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February 2012 Moms
lancyjo
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IL Friday!
lancyjo
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Go ahead, vent about those wacky in-laws!
Or, gloat... but do this at your own risk! 
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Re: IL Friday!
MIL and I had a good day yesterday. I cooked most of it, she helped when I needed a hand. I drank wine most of the day, so maybe that helped, but it was much better than expected.
I had a chance to meet some of DHs grandmother's sisters on Wednesday, though. Of course, it was right around naptime and Laura was really crabby. She fussed to get to DH, and they're all like, "she's such a daddy's girl. You work all the time, don't you? Probably not spending much time at all with her, which is why she prefers H so much more". If they hadn't been little old ladies, I just might have smacked them.
Mine isn't nearly as bad as I was expecting. We didn't even have to use our "escape plan" early. (We still left after 2 hours, but that was the plan from the start)
FIL wouldn't speak to me. I legitimately tried to speak to him on 3 different occasions, and he completely ignored me. Not the "oh! I didn't hear you!" kind of ignored me, but the "I can't stand you so I'll walk away after you say something directly to my face" kind of ignored me. Apparently he has settled the blame for our issues squarely on my shoulders. That's fine... it makes him look like an @ss, not me. He did, however, dote all over SIL, then try to catch my eye as if to rub it in my face. I hate to tell him, but if SIL is the kind of person he likes to dote on, I'd rather be shunned.
MIL was halfway okay. Aria let MIL hold her long enough for hubs and me to eat, so of course MIL had to grab BIL's baby and get eleventybillion pictures of it. I guess I should just be glad she was "happy" to hold my baby, and be happy that it made hubs happy, but I can't help but see through her... I see that she was only doing it because she had an audience. Once Aria quit playing with the other baby and realized that it wasn't me holding her, she screamed until I took her back. That kind of made it satisfying.
Oh, and this SIL who was sugary sweet when texting me last weekend about what size Aria wears? Barely spoke to me in person, and when she did it was to try to one-up everything that Aria's doing. Her baby is maybe a little behind the "normal" range of milestones, but nothing terrible... but Aria is ahead in quite a few of them and I guess it makes her insecure. Whatever it is, she just manages to make me furious by trying to one-up and dismiss Aria. Why can't we just enjoy our babies at the stages they're in?!
Overall, this Thanksgiving was much more successful with my ILs than I'd imagined it'd be. It makes me glad for hubs' sake.
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My day started early. Hayley has been fighting her naps. So I FINALLY get her to cave and MIL calls. Wide awake again.
She called to complain cuz FIL only made one pie and they have some cookies. Am I bringing cupcakes? Cuz we don't have enough desserts.
wat? I had asked if she had any cake mix on hand cuz a few days ago she was wanting her 80 something yr old mother to go get a cake...So I offered. She said o no no don't worry about it. I'll ask her. oooook. So now she thought I baked a dam cake? I'm not making it now! I'm trying to get Hayley to sleep and I don't have a car (DH was golfing) or any cake mix (and we are due to be there in 3 hours). Besides - you said not to worry about it! Grrr.
Ok - well - after 10 more min of "o dear - what will we do?" we moved on. Thankfully - my mother brought 2 pies, peanut butter fudge pumpkins, brownies, and cobbler. MIL was so thrilled. Yay mom!
Thing is...I never saw MIL eat any dessert...
I was also kinda irritated that she held my daughter as my mom reached out to hold her as though Hayley was afraid of her and had to warm up to her (she hasn't seen her in a month - and Hayley is perfectly fine with her - no crying fits) I almost literally ripped her out of her arms and passed her off. Enough of the 10 min "you wanna see grandma? no? awww it's ok!" She wasn't even shying away. The kid was tired because you kept her from her dang nap talking to me about desserts on the phone!
I feel like I just went on a rampage! Honestly - it wasn't too bad. Just a few little things that got on my nerves. That and grandma basically said I have no right to be judgmental when I barely had money myself growing up. (goes with a story of me agreeing with a friend when she called her neighborhood "the ghetto" when we were kids cuz low income families lived there - she was low income...) Nice. Now I'm a judgmental witch. Love it.
