Scary Stories

akraxner

Lately I feel like people are coming out of no where telling me their horror stories of miscarriages, detached placentas, and other horrific things about losing their baby.  I told my sister-in-law (who works in OB as a CNA) that my baby is the size of a mango today.  She stated that she saw a mango today.  I asked her if she was talking about the fruit and she shook her head no.  She said the woman was 19 weeks pregnant and went into labor.  I asked if that kind of stuff is common and she said "it happens all the time.  I literally see it every day."  Ok so I know she was being honest, which I appreciate.  But I really wish she had never said anything in the first place.  I am a natural worry wart and this crap does not help.  Anyone else getting this from people?  I feel horrible for them having bad experiences, but for real?  You're telling me about this now for what?  To ensure I won't sleep through the night?  :-/

OhSewCrafty

I know that preterm birth isn't exactly rare, but she must work at a seriously busy OB practice or a very large hospital to see a woman give birth to a micro preemie (or younger) every single day. But, I digress.

Yes, it does happen, but why tell you something like that so frankly?! If she's in that "industry" of course she is going to see a concentration of it. If you ask an air traffic controller if they see a lot of plane crashes or as a firefighter if they see a lot of fires - of course they do. Try not to worry about it, which is easier said than done, but its all you can do.

tondraluv

Yea I've been getting this too and my anxiety is getting worse.

AMJ6511

I used to work in a hospital pharmacy and make IVs for teeny tiny preemies that weighed as little as 400 grams. I remember seeing those little babies in the NICU. It is so scary. I hate thinking about it! 

DarlingNIkki1028

About a month ago, I went and got my hair done and my hairstylist, who just had her first baby a few months ago, told me all these stories about her three friends who had late losses recently.  She was telling me because she had just gone through a ton of stress worrying the same things were wrong with her pregnancy, and she definitely wasn't trying to scare me.  I was fine with talking about it since I read so much online, plus all three friends have JUST had babies, but then I went home thinking about it and it all stuck in my brain and scared the crap out of me for days and days. 

old_time_girl

My own mother likes to bring up her friend that was pregnant at the same time she was pregnant with me, who lost her baby at 8 months along from tripping in the play ground with her toddler.
Thanks mom.

kelsea1031

My MIL is a labor and delivery nurse and I swear she gets off on telling all the sad stories over and over again. Two of my SILs have had late (32+ weeks) losses in the last year and that still hasn't deterred MIL from over-sharing. It's incredibly nerve-wracking. It's easier said than done but just try to tune them out and focus on your healthy pregnancy as much as you can!