divorced moms

megann831

who did you talk to and when?  DH and I just don't like each other and it seems to be getting worse and worse.  We are still together because we're just too lazy to leave and I think we're both uncomfortable with telling others our issues, I know I am.  I want to leave, but I also don't want to deal with being a single parent, we'd lose money on our house, and I know divorce is expensive and we just don't have alot of extra money, plus I really don't want to share my kids.

We go through alot of ups and downs, we both say we want out, and the next morning we're over it.  I really don't have any close friends, so it would be my mom or sister I'd tell I want to leave, but I don't want anyone to know how bad things are or tell them things about DH that would make them not like him, and then we get over it and stay together.  What did you do? 

mamastich

How is keeping a fake cascade better than dealing with what's going on? How is that a healthy environment for your children? You decide what's important and then you do that.

EASwimmer

My Ex cheated. He wanted a quick divorce. I called a lawyer. We started talking out he logistics before we went to the laywer. He represented himself and paid for my lawyer. We had a 2,500 retainer fee. After everything he got back 1,200 of it. So the divorce was 1,300. Not bad actually. He told me in Feb he didn't love me. Final court date was end of aug. went fast.

christina39

IMO, neither of you are ready to break up.  In my situation, it was the lying, STBXH lied one too many times and that was it..My mind was made up and there was no going back..You have to have that moment where you just say "That's it!" and you can't take any more..Until you reach that point, it is impossible to leave/break up..

And yes, divorce is expensive and yes you have to share your children, but in the end, it is all worth it..

GL!