If twins were your 3rd, 4th pregnancy, come in.

BananaPancake

I am just curious about the amount of perceived work as far as twins go with 1st time moms vs moms with large families? Can anyone offer some input? I feel like my first baby was by far my hardest, as we were having to give up that "us time"/"me time" in addition to learning how much work babies are. My second was difficult in that any extra time our first allowed us to have was seriously thrown by a second baby with different needs. The third seemed to just "be," and I'm wondering how much of that is because I had already surrendered most of "me" to all of the work that they demand. I don't know that there are a lot of moms on this board who welcomed twins after 3 kids, but if your multiples pregnancy was a 3rd or later pregnancy, how do you think the adjustment went vs welcoming your first and second? I don't know if I'm able to express exactly what I'm trying to get across, but I'm just wondering what the perceptions are with welcoming two babies first vs welcoming two babies with a larger family already in place. 

MangomamaFL

I had twins with my 4th pregnancy. My three sons were able to entertain each other. Also my husband went back to work when the twins were almost three months old. My husband helped out a good amount following the birth of the twins. It didn't seem to be too much more work going from three kids to five. Though I could only take one of the twins out with me when I went food shopping. (The other twin stayed home with my husband and one or two or three of my older sons.)

When my twins were toddlers it was great that my older sons were able to catch the twins when they run off in two different directions.

CatS26

I am curious about this too, as I am going from 4 to 6. I have always heard any after 4 is not much more work, but this was coming from moms who added their babies one at a time lol...

TaterTwins

I went from 5 to 7.  The first year was a blur, but it wasn't bad.  We had other things to make it more complicated than just adding an extra baby- my husband deployed when they were 3 months and then one was diagnosed with cancer a month later- so that all contributed.  But as far as feeling outnumbered, I was already there LOL

flgator

This is my 3rd pregnancy, but I haven't had the twins yet.  Interesting question - enjoyed reading the responses. 

117ict10

The twins are my third pregnancy and I'm really concerned about how we'll transition but it is mostly because we'll be moving out in a couple of months to have our two bedroom home expanded to a five bedroom home. I'm terrified the house won't be done in time or some other wrench gets thrown in the already delicate schedule of events of things leading up to the addition of our twins. 

Beyond the changes to our environment, I'm not too concerned about the transition of the twins into our family beyond the general concerns that the pregnancy goes well. Our two older sons are very close and are very excited about the babies so I think it will help that they have each other to entertain themselves - they've even picked names for the babies: Helicopter and Lawnmower.

Mrs_MBed

Our boys were our third pregnancy and it was terrifying. I knew how much work one baby was and freaked over having two at once. DD2 was a preemie with a month long NICU stay, so I was worried about having to go through that again. Like a PP said, I think that since I knew how to take care of a newborn it was easier than I expected. DH took care of the girls for the first two months and that was the biggest help. Now that my boys are almost 10 months old, it is getting easier and I finally feel confident. Having twins isn't twice the work for us its four times. I will say that I think that since we don't have any help, we've becoming a stronger family unit, in a way that wouldn't have occurred if we didn't have twins. I hope that makes sense, the boys have a cold and haven't been sleeping well.