Does it make you sad...

jja0812

...when you think about all the things that your LO will never remember? Anything from silly little things to aging family members who certainly won't be around in a few years. For breakfast this morning I made a miniature "Julian-sized" omelet. Sure, I will make many more omelets in the years to come, but he won't remember the first one, which he happily devoured, sitting in his high chair in this little kitchen that he also will not remember because we'll be moving soon. He won't remember how he wiggled under the loveseat, while I watched, amused and wondering what the heck he was doing, until he surfaced very proudly with a cheerio.

Ack. I can be very sentimental...

MrsLindinger0905

And now I'm crying. I'm such a sap!

For real though, I've thought about this a lot. It's not only about what she won't remember, but it's about the little things that I'm afraid I won't remember. I've been doing my best to preserve memories by keeping up to date on her baby book, writing in my own journal, taking lots of pictures, and trying to scrapbook. (trying lol). I created an email address specifically for her, and passed the address out to a lot of friends and family members, and have encouraged everyone to send as many emails as they want to her. I'll share that with her when she's older, and she'll be able to read everyone's memories of her, including people who may not be in her life when she's older.

ALane1128

I'm crazy sentimental and overly-emotional lol so YES I think about this ALL the time! DH thinks I'm crazy

lancyjo

Don't feel bad. I cry about this sometimes.

My Mamaw is 80, and has a rapidly spreading cancer. (It originated as breast cancer and is moving up. It'll be in her brain by Aria's first birthday at this rate. We'll be lucky if she's here next year) Mamaw is the most wonderful woman. She's kind, caring, squishy... just the perfect example of what a Mamaw should be. "I adore her" doesn't even touch it.

Aria loves her so much. They're really close... and in all likelihood, Aria won't remember her. Heaven is a little too far away.

And I'm crying... like crocodile tears, have to leave my desk crying.

Jen0204

I get sad a lot thinking that I'll never go through this stuff again.  Don't get me wrong, I am THRILLED that we only have to deal with the exhaustion and not sleeping once, but I'm sad that I will never feel a baby kick inside of me again, sad that I'll never cuddle with my newborn baby again, sad that I'll never get to experience seeing a baby going from being this little helpless newborn to the increasingly independent babies we have now.  These past 10 months have been exhausting but they have also been hands down the most rewarding, fulfilling, and amazing 10 months of my life. 

firewife9278

I do too!

We're moving next month, and I'm sad that she'll never know the house we brought her home to (though on the other hand, I'm glad because we're in a condo with HORRIBLE downstairs neighbors so she'll never remember all the loud fights/swearing/pounding etc).

I take a zillion pictures of everything, because I don't want to forget either. She is (and always will be) our only child. We only get to do these "firsts" once.

redheadscu

Yes, it does. Sometimes I feel bad, because I don't think I did enough to preserve each of those memories. Like I didn't take enough picutres on Halloween, I haven't updated his My First Year Calendar enough, etc. It makes me feel less guilty about not "capturing" every moment in the right way, when I think about a quote from the book White Oleander, where the main character, who is a foster child is selling her Christmas dress from when she lived with a foster mom that she loved. Her new foster family is selling most of her things (and a lot of their own too) to make money. And the foster brother talks to her about how he can tell that this nice dress was special to her, held a lot of memories, and he says, "You want to remember? So, just remember."

It also helps me fight off my more hoarderish tendencies.

firewife9278

Jen0204:

I get sad a lot thinking that I'll never go through this stuff again.  Don't get me wrong, I am THRILLED that we only have to deal with the exhaustion and not sleeping once, but I'm sad that I will never feel a baby kick inside of me again, sad that I'll never cuddle with my newborn baby again, sad that I'll never get to experience seeing a baby going from being this little helpless newborn to the increasingly independent babies we have now.  These past 10 months have been exhausting but they have also been hands down the most rewarding, fulfilling, and amazing 10 months of my life. 

Yes. This.

