you don't get help for your issues you could pass one to your child. Sometimes our dreams can't come true because if our reality. Not o say they won't happen but maybe not the way we planned.
Sorry you took offense but truly, I hope you get the help in ur relationship before bringing another child into the world

sourapplemartini

Scout2005:

Babies only underline, underscore and enhance pre-existing issues, personal and as a couple. Clearly there are things at play that need to be addressed, and having another baby will not make them magically go away. Having TWO babies under the age of one can only make it that much worse. 

 

This times a billion.

DD was great-- STTN at 6w, totally chill baby. DS1 didn't STTN until he was 15m old and was a much more "needy" baby. I would have lost my shti with 2u1.