Why I don't stray to the other boards

MrMrsandBaby

I have really tried to get into the Parenting board...but for some reason, every flipping post I click on has something about gay v. straight and serious Christianity bashing (or at least it feels like it).

Really people?  And I thought we were beating a dead horse with all the NL drama, this puts us to shame in that category.

I think I will just stay here where I'm known and (I think) liked.  I don't want to have to be hazed to gain acceptance on a board with a bunch of self-righteous bishes. (No offense to any of the 212 who have made it "in")

lancyjo

I know you, and I like you.

I tried to give my opinion on the post that (I think?) you're reading. Apparently I sounded all sorts of crazy because they didn't get my point. (this lovely cold-medicine induced haze could be the culprit there. Darn hubs for having me take it. I just started getting this thing yesterday... I should have just toughed it out.)

Sometimes I feel like I need to keep my mouth shut about being a Christian and my beliefs over there because it's sure to get me judged and scrutinized.

laura.noel

Well now I'm curious.......and I only have 3 minutes of lunch left. Shoot! I'll have to check it out at the end of the day.

I generally find, with the exception of the occasional UO or FFFC ridiculousness, that we are more reasonable than a lot of other boards. 

 

MrMrsandBaby

lancyjo:

I know you, and I like you.

I tried to give my opinion on the post that (I think?) you're reading. Apparently I sounded all sorts of crazy because they didn't get my point. (this lovely cold-medicine induced haze could be the culprit there. Darn hubs for having me take it. I just started getting this thing yesterday... I should have just toughed it out.)

Sometimes I feel like I need to keep my mouth shut about being a Christian and my beliefs over there because it's sure to get me judged and scrutinized.

Yup, me too!  I try over there, I really do...but I don't know the secret password or something.

Jen0204

I think Spooko got where you were coming from.  And before "meeting" you and other people on TB with similar views I likely would have agreed with them.  Now, I look at it from a different perspective.  Do I think that you're judging homosexuals because you don't agree with their lifestyle?  Yes.  But aren't the women on that board judging you for your beliefs?  Of course!  We all judge each other every day for big things and little things.  I don't think that's necessarily an issue, I think it becomes an issue when we take it a step further and try to impose our views on other people.  Of course the world would be a nicer place if we didn't all judge each other but that's just never going to happen.

Like you said, you went from thinking it was completely wrong and shouldn't be allowed to not agreeing with it, but thinking that you and your religion have no place dictating what others should and shouldn't do.  I don't agree with your perspective on homosexuality, but I completely respect your right to freedom of religion and to believe or not believe what your religion tells you. 

MrMrsandBaby

So I just caught up with the thread and I can't see the point in nit-picking like that!  Damn girl! Everyone seems to be on the same page but still some have to berate others - even when they believe the same thing.

It is just such a strange dynamic, I will most likely stop even lurking there (I'm sure that would make them happy anyway!) just because it gets me angry too often.

Lancy, FWIW, I think you explained yourself pretty well and for Spooko to jump on your words like that was a bit overkill in my book.

lancyjo

Jen0204:

I think Spooko got where you were coming from.  And before "meeting" you and other people on TB with similar views I likely would have agreed with them.  Now, I look at it from a different perspective.  Do I think that you're judging homosexuals because you don't agree with their lifestyle?  Yes.  But aren't the women on that board judging you for your beliefs?  Of course!  We all judge each other every day for big things and little things.  I don't think that's necessarily an issue, I think it becomes an issue when we take it a step further and try to impose our views on other people.  Of course the world would be a nicer place if we didn't all judge each other but that's just never going to happen.

Like you said, you went from thinking it was completely wrong and shouldn't be allowed to not agreeing with it, but thinking that you and your religion have no place dictating what others should and shouldn't do.  I don't agree with your perspective on homosexuality, but I completely respect your right to freedom of religion and to believe or not believe what your religion tells you. 

I guess I just hate the sound of "you're judging them"... because I don't want to. I just disagree with them, and in my head disagreeing=/=judging.

I'm glad you understood where I was coming from though. (the bolded part)

lancyjo

MrMrsandBaby:

So I just caught up with the thread and I can't see the point in nit-picking like that!  Damn girl! Everyone seems to be on the same page but still some have to berate others - even when they believe the same thing.

It is just such a strange dynamic, I will most likely stop even lurking there (I'm sure that would make them happy anyway!) just because it gets me angry too often.

Lancy, FWIW, I think you explained yourself pretty well and for Spooko to jump on your words like that was a bit overkill in my book.

Thank you.

Yes, sometimes they're a bit crazy over stupid semantics.

Jen0204

lancyjo:

I guess I just hate the sound of "you're judging them"... because I don't want to. I just disagree with them, and in my head disagreeing=/=judging.

I'm glad you understood where I was coming from though. (the bolded part)

And that's awesome!  It's so infrequent to see people - on both sides of issues - who are even willing to listen to what the other side has to say, much less change their opinion on things.  I really respect you for that.

Jen0204

I also think that our board is more diverse then most.  I really like that we can disagree on things and even if things get heated we're usually pretty respectful about how we disagree.  That board seems to have a lot of people who all tend to agree on most things and are pretty liberal.

kittyh8r

Lancy! I loved what you had to say. I can completely identify with you on the subject. 

lancyjo

Jen0204:

lancyjo:

I guess I just hate the sound of "you're judging them"... because I don't want to. I just disagree with them, and in my head disagreeing=/=judging.

I'm glad you understood where I was coming from though. (the bolded part)

And that's awesome!  It's so infrequent to see people - on both sides of issues - who are even willing to listen to what the other side has to say, much less change their opinion on things.  I really respect you for that.

Thank you.

