It depends on what style you want.... the backpack style disguises pretty well. The shoulder bag version can look almost like a laptop bag depending on the style. I have a green Columbia shoulder or messenger bag that looks somewhat like a laptop bag that worked well.
Have him pick out one that works for the both of you. Unless you want a really girly one and use it as a purse, there is really no need to have two diaper bags.
For me, it doesn't matter what others think so I have a more traditional diaper bag that is shared.
I'm thinking shoulder bag style - we're going to get two more for convenience than in order to conform to gender norms - although the title of my post probably belied that a little
I'm going to look into Columbia brand on your advice - thank you!
Hello fellas, any recommendations for a good diaper bag for dads? Thank you...
To add on to this question, I am looking for a good manly diaper bag that could even double as a gym bag. I can't ask my Husband as its a christmas gift for him. I'm making him the daddy-survival bag for christmas as we are due December 23rd and this is our first go at this Need some good guy tips
Got my husband a bag from Target (online) called the "Diaper Dude". It's a black messenger bag with white skulls on it. He really likes it. It comes in other "manly" colors, like camouflage and looks more like a laptop bag than a diaper bag.
Re: Manly Man Diaper Bag?
Have him pick out one that works for the both of you. Unless you want a really girly one and use it as a purse, there is really no need to have two diaper bags.
For me, it doesn't matter what others think so I have a more traditional diaper bag that is shared.
I'm thinking shoulder bag style - we're going to get two more for convenience than in order to conform to gender norms - although the title of my post probably belied that a little
I'm going to look into Columbia brand on your advice - thank you!
To add on to this question, I am looking for a good manly diaper bag that could even double as a gym bag. I can't ask my Husband as its a christmas gift for him. I'm making him the daddy-survival bag for christmas as we are due December 23rd and this is our first go at this
Need some good guy tips 
I just bought this diaper bag for my man for Christmas...
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000G2B2QI/ref=oh_details_o01_s01_i00