Um, that was awkward.

greenteabee

So earlier I got a call from a woman and she said that she heard I was placing my boys for adoption and somebody gave her my number, that her and her husband wanted to adopt them....  and I just... I'm not even sure if that was rude or not. I said "Now's not a good time" and hung up, so I know that was probably rude but geez... I just don't know who would give my number out to have somebody inquire about my boys...

LIQueen

Have you told people you want to put them up for adoption?

greenteabee

LIQueen:

Have you told people you want to put them up for adoption?

I have told people I'm considering placing them, yeah. I just don't know why somebody would give my number out without asking me.

missred75

Wow. Really presumptuous! If they call back, I would ask who it was that gave them your number!

steph196

I would be so angry! That is not okay. 

greenteabee

missred75:

Wow. Really presumptuous! If they call back, I would ask who it was that gave them your number!

I will! I can't imagine it's actually somebody who I'm friends with, it's probably more of an acquaintance.

Ginny0211

Wow. Sorry that happend to you. I have no idea what I would of said. That is a real catch you off guard moment. Hope you find out who gave out your number so you can inform them that it would be more considerate to talk to you first. 

I was pulled out of math class once by one of the school counselors because she wanted to ask me on behalf of a couple she knew if they could have my baby. I had already picked my baby's parents at that time so I informed her of that and then she quickly sent me back to class with not much else to say. Didn't ask me if I was ok or how I was handling the whole teenage pregnancy thing. Great counselor! Ugh. 

lizlemon2

Sorry, that must have been uncomfortable.

IRR

So sorry that happened.  I think you handled that quite well, I may have gotten really nasty and been like "who the h*?# gave you my phone number and don't ever call here again".  So many people think they are being helpful when in reality they just don't get it.  I don't care if you are trying to adopt or thinking about making a birth plan for your children whoever gave out your number without at least giving you a heads up was way out of line.  

DaisyZH

Definitely try and find out who gave out your number, that is very disrespectful.  I have no idea what I would have said, I think you handled it well.

MagickalNarwhal

Omg gross!!! I'm sorry! How totally inappropriate.

CaptainSerious

If you hear from them again, I would explain that while you understand they might be feeling desperate for a child, you simply couldn't imagine letting someone raise your children who would be so callous as to cold-call an expectant mother and ask to adopt her children out of the blue and without any other information.  I swear, anyone who would do that clearly thinks that you have no attachment to or care for your children, or they couldn't fathom asking you to let a total stranger raise them without giving you any indication of their redeeming qualities.  As of right now, all you know of them is their greed (or grief, that might push them to do such a crazy thing)!

I would also try to find out who passed along your number, so you know who in your life needs to gain a lot more understanding of what you are feeling, experiencing, and going through.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that!  In fact, I'm outraged for you! 

srmmm09

Ginny0211:

Wow. Sorry that happend to you. I have no idea what I would of said. That is a real catch you off guard moment. Hope you find out who gave out your number so you can inform them that it would be more considerate to talk to you first. 

I was pulled out of math class once by one of the school counselors because she wanted to ask me on behalf of a couple she knew if they could have my baby. I had already picked my baby's parents at that time so I informed her of that and then she quickly sent me back to class with not much else to say. Didn't ask me if I was ok or how I was handling the whole teenage pregnancy thing. Great counselor! Ugh. 

Wow, gross. 

srmmm09

Given the circumstances, I think that was actually a pretty benign response! Sometimes I think people get so wrapped up in their own "journey" that they forget that the other side of the adoption equation is actually a real person.

Who on earth, in a moment of calm, would really think that calling a person and asking to parent their child is a wise decision? Or even a sane one? Seriously. I can understand calling and asking if they had contact info for a local agency (even the agency they're working with)...

Michelle3081

Seems like it is either a scam or a really desperate couple going through the phone book. 

Earlier this year hubby and I got several texts from a 14-year-old saying she was pregnant, scared, and found our profile on our agency site.  She went in to this whole story about her pregnancy and even sent us ultrasound images she found on the Internet.   By asking her several specific questions we found out she was pranking us.