Now I'm crying too. I'm blaming it on my cough if anyone walks by my cube in the next 10min or so.

amber31288

I think of this kind of stuff often, and it does make me sad, especially with the upcoming holidays! However, for the bigger things, like the holidays and the special people in your life, like lancy's Mamaw, I think taking pictures is a great way to show them the memories when they are older. My mom took sooo many pictures of me and my childhood, and I loved looking at our photo albums as a little girl. To the point where, I swear I remember my first and second Christmas and Birthday because I have seen the pictures SO much and my mom would tell me all the little details about these special days. I can tell you what I got on my second Christmas and I feel like I have these memories because I've seen them so much. That is what I really hope to do for DD. I am obsessed with taking pictures and we have a lot hanging around the house and I need to get better at making picture books as well. But, I hope DD is as into looking at the pictures and hearing about the memories as I was. And that is what I keep telling myself as the holidays are approaching! Yes, DD won't remember this, but I need to document it, so I can show these exciting months to her later on, and I think she will grow to treasure those memories just as much.

Jen0204

firewife9278:

Yes. This.

Now I'm crying too. I'm blaming it on my cough if anyone walks by my cube in the next 10min or so.

Aww, I'm sorry!

poobear2015

This is why I'm happy that I braved black friday 6 months pregnant last year for a camcorder. I would do it again to have been able capture Hayley at 1 day old in the hospital and thousands of other 2 min videos since!

My parents didn't get a video camera til I was 3 - but with my little brothers, they get to see what happened that they have no memory of. I like being able to see my few birthdays that I can't remember. 

I almost want to start a little photo journal for Hayley too (not a scrapbook exactly - like a little diary) that I can give her when she leaves for college that she can read and have a little insight to what was going on that she'll never remember like I will. Maybe she'd appreciate seeing her past through my eyes.

And now I'm feeling blue  sigh....

Lena122

We're moving next month and it makes me sad to think that he won't remember his first house. This is where we brought home our little newborn, where his first nursery is, where he learned to roll and sit and crawl... :

lancyjo

Lena122:

We're moving next month and it makes me sad to think that he won't remember his first house. This is where we brought home our little newborn, where his first nursery is, where he learned to roll and sit and crawl... :

Now I will never be able to move. Ever.

MrMrsandBaby

lancyjo:

Lena122:

We're moving next month and it makes me sad to think that he won't remember his first house. This is where we brought home our little newborn, where his first nursery is, where he learned to roll and sit and crawl... :

Now I will never be able to move. Ever.

And just to add in a little crazy - I got in a car accident about two months ago and when they totaled my car I lost it...that is the car Allison came home in.  I'm tearing up thinking about it.  A car!  But she slept there, she went to so many "firsts" in that car...I dont' think I can ever look at an Altima without sadness again.

And forget it...I'm never moving out of my crowded-no storage-bad layout townhouse!

AND now I have to break out the camcorder more...I have like 5 little videos and that is all and my memory sucks!

Crying at work...sad...I need to go home and hug my baby while she is still a baby now...

HappyToBe2012

Abby won't remember her first dog. Waldo was so excited for her arrival and so protective of her once we brought her home. He never was very far from her and always on guard. Sadly, he passed away in June. She also won't remember the house we brought her home from the hospital to. We moved when she was 3 months and again when she was 6 months. There are also a couple people she never had the chance to meet, like DH's dad who passed away several years ago. She'll only know Poppop through stories from grandma and daddy.

LoveBeingMama

Ok, tears...

But I can give some hope to you ladies that are moving. We moved out of our small condo in September and just moved into our house about two weeks ago. I was devastated that we were leaving the home we brought both of our babies home to. They would never remember that home. My older son would never remember the nursery, or the hallway he ran up and down, constantly pi**ing off my neighbors. I even frantically tore down the animal decals in the nursery and saved them about 5 minutes before the closing. I was so sad that my older son would cry to go back home to his old house.

But you know what? Now that we are here, it is wonderful. The boys love it. They have space, my little one finally has a crib and a bedroom, and this feels like home. Yeah, we left the place where the babies came home, but this is where they will come home after their first days of school, where they will have their first sleepovers, and where I will critically judge their first girlfriends. I took lots of pictures of the old condo, and I will show them to the boys when they are older. I am looking forward to many, many new memories here. 

It will be ok!