So a little background. Dh and I have been married 4.5 years, when we met he was active army, 101st, airborne infantry. He got out right before we got married. Currently he is an army reserve instructor as an E6. He will be finishing up his degree in a couple of months and is thinking about going active again, possibly as an Officer, if his packet is up to par, we're pretty positive it is. Because of some things I've gone through, my college boyfriend died very suddenly after being together for 2 years, I have asked him not to branch infantry. Though I know the army will put him where they need him. I know there's danger in all aspects of army careers but I'm just so scared of losing ANOTHER significant other. I'm also having a hard time with the idea of leaving my career I make a really good income, I'm the bread winner for the family and I'm proud of that... But then there's the allure of the army affording me to stay home with our kiddo... I'm not worried about moving around or making new friends... That excites me! I know I can handle time apart from each other for schools, etc. I know I am strong mentally as I have handled a lot of heart ache and change and have never been one to slip into a deep depression, etc. I just always think, "well, it could be worse!" And Unfortunatly, from first hand experience I know it can!
How do you guys handle the fear of losing a spouse? I know I'm in a more unique position than most... I just feel so terrible because the only thing keeping DH from submitting that package is ME. The second I give the go ahead he'll pounce, he misses the army that much.
Do the majority of you ladies enjoy the army life? ... I think I could ... I know I'm the only one who can make the decision for me...I guess I'm just looking for some different perspectives.