It was so horrible. LONG.

pearblossom

My ILs are crazy. Most of them are loveable and harmless. A few are not as harmless but still loveable and very entertaining. And then there is SMIL.

Our Thanksgiving prayer covered the Illuminati, our government trying to start WWIII, and this "precious little mountain where we can all grow a bunch of marijuana"

She got falling down drunk and wouldn't stop mumbling about pyramids and then cried because I don't bf anymore. And then she gave some random guest a foot massage.

She groped the pregnant girl until she begged for help.

She told me I look exhausted. And then fondled my face creepily while cooing about my complexion.

The next day...

She made 2682093 comments about my mothering. Letting the baby fuss, not letting him fuss, what I feed him, how I diaper him....all wrong. Because he's teething and she knows the signs. Every noise he made, "oh he's teething. Just look at him" No biitch, he's hungry and you won't get out of his face.

I asked her to let me be done taking pictures so I could help MH tend to my crying kids and she flipped out because "she has studied photography and this lighting is perfect" (no she hasn't).

When I walked away she burst into tears and wailed to MH for a good half an hour how much I hate her. I am proud to say that he stood up for me, we packed our things and left. However, she is so deep into her alcoholism that it won't make any difference and she probably won't remember it.

Confession. Sometimes I pray that she succumbs before all our kids are old enough to really see it or understand it. 

It was good to see everyone else and I had a lovely time staying up all night drinking tea and hearing my crazy FIL's life story. But that woman has it out for me. Sorry this is so rambling, I took my maximum Ativan dose in the car and am now sort of half laying on the floor. Happy Thanksgiving!

pearblossom

oh! AND she said a bunch of ridiculous blasphemous shiit to my daughter about how God hears her prayers better than other people's. So wrong on so many levels. Now I have to get all proactive about religion and unpick that damage.

thetheisens

Ugh, this is why I'm the weird quiet girl in the corner when go to dh's family stuff. I hope next time is better, What a train wreck SMIL is.

Sammy-Mae

I can totally relate to this.  I am so sorry.  If it's any consolation I didn't clue into my grandmother's alcholism until I was about 14. When I was little I just thought she was crazy and ignored what she said unless it was a funny story about my dad.

Creedon778

That sucks pear. Alcoholism is some crazy sh!t and your kids having to be exposed to all of that adds another layer of complexity to parenting. I'm glad to hear your DH stood up for you. I hope you can avoid her until next thanksgiving. ::Internet hug::

missyishere

I can also relate. My dad is doing very similar things while visiting. He's been here since Tuesday, and he's staying until Monday. I'm pissed he's acting like his drinking isn't an issue. He's had addiction issues of all sorts in the past, so alcohol is not harmless for him to consume. He's the only parent I have left, so it really enrages me when he's so irresponsible. Sorry for my own rant. I had no idea my grandma was an alcoholic either until recent years. She gave no impression she was even remotely tipsy. I just figured the beer in her hand was just one. I guess it waz just one right after another, after another...Kids just think, "well, that's just our cooky grandma."

HappyAardvark

What the eff. That is some outer limits s hit right there for an ADULT to have to deal with. Maybe it's easier for kids, though, since most adults feel the need to put some kind of framework of context around people and situations, while most kids are just accepting of these things at face value, kwim?

What does yh say? I wouldn't be surprised if it's tough for him to deal.

Brie2006

Ugh. I would be infuriated beyond belief over commenting on my parenting or acting inappropriately around my children.

The prayer part is pretty funny though. The illuminati?! Did you laugh?