not sure what to do?

mtm0109

We don't have a first name chosen for DD but I keep thinking about middle names. With DS we honored my father, one of DHs brothers & DHs grandfather. So we tied in both sides of the family and used James.

Rewind to 2 weeks ago MIL messages me wanting to know if we will be using her name anywhere in DD name and she also suggested using letters from her name and my moms to make a middle name.. I was kind of dumb struck by this. Im not super close with my MIL and she doesn't have a middle name and her first name is not one I would choose (Tre.na {period for google search purposes}) My mothers middle name is Marilyn (first name Barbara) which I like and I also like Lyn/Lynn. But now I feel like we can't use just my mothers name.

 What would you do? Anyone use letters from names to form a name...
A few names from the moms names I have come up with

Mary
Mae/May
Lyn/Lynn
Breanna
Brenna
Bree

Any other ideas?

TIA!

LadyXaverian

Did you already have a name chosen? What did you say to your MIL?

I probably would have responded, "We do have a name chosen!" and I would have been honest with her about whether or not her name was going to be a part of it. I think. But my MIL never put me in that position, so... Awkward.

CeCe8579

jenniferb123006:

You don't owe anyone an honor name. You choose to honor people that are important to you and your DH. If you want to honor MIL that's fine, but don't do it because she is pushing it.

This but I do love Bree!

quidditchcapn1120

I also like Bree. But I don't think you should honor someone's name just because they are pressuring you to do so.

mtm0109

Thank you for your responses.

I simply told her we hadnt even thought of middle names yet because we do not even have a first name chosen.

She responded with another awkward comment.. oy.

I would love to honor my mother but of course I would because my mother is amazing and I love her to the moon. I also hate feeling like I would leave someone out.  Yeesh.

krdietzel

What an awkward position she put you in. Does she have a maiden name that would give some more options?

LaineyPaney

I would be absolutely offended by her suggestions.

My2cents4u

I would ignore her unless you wanted to combine the names. If you come up with a FN you love and a MN to go with it then name your baby those names.

Ones that come to mind using the names are Marina, Lynna, Marlina, but I would not be pushed by her rudeness. She spoiled not only the naming, but had you thought of honoring her it would now feel forced.

mtm0109

Oh love Marina!
And Melina just came to mind too


No, her maiden name wouldn't work.
Thanks for the input ladies :