I also agree with your next post. We have a wonderfully diverse group here, and you all have opened my eyes to so much. I love that we can have informative discussions without going completely BSC on each other. (minus the occasional crazy thread... which keeps it fun!)

lancyjo

EmmaBoBemma:

Lancy! I loved what you had to say. I can completely identify with you on the subject. 

I'm glad you could comprehend it (and identify with me!). They make me nervous over there, and I feel like I'm talking circles.

I did not want to come across as a judgemental a-hole.

ALane1128

Lancy - I completely agree with what you said on that board. That group really jumps all over people for no reason. When I started reading that thread I wanted to respond soooo bad, but I'm horrible with words and I knew that someone would attack me. That's actually a main reason I don't debate/participate much on here or any other board...I'm horrible with wording. It makes sense in my head and then as soon as I type it out, I'm like "omg no one is going get what I'm trying to say!" and then begins deleting my post lol 

lancyjo

ALane1128:

Lancy - I completely agree with what you said on that board. That group really jumps all over people for no reason. When I started reading that thread I wanted to respond soooo bad, but I'm horrible with words and I knew that someone would attack me. That's actually a main reason I don't debate/participate much on here or any other board...I'm horrible with wording. It makes sense in my head and then as soon as I type it out, I'm like "omg no one is going get what I'm trying to say!" and then begins deleting my post lol 

I like your posts!

jmccall79

I'm not going to go and look...they scare me!  But, that's one reason I don't typically 'debate' religuous or political issues.  I have the right to believe/like what I want.  I don't need someone shoving their opinions down my throat...as I'm not going to shove mine down yours.  I think discussions are ok...but, especially in this forum, they don't just stay discussions.  They become full on debates, name calling, mud slinging!

btartaroind

lancyjo:

ALane1128:

Lancy - I completely agree with what you said on that board. That group really jumps all over people for no reason. When I started reading that thread I wanted to respond soooo bad, but I'm horrible with words and I knew that someone would attack me. That's actually a main reason I don't debate/participate much on here or any other board...I'm horrible with wording. It makes sense in my head and then as soon as I type it out, I'm like "omg no one is going get what I'm trying to say!" and then begins deleting my post lol 

I like your posts!

ALane I am the same as you!!

Lancy... thanks for that post on parenting, I can relate... ((hugs))

lancyjo

btartaroind:

lancyjo:

ALane1128:

Lancy - I completely agree with what you said on that board. That group really jumps all over people for no reason. When I started reading that thread I wanted to respond soooo bad, but I'm horrible with words and I knew that someone would attack me. That's actually a main reason I don't debate/participate much on here or any other board...I'm horrible with wording. It makes sense in my head and then as soon as I type it out, I'm like "omg no one is going get what I'm trying to say!" and then begins deleting my post lol 

I like your posts!

ALane I am the same as you!!

Lancy... thanks for that post on parenting, I can relate... ((hugs))

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. Sometimes I feel like the only one!

MrMrsandBaby

lancyjo:

btartaroind:

lancyjo:

ALane1128:

Lancy - I completely agree with what you said on that board. That group really jumps all over people for no reason. When I started reading that thread I wanted to respond soooo bad, but I'm horrible with words and I knew that someone would attack me. That's actually a main reason I don't debate/participate much on here or any other board...I'm horrible with wording. It makes sense in my head and then as soon as I type it out, I'm like "omg no one is going get what I'm trying to say!" and then begins deleting my post lol 

I like your posts!

ALane I am the same as you!!

Lancy... thanks for that post on parenting, I can relate... ((hugs))

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. Sometimes I feel like the only one!

Not even close..We are just not as brave as you!  Those parenting people scare the sh*t out of me!

btartaroind

Lancy, I just posted on it although I'm sure the thread is dead at this point. I think you should read it though, I think it may sort out a little of the conflict you mentioned you have

lancyjo

btartaroind:

Lancy, I just posted on it although I'm sure the thread is dead at this point. I think you should read it though, I think it may sort out a little of the conflict you mentioned you have

That was perfect. SO much more eloquent and informative than I would have been. Thank you!!! ETA: and yes, it does sort out some of it. You made it make so much sense!

MrMrsandBaby, I agree. They're scary. I have no idea what I was thinking diving into that.

btartaroind

lancyjo:

btartaroind:

Lancy, I just posted on it although I'm sure the thread is dead at this point. I think you should read it though, I think it may sort out a little of the conflict you mentioned you have

That was perfect. SO much more eloquent and informative than I would have been. Thank you!!! ETA: and yes, it does sort out some of it. You made it make so much sense!

MrMrsandBaby, I agree. They're scary. I have no idea what I was thinking diving into that.

I'm in the middle of a study on Genesis right now...

lancyjo

btartaroind:

lancyjo:

btartaroind:

Lancy, I just posted on it although I'm sure the thread is dead at this point. I think you should read it though, I think it may sort out a little of the conflict you mentioned you have

That was perfect. SO much more eloquent and informative than I would have been. Thank you!!! ETA: and yes, it does sort out some of it. You made it make so much sense!

MrMrsandBaby, I agree. They're scary. I have no idea what I was thinking diving into that.

I'm in the middle of a study on Genesis right now...

I need to get my head out of Revelation apparently.

Amberrrr

Really? Everytime I lurk I find the most hilarious things. I just got back from lurking on today's drama over there. That one married bish that's sexting and dreaming of her coworker.
ETA I think it's MUD..
At least I'm Hoping it is...

Mistifier

Btartaroind, I think you made a great point! And it definitely helps when you do a study. I am taking a course at my church right now that connects the N and O T and looks into historical elements that explain why the Bible can seem contradictory at times and why there are parts that aren't "followed". I would probably jump in if my computer was working and I didn't have to bump from the tablet.