TTC #2 since 10/2013
BFP #1 (4.14.14) ~ CP (4.18.14)
BFP #2 (6.27.14) ~ EDD 3.7.15
I actually felt really bad because my family ate much later then was planned so we didn't get to my ILs until almost 7. Luckily the girls took a nap in the car so they stayed up until 8 so at least my ILs got a little time with them. My MIL went on and on all night about Olivia's hand and how everyone has to be more careful round them and we have to watch them and blah, blah, blah. Everyone, including FIL, told her that accidents will happen so I felt a little better. But she kept them overnight again and I got to sleep in and will be running errands in a few minutes so I can't complain!
My inlaws think my baby is obese. Seriously.
They always make comments about DS' weight any chance they get. He recently had his 9 month appt and was in the 15th percentile for weight and 25th for height...he is not fat by any means. We even showed them the paper we got from our pedi with all the numbers on it. They said it must be incorrect or that todays standards are different...
Seriously? WTH? All I ever hear from them is how he is so big, and how we have to watch out about him developing fat cells. FIL even said DS gets around easily because he is so big he can just roll every where... And they wonder why SIL is anorexic (when she was younger she had to go to a therapist for it) and DH has body image issues.
If your baby is obese - then mine is in need of a forklift since she weighs in the 90th percentile and is 75th for height...
***runs out to Home Depot to buy forklift for 9 month old child***
TTC #2 since 10/2013
BFP #1 (4.14.14) ~ CP (4.18.14)
BFP #2 (6.27.14) ~ EDD 3.7.15
Ugh, I'm so sorry! It sucks when people are that focused on weight!
I'm on the opposite end of this conversation... My family is used to having super chubby babies, and Aria just isn't. She's 75th percentile for weight and 95th for height. (as of 7 months) She's long and lean, which definitely isn't the norm around here. I'm constantly getting "wow, I can't believe how skinny she is! I'm just used to more chub on a baby! It must be because she's so active. She's just a skinny little thing!" comments.
Um, well, she's actually not that skinny. She's just not overly chubby. It's annoying, regardless.
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I got multiple negative comments about how I was STILL nursing the baby. Gmil said "with all that table food she ate she doesn't need milk". Dh set them straight but it still pissed me off. Then mil came out to the car as we were packing up and asked (accused) me if I took one the pies. Her tone was priceless. So I told her that HER daughter packed it up with her stuff. She took a breath and walked back in.
I think you were the bumpie who said their MIL wanted them to pay for their meal.. How did that go?
The girls are small so my ILs don't say anything yet but H has body image issues because of them and they've made comments in the past about my weight. I've told H that I don't care how much the girls love them or they love the girls, they will get one warning and then will be cut off with this crap. I will not have my daughters devolving an ED because of stupid crap these people say. I usually am good about holding my tongue with them and letting H handle things but if either of the girls come home and say that my ILs said something about their weight I will hit the roof. I get angry just thinking about it! I would not be able to handle listening to your ILs if I were you.
My in laws are great, I really can't complain. But a couple of silly things.
1. My MIL made six pies for six of us. Two apple, two pumpkin, and gluten free pecan (I eat GF), and a pumpkin cheesecake. We ate maybe a third of the first four, didn't touch the second apple or pumpkin. And then they left them here, where only H can eat them. Her heart was in the right place, but that is a TON of pie for this few people.
2. BIL apparently complained to MIL that our dinner (the one that my mother and I make) isn't traditional enough (which I think just means that he misses stove top stuffing, because our dinner isn't that unusual), so tomorrow she is making a whole second Thanksgiving dinner just for them. Which wouldn't be a big deal, except that she kept talking about it. How she didn't want any leftovers because she was making a whole other dinner on Saturday, etc. She's even making them more pies, because apparently H HAD to have these (so she said not him).